Once you learn that people project their own deepest fears and insecurities upon you, your happiness increases. People who rage at you are usually not mad at you for what you did. They are outraged that your behavior revealed something about themselves. This concept is known as the magic mirror.
I performed an experiment with the magic mirror. Read: Why I Don’t Play Defense or Explain Myself.
A reader and all around fun guy performed his own version of the experiment, proving yet again that the magic mirror is not some made-up concept.
Notice that nothing was said about the man in this picture. Uncle Ruckus didn’t insult him or even throw any shade on him. One might say Uncle Ruckus did the opposite. The man from Black Man 2016 posted those pictures online and was proud of them. Ruckus shared those pictures.
What do you suppose happened?
You guessed it. Uncle Ruckus was called mad, homophobic, and hateful.
Lmao chill https://t.co/55oWwJ4pfg
— Dr G. Fring (@sixtiesbreed) April 13, 2016
Stop hating and let people live ? https://t.co/1DoEcCdGfT
— Alia Lovich (@AliaLovich) April 13, 2016
yet, you're a "straight" male posting pictures of gay dude. congratulations. https://t.co/VY1jZj3uXW
— daddy greg (@n9viv) April 13, 2016
You're a straight man worried about what a few black KINGS expressing themselves, hurt. https://t.co/snqIb0TVG3
— Fanta-sia. (@surfbortx) April 13, 2016
Shut yo dumbass up. https://t.co/w8gSkQWcow
— Waridi Nyt'a (@aROSEthatGREW) April 13, 2016
There were many more outraged responses, though you get the idea. (You can read more here.)
Sure, sometimes people are angry at you because you’ve harmed them, though that’s usually not the case.
People are mad at me for being an “alpha male,” but anyone who has read me knows I don’t consider myself an alpha male. I even wrote an article entitled, Why I’m Not an Alpha Male.
People get angry at me for reflecting something about themselves back at them. They see in me a calm, confident man. This triggers them, as they are neither calm nor confident.
Isn’t it interesting how people call me angry, even though anyone who has met me or listened to a podcast or watched my YouTube will tell you I’m an introverted man. They are angry.
A lot of you wonder how I deal when the sheer volume of hate. I have people who stalk every move I make and do nothing but bad-mouth me.
I pity my many haters and stalkers. They do not despise me for anything I do. They despise me for reminding them of what utter failures their own lives are.
Be aware of your own reflection. When is the last time you were angry? Instead of directing that rage outward, ask yourself: Did a situation or person reveal your own deepest fears and vulnerabilities?
Show me an angry person, and I’ll show you someone afraid to work on himself.
Feel those emotions. Embrace them. Instead of directing the anger outward, reflect inward.
Then you will fully understand the power of the magic mirror.