When you run an operation like mine, you get to meet people from around the world. It’s a gift. I hear from people who say I changed their lives. Every day, actually, and about 10% of my time is spent thanking people for sharing their gratitude to me.
Others hate me, and some say I changed their lives and they decide to start disliking me. And that’s all totally cool.
Your mindset is your focus, and your focus is a choice.
Here’s a case study from this morning.
I posted a drama article, which some said made them angry at me. It’s Saturday morning when traffic is low, so it was more of a fun article. I knew some wouldn’t like it. (I usually take down the drama articles after a few days unless they go viral/hit big in SEO.)
You know what else I did? A couple of weeks ago I rented out a conference room to give a seminar, I filmed it, and had the seminar professionally edited. All in, it cost me around $5,000.
The same people who complain the most thank you the least.
Consider that mindset for a minute. You have a choice to make in the moment.
- “I don’t like this article at all. I am mad at Mike for writing it.”
- “I don’t like this article at all. I’m going to watch the free seminar and be grateful for that.”
Both of those are true realities. You can hate a current article. You can focus on why you hate it. Or you can change your focus. Look at and think about something else.
How you feel in the moment is your choice.
I am not ever mad about critical comments or even angry ones. Those are a gift, as they are a sign of relevancy.
I could focus on my ego being attacked by others.
- “That comment made me angry. I am going to rage!”
- “That comment made me angry. It’s awesome that complete strangers around the world read my writing. I do this from a laptop. How is life even real?”
Both of those realities are true.
The next time you’re angry, change your focus.
I see and hear things that make me angry. Sometimes people I care about make me angry.
I can continue focusing on what’s making me angry.
I can change my posture to eliminate feelings of anger within 5 seconds.
Remember, as you learned in the free seminar I gave out, that anger is a forward-moving emotion.
- Watch: How to Let Go of Anger
If you want to be less angry, physically move your body in the opposite direction.
It’s not possible to be angry while performing the abundance posture pose, as your body begins feeling overwhelmed with opportunity and gratitude.
This non-verbal communication signals to your body that you are no longer angry.