Kill Mr. Maybe

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They say the most important decision a man makes in his life is when he stares across the aisle and says, “I do.” This is untrue. The most important commitment a man makes is when he says, “I will.” Men lack the self-respect and self-belief to make a commitment, the most important commitment a man can make – a commitment to himself. Go talk to some men. Count how many … [Read more...]

A Tale of Two Men

a tale of two men

Dave was an star football player in high school and voted best-dressed student. He was part of the cool crowd. That's because, more than anything, Dave wanted to be cool. His self-image rested entirely on what others thought of him. He followed all of the latest fashion trends and always had a hefty car payment, as he couldn't let anyone see him step outside of a … [Read more...]

How to Survive Hell

Never give up

"If you're going through hell, keep going." - Winston Churchill It's a sunburn that won't heal. Your skin feels like it's on fire. Your whole body itches. It hurts to move. You wake up. You can't get out of bed. Your eye lids are swollen. You have to pry them open with your fingers as some sort of ooze that has glued them shut. Keep moving. You take six steps … [Read more...]

The Hard Hitter’s Club

hard hitters

Six months have passed since Victor issued the call, "Let's Kick Some Butt in 2014." Have you been smashing your goals like a savage hell bent on the destruction of his previous limitations? Or have you been following the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Losers? I set some goals for Danger & Play at the beginning of the year. Unlike the dorks and do-nothings, I don't … [Read more...]

How I Made the D&P Podcast More Popular than Ask Altucher


UPDATE: On August 10, 2014, the Danger & Play Podcast hit 115 ratings and 62 reviews. As of August 1, 20014, the DNP Podcast on iTunes is at 74 ratings and 44 reviews. Ask Altucher is at 73 ratings with 34 reviews. James Altucher's writings have appeared in every major (and minor) media publication in the United States. He has written 11 books. His audience is at least … [Read more...]

Frame Control: How to Turn Your Problems into a Source of Power


State - or mood - is how a person feels when facing an obstacle. There are exercises a person can do to change his state. My experience shows that more cerebral and introverted types do not respond as well to "state change" therapy. By more cerebral I don't mean smarter. I mean that we tend to live inside of our heads. Since we introverts live in our heads, we don't … [Read more...]

What is Your Why?

Dave Tate

Those who have a 'why' to live, can bear with almost any 'how'.” - Nietzsche. This is a must-watch video from Dave Tate, a man who had multiple learning disabilities and was told by society that he was nothing. He now runs Elite FTS, the premier place to buy strength and conditioning equipment. Indeed, he is one of the men who has influenced me the most. A lot of you … [Read more...]

The Twin Pillars of Alpha

Alpha male

After you've spent a few decades on this earth and had some high highs and low lows, you eventually understand that there are certain indisputable truths about the human condition. You see the same patterns repeat themselves over and over again. The patterns appear everywhere, even in unrelated contents. There are two laws that appear so frequently that you may as … [Read more...]

How to be at the Right Place at the Right Time

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Arturo Sandoval is one of the world's greatest musicians. People fly across the world to watch him perform, and playing with him is considered a highlight of any musician's career. When Sandoval was in town to perform, I was fortunate enough to attend his concert.  While the show itself is a haze, something happened that I'll never forget. Sandoval stepped off the stage … [Read more...]

Become Obsessed to the Point of Madness


Do you want to know the secret to giving up all of your vices? Do you know why you have a bunch of bad habits in the first place? I will tell you why, and my answer isn't the same one self-help gurus will give. There is a sad secret that you won't admit to yourself. You have vices because you are aimless. Your life has no purpose. You are simply existing. You are … [Read more...]