Success is relative, though I’ve reached my definition. A few changes happened internally, and a recent article by Wall Street Playboys is a must-read. This is going to be more of a reply to some of his points.
1) You Will No Longer Have an Interest in “Opinions”: A common criticism here is we delete comments from people we don’t like and mark them as spam so they never return.
Truth. I don’t delete comments because people disagree. I delete comments and block people who are stupid. Disagreement is great if you’re smart, because reality is subjective and we all have our own biases.
- Some very smart people disagreed The Quantum Physics of Mindset. No intelligent comments were deleted.
I stopped arguing with people. At some point a person’s life is his argument. My life stands on its own. People can believe me or not, accept my message or not. I have no interest in explaining myself.
I still enjoy talking to people about their ideas of the world and read new books for new ideas, but really have no interest in accepting anyone else’s worldview or having them impose their ideas with me.
I even stopped doing business with some friends because they wanted to argue with me about online marketing. I’m among the 10 best in the world and yet people would expect me to explain every move I’d make to their satisfaction. Nope.
3) Nothing to Talk About: Unless you’re out with friends to meet other new people, you’re not going to have much to say in one on one conversations.
I’m too busy making moves to talk about bullshit, and I expect those who talk to me to similarly be busy.
Most people want to share their frustrations with the world with you. That’s all a “conversation” is.
If you eliminate gossip, what is there to talk about?
What’s left when you stop letting people talk about their childhood or how their parents failed them decades ago?
I have a few people in my life who keep pushing their limits and thus offer legitimate conversation.
4) No Stress: Assuming you’ve learned the art of stoicism, you’re not going to have any stress in your life at all.
I know what it’s like to wonder how I’ll pay my bills. It’s a helpless feeling leading to stress and worry.
The lack of money is a loud background noise. Find a way to make more money. No job is beneath you. I have done everything from dig through trash cans for spare change (really, I grew up poor) to represent rich people who were total pieces of trash.
When you don’t have to stress about the day-to-day stuff, your life takes off because you have more energy and focus for the art of living.
5) Irrational Buying Behavior: You won’t think about *planning* for purchases anymore, you’ll simply look at items you want… buy them…
True. Again success is relative. I can afford to buy whatever I want, but I don’t want a yacht.
It makes it hard to buy me a gift. I don’t save up. If I want something I buy it.
6) Skyrocketing Time Value: The value of your time will increase at an exponential rate, you’ll become more protective of your free time on a weekly basis.
Can confirm. I get furious at people who waste my time, especially when they ask me cheap-ass questions about whether to buy a $10 domain or $100 hosting plan for a website.
10) Distain for Authority: So long as you’re not breaking the actual law (sent to jail) you’re not going to have a shred of tolerance for anyone who attempts to act as an authority figure over you. In short? You’re no longer employable.
I get offered investors almost every day, but that means I’d have a boss and people breathing down my neck about profits and losses.
I also don’t partner with people in business who want to argue (see above). It’s my way or the highway.
12) No Impact from Rejections: This is a broad topic but can involve trying to sell a product to dating. When you know that you’re already set, it becomes impossible for anyone to rattle you with a “no”.
Once you’re successful, your self-image changes. I can’t be rejected. If someone says no, it’s not a rejection.
That won’t make sense until you’re there.
13) Decrease in Mental Circles: When you’re doing everything to climb up, your brain is “on” constantly. You’re trapped in your head for the most part trying to figure out the next move. When you’re done, it is *extremely* easy to turn this function on and off.
People ask me if I ever sleep because I’m so productive. I sleep 9-10 hours a day. When I’m on, it’s hardcore. But I fall asleep easily at night and can turn it off in a second.
15) Everyone Knows Each Other: The triangle gets smaller and smaller on the way up.
I cracked up the other day when Scott Adams recommended a book. I looked at the blurbs and one of my earliest influences in this persuasion game had also endorsed the book.
Success is a very small world and everyone knows everyone. If you’re a sleaze, it will get around. Fast.
That’s why you must always find a way to bring value to people. Word gets around.
Ethical and competent people are in short supply. If you work hard, develop skills, and are honest…You will be successful if not today than perhaps in a decade or two.
(No one said success happens overnight. It took me 15 years to get here.)
If you want to learn more about how to become successful, read my book.