What is the best advice I’ve ever received?
The advice came from a surprising place. In the outstanding series Inside the Actors Studio, Chris Rock was asked by the host James Lipton, “What advice do you have for other actors?”
Always be auditioning.
“When my last movie is out I’m officially unemployed,” Rock said.
This is Chris Rock. This is not me or you. This is an A-list actor, and even he recognizes you must bring it every time you make a performance.
First impressions matter.
The 100th impression matters.
Your work must always stand out or you’ll fall off quickly.
Guys say, “Mike, it’s like you read my mind. I was just thinking about something and then you wrote about it!”
I read every email, social media comment, YouTube comment, and blog comment. I look at the back end analytics to see what performs well and what doesn’t.
Yes, I am reading your minds. I am always thinking, “What do the guys want to see?”
I can’t just phone it in. I must prove myself every time.
Fair or not, people will always want to know, “What have you done for me lately?”
What sort of first impressions are you making?
You wouldn’t believe the emails I receive:
- “Yo bro u’d be crazy not to let me write a guest blog.”
- “i think you should come on my podcast.”
- “y u no linky to my site when i linky to urs?”
How can I trust you to respect my audience if you don’t respect yourself enough to use proper grammar and do some editing before emailing me?
How can I trust you to deliver value to my readers and listeners when you can’t deliver value to me?
Should the world move for you because you showed up??
One guy wrote in proposing a partnership between our sites. He has no traffic and yet he’s thinking he’s so great that I should partner with him. Where do people get these ideas?
People email me asking me for something and then expect me to move on their timeline. In what world does that make sense?
If Joe Rogan asked me to be on his podcast my only question would be, “When?” No negotiations, no ego bullshit. I’d show up on his terms. End of story.
If you want something from me, it’s on my terms or it doesn’t happen. No one has to work with me and I don’t have to work with anyone.
Unless you’re a slave master, no one has to do what you say. If you want something from others, you had better find a way to meet their terms.
None of us are that good. Not Chris Rock, not me, and not you.
If you want something from people, get the fuck over yourself.
Your mere existence is not enough. You are not that great. None of us are.
Stop talking about how great or amazing you are, and start showing the world by delivering value and good will.