How can you live the life of your dreams? It’s possible to live a life better than your dreams, as you may find that making intelligent choices while stacking the odds in your favor bring you places you didn’t know exist. Or at least that’s been true of me and those of you who have taken action to change your life.
To live the life of your dreams, you must dream.
(Society has told you to stop dreaming big.)
As children we had active fantasy lives and imagined far-away places. As we get shuttled through the kid prison system known as public school, we learned to stop dreaming. Dreamers are bad for the system which requires regimentation.
The perfect citizen goes to work at a predictable time, works a predicable amount of time, shops and consumes a predictable amount and type of name brand goods, watches a predicable amount of television while eating junk food before falling asleep to live another predictable day.
Dreamers are unpredictable. When you dream big you’ll receive hate.
People always told me I’m “unrealistic.”
Yes, I live an unrealistic life. It’s also a real life.
If I wake up in Paris and decide to go to the Swiss Alps, I do it.
No planning. It was what I wanted to do.
If I want to go island hopping in Thailand, that’s what I do.
If I want to do original reporting in Budapest, Hungary, that’s what I do.
(I didn’t even know Thailand had islands and had never heard of Budapest. You also won’t know where your dreams will take you.)
How do you separate delusion from dreams?
Take action, as life has a way of showing us what we are capable of. I am not Tony Robbins. You do not have unlimited potential. You have massive potential, but it’s going to be limited to a few skills.
While you shouldn’t listen to haters and dream killers, you should look around to find some relevant metrics to measure your success.
I’m not going to make it in the NBA. How did I discover this? As a kid I shot baskets for hours. I practiced. I was mediocre. There was simply no way in the world I’d be a successful basketball player.
But I was pretty good at fighting. I can take a good punch (which is somewhat genetic) and sort of enjoy the feeling of being “punch drunk.”
Whether it’s nature or nurture, I feel alive when fighting.
Instead of wasting years playing ball, I studied martial arts, rhetoric, and today make my living doing some hybrid of personal development and mindset training + free speech activism + trolling.
Dream big, but play the odds.
Remember that life has a huge element of luck to it.
Maybe you are the 1% exception who can do what no one else with your physical and mental attributes could accomplish.
Maybe in some alternative universe I’d have been an exceptional basketball player.
It makes more sense to see some guys like you who have “made it,” and then start playing that game.
But I’m not here to kill your dreams.
Maybe you will release a Grammy-winning album, win an Oscar, or buy the Powerball ticket at just the right place and right time.
Turn dreams into vision.
The difference between dream and vision is detail.
When you dream about your future life, how clear is the image? Do you see, hear, taste, feel, and smell where you are? Or are your dreams vague and cloudy?
Imagine you want to become CEO of your company. Do you think, “Yeah, that’d be nice,” or do you:
- See yourself wearing a suit, being greeted by your secretary while walking into your spacious office, and meeting people at a large mahogany table?
- Do you hear your secretary telling you about your scheduled meetings?
- Can you feel your body sink back into the chair?
(Gorilla Mindset contains the full visualization exercise as long as a worksheet.)
You must visualize your dreams in great detail or else you won’t know how to take yourself closer to your dreams.
Take one step each day to walk closer to your vision.
(The Real Law of Attraction.)
How do you know if you’re getting closer to your dreams?
Consider the metaphor. (Read: Metaphors We Live By.)
What does it mean to get closer to your dreams?
Getting closer requires you to move forward; or in the case of climbing mountains, move higher.
How can you move forward if you don’t know where you’re going?
Think back to your vision. Where are you going?
Find a way to bring yourself closer to your dream.
If you want to be a writer, you had better write every day. If you want to be a CEO, you had better be taking courses in public speaking. If you want to own your own business, you had better learn marketing.
Hold yourself accountable.
Before bed, ask yourself, “What did I do today to bring myself closer to my vision?”
When you wake up, ask yourself, “What will I do today to bring myself closer to my vision?”
If you fail to walk one step closer to your vision, do not beat yourself.
Admit you make a mistake.
Refuse to make the same mistake tomorrow.
Never lose hope. Life is long.
I didn’t get where I wanted to be in life until turning 36 or 37.
Before that I had a normal life with the usual ups and downs, but I wouldn’t have said my life was anything special.
Finally my life is where it should be.
And it’s not over.
In many ways I’m just warming up….
Never lose hope.
(Is hope for dopes?)
Maybe you’re 30 or 40 or 50 or 60 or 70. It doesn’t matter how old you are or where you are right now.
The game is never over until you quit or die.
Gerry Spence, one of the men I most admire, didn’t have a big career as a writer until his 60s. His legal career didn’t blast off until his 50s. (The Karen Silkwood case was Spence’s mainstream breakthrough moment.)
James Carville, another man I admire even though he’s a liberal, didn’t make it big until his late-40s, when he took Bill Clinton (a wunderkid) to the White House. Before that Carville was sort of a dead beat finding his way in life.
Society loves stories of young Mark Zuckerburgs. It’s more likely you won’t arrive until you’re middle-aged or older.
Hope is for dopes only when it’s based around empty dreams and broken promises you’ve made to yourself.
If you take steps each day to live your dream, you’ll make it in the end.
Dream big, work hard, don’t quit, and always keep the faith.
I can’t promise you that all of your dreams will come true. Only God can make such promises.
But I can make one promise. If you dream big, work hard, refuse to quit, and keep your spirits high by never losing hope…
You’ll either make it, or die after one hell of a ride!
P.S. Gorilla Mindset is almost at 10,000 copies sold in under three months. My dream was to sell as many copies in a year. Thank you for helping make my dreams come true.