20-Something Facts From My 20-Somethings


As men get older they are usually asked to perform a thought experiment: If you could write a letter that would travel back in time to your younger self, what would that letter say? The thought experiment presupposes that your older, wiser self has it it figured out. In my case, my younger self would scream at me for the nonsense I do; and this year I've been channeling the … [Read more...]

How to Survive a Street Fight: Part 1

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I've been in over 100 street fights. I've knocked people out, split eyes open, and been rendered unconscious after being struck with brass knuckles. I've had my eye swollen shut multiple times. I've had my nose broken in boxing and MMA matches and not flinched. ("You don't win once in a while; you don't do things right once in a while; you do them right all of the time. … [Read more...]

How to Fix Yourself by Answering One Question

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I'm known for my mental toughness. At the gym no one really likes me because I look like a psychopath. During a heavy set I will see stars and I have no fear of dying in the gym. I have endured some truly horrible life experiences and not merely survived them: I becomes a stronger, more complex person. But that's only one side of me. I am also contemptibly weak. It's true. … [Read more...]

How to Keep Your New Years Resolutions By Using Your Reptilian Brain

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"How do I keep my New Years Resolutions," you are probably wondering. If I said it's not your fault that you can't keep your News Years Resolutions, would you think I was going soft? "Of course it's your fault if you fail," you might exclaim. "People who can't keep their New Years Resolutions are weak. They don't have any will power!" Maybe so, maybe not. What if you've been … [Read more...]

Quotes About Being a Man from Aristotle


When Philip of Macedon had to send his son Alexander to study philosophy, only one name came to mind. Undoubtedly the greatest philosopher in the Western tradition, Aristotle's work can truly be called timeless. Aristotle's work is a bit dense for the modern American reader. It's challenging to get guys to read a block of 250 words unless you put it into list form. One of … [Read more...]

Sylvester Stallone, TRT, and a Canary in a Coal Mine

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Modeling good (and bad) behavior. When we see someone successful, we all know what to do. You figure out the path he took to achieve his success. You use him as a model and you reverse engineer what he did. The main idea is that you aren't special. If someone else did something, you can do it, too, and chances are that you don't need to blaze some brand new trail. Just … [Read more...]

One Year of Sobriety


Although I never had a drinking problem, last November I decided to give up alcohol for a year. (I was tired of being normal.) I went several months without a single drink, and never drank more than 3 beers over a "night out" period. I didn't so much as catch a buzz for over 12 months. Here are my observations. 1. Most people who drink have a drinking problem. When I … [Read more...]

How to Find Legit Friends: The Ten Year Test


Dear Danger & Play: Most guys my age are really lame. You have written somewhat abstractly about the important of "building your crew," but never gave any practical tips on how to do so. What is your advice? Someone could write a treatise about friendship, and I encourage you to read the Nicomachean Ethics. I've distilled all of the writing down to one heuristic. Like all … [Read more...]

When in Doubt, Return to Fundamentals

Gracie in Action

Anyone who has ever gotten decent as a sport is usually a quick student of game. This is because athletes know how to approach a new discipline. Athletes also know how to troubleshoot. I'll give you an example by discussing the most effective martial art system ever devised - Gracie Jiu Jitsu (what guys now call Brazilian Jiu Jitsu or BJJ). To use BJJ effectively in a … [Read more...]

Ask D&P Question 1: Do You Fake Who You Are?

We buy things we dont need

A reader writes in, "One of the hardest things about taking the red pill is that I feel like I can't be myself  at work and around friends and family. I have to bite my lip and keep quiet. How do you handle it?" This is a fairly common concern. The answer has two components - psychological and practical. You are afraid of being yourself because you fear rejection. You are … [Read more...]