A father’s job is to raise his son, but do you listen to them? I know that most do not, as I am more relevant to the lives of young men than most of their fathers. I’m not some Internet dad to children from broken homes. My readers include students at the most prestigious universities to children of single moms to orphans. Men – and this includes Boy Scout leaders, pastors, and all other author figures – have failed young men.
I listen to your sons. Do you?
The average straight man in America is told he is worthless. By virtue of being a man he is guilty of “toxic masculinity.”
There is nothing a man – and this is especially true if he’s white – can do to cure himself other than “checking his privilege.” A man checks his privilege by deferring to a person who has been oppressed.
If you’re a red neck born with nothing, you must still check your privilege when addressing Barack Obama’s daughters. By definition, privilege results from power structures. Since whites apparently control the world, your son (regardless of his station in life) must defer to any woman who talks down to him.
If your son succeeds in life, he’ll be told it’s because he plays life on easy mode. All of his accomplishments will be downplayed.
Your son, if he is a straight white male, can be discriminated against because racism against white people is impossible.
- Note: I am not making any of this up. Don’t take my word for it. Talk to your sons.
Ask your son, “If you spoke up in college by suggesting that white male privilege is not real, what would happen?”
Your son would be met with shrieks. He would be called a misogynist or rapist.
If your wants to start a campus group to associate with other men, the school will refuse to fund it. If your sons organize the event themselves, a feminist will pull the fire alarm, canceling it.
If you son makes one errant Tweet or social media post, social justice warriors will screen cap it and spread it, accusing you son of vile behavior. If your son has a job, they will make harassing phone calls until he’s fired.
A “journalist” tried getting a kid fired simply for posting in the GamerGate hashtag.
If a woman regrets having sex with your son, he’ll be labelled a rapist. If he’s lucky he’ll be expelled from college rather than criminally prosecuted.
If your son is cheated on by his girlfriend, she will obtain a restraining order preventing him from speaking out about what happens. He will go to jail if he violates this restraining order.
If your son become a Nobel prize winner, a black woman can ruin his life with a demonstrable lie. (Read: Sexist Tim Hunt: The Real Story.)
Dads who have a problem with me are out of touch or hate their sons.
You claim you don’t hate your sons, and maybe are even offended by my suggestion that you do. Well, what are you teaching your sons?
Do you have the back of your sons, or do you tell them to be nice little boys who follow all of the rules while playing a rigged game?
When Danger & Play was found in a young man’s web browsing history, there was a family intervention. Many parents explicitly forbid their sons from reading me.
(I appreciate that. As you’ll recall if you think back far enough, the cool factor for banned writing goes way up.)
Why would you not want your sons learning the truth about the world?
Do you view them as fodder for the power elite, as stooges for bankers, or perhaps as slaves to women?
That said, why are you more sons listening to me than to their own fathers?
Doesn’t that bother you at least a little?
You can can be a better father.
You sons admire me because I live with no fucks given. I stand up to the people who make their lives miserable.
Your sons have been taught (perhaps by you?) to sit back passively when lectured about their toxic masculinity. When your sons speak, they had better not raise their voice lest they make a woman feel uncomfortable with an oppressive male gaze.
When some worthless fuck pops off, I humiliate and destroy him. Not for me, but for every man who has been told to avoid conflict.
I say all the “bad words” that they aren’t even allowed to get close to saying. Most of them don’t even want to insult people. But even accidental insult is enough to lose a job, and your sons feel trepidation with every word.
You have jobs. You can’t go around saying the wrong things, either. (You censor yourself quite a bit these days, don’t you….)
You don’t have to listen to me, but you need to listen to your sons.
A lot of them either dislike you or have no respect for you.
I know this because they tell me.
They don’t think you have their backs.
They think you are teaching them to be slaves to the system.
Freedom starts with a mindset.
When is the last time you told your son to be selfish?
Selfish is a bad word, of course, although your son has learned that everyone else has no problem selfishly using him.
Women selfishly use him to pay for dinner.
Presidents selfishly use him to die in wars.
Colleges selfishly use him as a student loan debtor.
Banks selfishly use him as a debt slave.
SJWs selfishly “make an example” out of him whenever possible.
If everyone else is selfish, why can’t your son be?
Why must he be the chump?
Do you tell your sons to defer to women? Why shouldn’t women defer to your sons? Are your sons supplicating lap dogs?
Do you teach your son to fight back against bullies, or to check his privilege?
Do you tell your son to fight for the interests of nations that have no loyalty to you or your son?
Do you treat your son like his own person with his own interests rather than as a way for you to signal to others how great and virtuous you are.
If you care about your sons, talk to them. Yes, listen.
You likely have no clue what it’s like out there for a modern man.
Sure, we are all living in a first-world country and should be grateful.
Yet first-world privilege won’t save your sons from a false rape accusation or having his career destroyed by a lying woman.
Ask him what it’s like out there.
Ask him who has his back.
Ask him if he thinks you do.
You just might learn something.