Why do some people get links and others don’t? This is a long question to answer. This article may sound a little cranky, and I didn’t like writing it. It’s about 10% of people who are beyond help, and I choose to focus on the 90% of you who are fantastic.
First things first.
Links are currency.
It costs money to get clicks to your website, and if you doubt this do a sponsored story on Facebook or Twitter.
D&P readership is males aged 18-45 who read books. This is the most valuable demographic imaginable for a non-fiction audience. Links are valuable, which is why you want links.
I’m not Oprah, but a book recommendation from me sells hundreds of copies.
Book reviews by me have led to sales of:
- 500 copies of Get Serious
- 250 copies of Launch by Jeff Walker
- 500 copies of Choose Yourself
- 100 copies of SJWs Always Lie
- 50 copies of How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big
The average book sells 250 copies in its first year. A review from me can sell that many by itself.
Those reviews also sell books forever, as many people find them after Googling, “[book title] review.”
Those are direct sales. Once you factor in word out mouth recommendations by people who read my reviews, the numbers are much higher.
I’ve sold more pre-sale copies of Essays on Embracing Masculinity in a few days than most authors will ever sell.
That’s not bragging. That’s simply reality.
Be honest. You want links from me because you want money for yourself.
You want my links because you want money in your pocket, or fame, or whatever.
(And that’s cool.)
Wanting something doesn’t make you a bad person. Be honest about your motivations when asking me for something. You’re not fooling me.
Come at me honestly, though be forewarned. You’re not the first to ask for something, and men I have been generous with often betray me.
People who I have actively gone out of my way to support have back stabbed me more times than I can count.
For example, “men” I have spent hours countless helping have:
- Invited himself onto a podcast by saying, “I’ll come on with Mike,”
- Added my friends to email lists after emailing them (using my name as introduction),
- Added me to their email lists when I never opted in,
- Posted on message boards devoted to hating on me,
- Written hater articles about me,
- Linked to hater articles about me,
- Sent me rude and taunting emails.
On and on it goes.
This bullshit has been done by several “men.”
I stopped answering email for the most part after having multiple men reach out to me only to back stab me.
- Why add me to your email lists? If you are automatically adding people to your e-mail list, you are a scum bag and I don’t want to know you.
10% of people on the Internet are mentally ill or alcoholics.
I don’t understand how someone could receive so much help and guidance from me only to then look for the first opportunity to bad mouth me, use me for his own financial benefit, or “catch me slipping.”
If you are linking to sites that hate on me, why would I link to you?
If you use my name to promote yourself, why would I link to you or even want to know you?
Some men have poor social awareness, serious entitlement issues, mental illness, are alcoholics, or are simply pieces of shit.
That’s not the mystery for me to solve!
How to show you’re different?
First of all, why as you asking me for links if you haven’t reviewed Gorilla Mindset on your website?
When I want someone’s attention, I review that person’s books
Are you better than I am? Are you “above” a book review?
Book reviews are my way of getting attention from people I want to know.
Go build a big website.
It’s hard to do what I’ve done here, and yes I get a bit pissed off when people try using me for their own benefit. They have no understanding of what it takes.
Everyone understands each other. This is hard work. Our reputation is everything. If one of us associates with a scum bag or you are wronged by someone we vouched for, that blows back onto us.
If that makes me “not nice” or makes people not want to link to me or whatever, that’s cool.
Someone needs to tell you what’s up.
Most men are great.
This article is not about 90% of you.
It’s about the 10% who are always looking to take something from me – and from us, actually.
I must protect my audience.
I view the 90% of men who read D&P as friends of mine.
If I link to someone who rips them off, that’s on me.
You must show you are a man of integrity and loyal.
If I can’t trust you to treat me ethically, how could I trust you to treat my friends with respect?
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P.S. The pre-sale special for Essays on Embracing Masculinity ends in a few hours.