Once upon a time I cared about alpha male bullshit. It’s naturally part of being a man. At some point in his life every man is persuaded he is an expert stock trader, unbeatable street fighter, and an alpha male. But I’m not an alpha male. Nor do I care to be one.
I don’t even care about the alpha beta bullshit. Be happy and don’t be a cuck. The rest is details. https://t.co/AoXPOolWxr
— Mike Cernovich (@Cernovich) October 1, 2015
When you look at alpha males, you’ll notice a theme –
Status anxiety is crippling, and the way to live life on your terms is to free yourself from it.
When you obsess over status, you’re constantly looking at who is “above” you and plotting ways to take them down.
You look “below” you and see enemies everywhere. You become paranoid.
The more a man wants to be alpha, the less men of genuine accomplishment want to be around him.
The status anxiety of a would-be alpha male causes him to only hang out with people he can dominate.
An alpha males insists on having it his way, all of the time. While there’s nothing immoral about that mindset, you’ll find high-value men have options – and are quite capable of doing their own thing.
Alpha males insist on imposing their wills on others.
Men with options have no time or patience for pushy men.
How alpha males are like teenage girls.
Hang out with an alpha male and prepare to gossip like teenagers.
An alpha male can’t recognize the virtue in another man, as that would trigger his status anxiety. “Is this man better than I am?!”
An alpha male will find a way to nit-pick a man regardless of accomplishments. Who has more money? Who went to the right college or university? Who is more ripped and has the hottest body? (Nothing gay about that, at all.)
There’s always a way to bring another man down, and an alpha male will find that way.
This is especially true of alpha males in the fitness community, who discuss at length whether another man’s calves are proportional to his biceps and panic when their obliques stop showing due to “bloat.”
Has the alpha male bullshit grown tiresome?
Maybe you’ve known a few self-professed alpha males.
You’ve seen them cry over women, live in dread of wives, and explain why “wife/kids/job/whatever” makes it impossible for them to live life on their terms.
If you’re not living life on your terms, what good is this alpha male bullshit?
The desire to be alpha is natural, and probably healthy in your 20s.
The twenties are a challenging decade, as you lack an identity. Who are you? What drives you? These are questions to answer.
Some people are better than others, and you want to be the best you can be. Oftentimes this means positioing yourself as being better – or more alpha – than others.
I don’t hate on young men who want to be alpha, although that’s not where I’m at in my own life.
I’ve moved on.
Abundant, not Alpha.
What do you really want?
Would you rather be an alpha male among idiots or a peer among men of accomplishment?
Maybe what you’re looking for a calmness of soul – a quiet, masculine self-possession with a mindset of resourcefulness.
Maybe your desires differ from mine, and that’s cool.
I’ve shifted from an alpha mindset to an abundance mindset
- Gorilla Mindset shift: Abundant, not alpha.
I even enjoy playing games with my social status. Let people think I care about being alpha, and then bait them into humiliating traps.
I am not “so alpha it hurts.”
I’m just a regular guy. That’s not false modesty.
I’ve been massively overweight.
I’ve been bullied.
I’ve been broke.
Sure, I’ve overcome a thing or two.
I’ve made a few bucks.
That had nothing to do with being alpha.
My successes has come from my mindset of abundance.
Rather than think of ways to impose myself on others, I choose to view the world as one of infinite possibilities.
Instead of thinking of ways to dominate people, I find solutions to their problems.
Setting aside the alpha male ego has allowed me to finally live life on my terms.
P.S. Essays on Embracing Masculinity by Mike Cernovich is available for pre-sale here.