You’ve no doubt seen a change in the content appearing here, and you’re wondering what’s going on. Some have asked me if it’s due to the move. I’ve also taken my mindfulness and self-talk game to the next level. That is all covered in Gorilla Mindset.
When you live in a world without expectations or entitlement, you begin to understand the destructive nature of the ego.
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You’re riding a cross between a motorbike and a scooter on a one-way street at night. A scooter is coming the wrong way with no headlights on.
This is Vietnam.
(T.I.V is the new YOLO.)
WiFi goes out. I’m not ranting and raving.
Trivial distractions are set aside.
This is Vietnam.
A phrase came to me – Ego, Expectations, Entitlement.
When the world doesn’t behave according to my expectations, my ego is enraged. Yet my expectations are largely based on entitlement.
Ego – I expect the world to be another way.
Expectations – Why should the world be any other way?
Because you feel entitled to it.
A woman wrote a touching post about ego, expectations, and entitlement:
Part of why this is so important is because I am never seeing the world as it is; instead, I am always hoping or expecting the world to be different. By doing this, I am setting myself up for disappointment at every turn. Because I have no control over others, I cannot simply wish their behavior to change and take it personally when it does not; however, this is how I have been living for many years.
Because I moved to Vietnam without expectations, I felt no entitlement.
How can my childish ego be upset when something doesn’t go my way, when I have no conception of what “going my way” even means.
I am also a visitor in their land. This country was built by their people. What sort of person goes into another country built by other people and demand the country change?
My ego does not exist.
As much as possible, I am living outside of a status system.
I am not part of their world.
They are not part of mine.
Nothing they do is taken as an insult. I am a guest in their country.
This made me reflect on my life. Why do I get angry?
What is happening when I feel anger and frustration in my body?
I (ego) have expectations and feelings of entitlement while living in the U.S.
I must get rid of those feelings.
Replace Ego, Entitlement, and Expectations with Abundance, Attraction, Rejection, and Reflection.
You do you without any expectations of what others will do.
Then you draw in the right people with the law of attraction.
You reject the right people with the law of rejection.
You learn about yourself from the law of reflection.
To live this way, you must have a mindset of abundance.
How do you balance ego with living?
Ego is competitive. The status structure we evolved in no longer applies.
I ask myself, why care?
If I do care, what are these feelings reflecting back at me?
Each time, it’s ego, expectations, and entitlement.
How to get over this?
You can be happy for someone and jealous at same time.
Recognize the situation for what it is.
People are who they are.
If a friend or co-worker is bothering you, get into the moment. This is [insert name].
Now this doesn’t mean you should tolerate abuse.
Mindfulness requires energy, and I’d rather put my energy towards creating writing and podcasts than dealing with negative people.
But sometimes you’re in a bad situation.
I’m doing whatever I want to do without regard for your expectations. Your expectations will be based on your own ego’s feeling of entitlement.
You do you, I’ll do me.
And when something bothers you, remember.