Although it sounds home spun, these two rules of human nature would have saved me thousands of hours and even more thousands of dollars. If you learn and apply these rules to your life, you’ll live a more rewarding life surrounded by people who matter. Fail to heed these rules and prepare for a life of drama.
Rule 1. People are who they are.
Rule 2. People will do what they do.
Add in for the rest of their lives.
Your family won’t change. If your parents are negative and toxic, they will always be negative and toxic.
The guy you meet today is going to be the same guy or girl in twenty years. The only difference will be wrinkles, divorces, a bankruptcy or two, and maybe some children.
The beautiful girl you “fell in love with,” if basic today, is going to be old and basic in a few years.
The rules of being human are not a moral judgment.
Often we let people stick around in our lives longer than they should because “they aren’t bad people,” or they “mean well.”
Your life will be fundamentally better when you stop turing everything into a morality play.
I stopped questioning whether some behavior came from a “bad place” or a “good place.” I look only at outcomes.
My life satisfaction improved by at least 25% when motives became irrelevant.
These rules are important to remember because we are constantly changing and growing.
If you’re committed to excellence, you’re going to move on from a lot of people in your life. They’ll fight hard to keep you in their lives. They’ll beg, plead, and even create drama. They’ll email asking for advice.
But they won’t change, and you’re wasting your time expecting them to.
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