A heartwarming story has taken the Internet by storm, thrusting a woman into viral fame. The story is bad on its face, although it gets worse upon inspection.
Little boy treats his mom to a ‘dinner date’ once a month with allowance money
(KMSP) – Once a month, chivalrous Lyle Drummonds, 6, takes his mom out on a dinner date with his allowance money.
On Jan. 1, Lyle’s mother described the adorable dates on a Facebook post that went viral. “He opens doors for me, pulls out my chair, talks about his day, and asks me how mine was, pays the bill with money he earned by doing chores, and even tips the waiter/waitress,” Nikkole Paulun, of Michigan, said.
I know, that’s cute and I’m being a buzzkill by saying she’s teaching her son to be taken advantage of by women.
But I always look behind the story for the real story.
Nikkole Paulun’s conduct signaled obvious mental issues, so of course I dug deeper into the story.
Ms. Paulun is taking her male abandonment problems (“daddy issues”) out on her son. She’s also a deadbeat mom.
Nikkole Paulun is a deadbeat mom who abandoned her son for 5 years while she partied (and got pregnant again).
Before creating a viral story about her little white knight, Nikkole Paulun posted about her past as a party skank.
Paulun had her son when she was 16. The dad is nowhere to be found, which of course was wrong of him. Deadbeat dads are a disgrace, as are deadbeat moms.
Yet you won’t read about deadbeat moms in the media. Women, no matter how terrible, as given a pass. A woman who is barely a marginal mom is even heralded as a hero. That’s exactly what happened in Paulun’s case.
Why is Paulun a hero for stealing her son’s milk money? Why wasn’t she involved in her son’s life until recently?
Rather than take care of her little boy, Paulun partied, smoked, got wasted, passed out, slept around, and got pregnant by another deadbeat dad. Her pre-fame Facebook post reads:
I went, I drank, and I loved it. It felt good to feel what I thought was “normal.” It felt good to be social and get out of the house. By 18/19 I was going out every weekend and even took a week trip to Florida for spring break. My time with friends and alcohol became greater as my time with my son became lesser. I was so focused on myself and finding out what I wanted that I neglected my son and our relationship. 20 came and I met my daughters dad. Admitting to me right away when we met, that he was an alcoholic.
Maybe she’s changed and is now a good mom, although it seems not given that she’s still posting duck-face selfies and using her son as a prop in her fame game.
No one asked about her son.
Why does Nikkole Paulun force her son to buy her dinner once a month? Her Facebook posts reads:
It’s never too early to teach your child how to properly respect others, especially women. As a woman who has been abused & treated like crap in the past, it’s extremely important to me that I teach my son how to show respect. Too many men these days have no idea how to treat women or how to take them on a nice date. It’s nice to know my son won’t be one of them.
No one is asking if Nikkole Paulun was treated exactly as she deserved to be treated.
How should alcoholic women be treated?
Should a man invest his time in a woman who drinks, smokes, and posts duck-face selfies while her own child is abandoned?
The media celebrates debased women.
My grandmother worked in factories most of her life, raised three children, and kept her entire family together. She was a hard ass and a family matriarch of sorts.
She taught her sons to respect women, yes, but to also only date women deserving of respect.
The media would never write about a woman who takes care of her family without fanfare or glory.
But a duck-faced woman who gets drunk and abandons her son for five years, then returning to motherhood by stealing his allowance money, is a hero.
The War Against Men is real.
Always look for the story behind the story.
That’s the Danger & Play way.