It is, as the kids say, the current year and thus it’s the perfect time to eliminate two words that together form one of the most toxic phrases in the human lexicon.
“I want” is similar to another poisonous phrase, “I’d like to.”
We use “I want” to lie to ourselves. By saying, “I want,” we delude ourselves into thinking we will take action to get what we want.
Have you ever heard yourself say:
- I want to get into shape.
- It sure would be nice to make more money.
- Wouldn’t it be nice if people found me more attractive.
“I want” is no different from saying, “I wish.”
Wishing will get you nowhere.
As a successful trial lawyer told me from his mansion, “If wishes were fishes, we’d be swimming in the ocean.”
Since we know it’s weak to sit around wishing for our lives to change, we use “I want instead.”
There is no “I want.”
There is only “I will.”
Petra is an ancient city in Jordan. Thousands of years ago Bedouins carved a city into stone. You do not “want” to carve magnificent structures into a mountain. You impose your will onto reality.
I don’t want to do anything.
If I want to do something, I figure out a way to make it happen.
If for whatever reason what you want is impossible, direct your focus somewhere else.
How to go from “I want” to “I will.”
The first step from going from a day dreamer to a doer is recognizing the self-sabotaging language patterns we use as part of our self-talk.
As with all mindset training, vigilance is crucial. Stop yourself every time you say, “I want.”
When you say to yourself or others, “I want,” pause and reflect in the moment.
Do you want what you say you want?
Perhaps you don’t. I’ve caught myself saying, “I want…,” and upon reflection, realizing I didn’t want that person or thing in my life.
If you desire in your heart what your mind tells you what you want, begin creating a vision of what you want.
Create a clear vision for what you want.
“Am I taking a step towards my vision or away from my vision?”
Create a worksheet outlining what you must do each day to find yourself closer to a vision. (Read more: How to Develop Ruthless Focus.)
If you want to buy a new house or new car or to lose weight, there are habits that will bring you closer to farther away from your vision.
I’ll give you an example from my own life.
My “want” is to get our message out.
I WILL get our message out.
Here’s how we did that in 2015.
“Getting the message out” an abstract vision, as you must define your terms. What is our message and what does getting it out mean?
That abstract vision becomes concrete with self-talk. I ask myself each day, “Why are you not as big as Gawker or Vice?”
I know that getting our message out requires trolling.
- Cuck Rogen brought thousands of more people to our movement.
- The Daily Beast backed down from me.
- Cuckservative was the dominant political meme of 2015.
I know we must write about current affairs.
I know that writing about current affairs in a way that exposes media lies boosts our movement, as it makes people less likely to believe the media lies about us. I exposed several media frauds in 2015.
- Ahmed/Clock Boy was a hoax.
- The media is lying about the Syrian “refugee” situation.
- Everyone is lying about Donald Trump.
I know that getting our message out requires us to make films.
- In 2015 I laid down $10,000 to fund The Red Pill.
- In 2016 I’m going to be involved with two other film products.
- One film will focus on me and perhaps two or three other men you know well.
- Another film will focus on the pushback against SJWs, which I am but one part of.
I want (see that language sneak in!) to create the Pumping Iron of our movement. Arnold creating gym culture out of thin air. He manifested his will.
I want to do the same for us.
I will produce the Pumping Iron of our movement.
All negative self-talk is eliminated.
- Before: “Creating a documentary that could go mainstream is a nightmare.”
- After: “You’ve mastered blogging, writing books, and now you have a chance to master films. Isn’t it great that you are becoming more developed as an artist?”
Change your focus:
- Before: I think about how much this will cost and how people are going to be butt hurt if they aren’t included, some anxiety sets again.
- After: Isn’t it great that this film is going to be seen by millions, taking us all to the next level?
In addition to mindset training, I am reading books on documentaries. I am deconstructing effective documentaries. What are the top 100 documentaries and what do they have in common?
What do you want to do in 2016?
Will it into existence.
There is no I want.
There is only I will.
That’s Gorilla Mindset.