Having intellectual gifts can be a challenge, as your 150+ comments show. There is a way to overcome these challenges. It all starts with a Gorilla Mindset Shift.
Choose to value something other than being gifted.
Remember our discussion on values? What do you value? If you are a gifted but unaccomplished man, you have revealed your values. You value taking the easy way in life by coasting on a wave that you did not make. You can change your mindset. I did.
I used to value being highly intelligent, especially when I was younger. Yet growing up showed me countless examples of high IQ men who were total failures at life.
Even though I did OK in life, I didn’t apply myself. I viewed grinding as beneath me. “Hard work was for stupid people,” I told myself.
Time, however, waits for no man. When you look to your left and right, you see men who get ahead or fall behind based less on their gifts and more on their ability to keep moving through adversity.
I looked at myself one day and realized I was pathetic. I had been coasting. I chose to stop valuing intelligence and innate ability. I instead choose to value being disciplined and applying force of will to all of my problems.
To appreciate the emptiness of intellectual gifts, consider a man of physical gifts.
Yes, you can learn a lot from watching the decline of War Machine.
Jonathan Paul Koppenhaver was an incredible physical specimen – a truly gifted man. I remembered his debut on the Ultimate Fighter and had seen him at many Vegas pool parties. Women flocked to him. He could have had nearly any woman he wanted.
Even though he had these great gifts, he devoted his life and love to a used-up porn star.
Why did he make this choice? Because it was easy. If you’re a beautiful man without any character, you align yourself with an attractive woman who is as empty as you are.
War Machine and Christy Mack were therefore made for one another.
When he walked in on his porn star girlfriend allegedly having sex with someone else, he lost it. He beat up the man his porn star lover was with and then he brutally beat up the porn star.
War Machine had no strength of character. He couldn’t apply self-restraint, as he never focused on developing those virtues.
Gifted men are no better off than War Machine.
To overcome the challenges of being gifted, make the mindset shift. Choose in the present moment to stop valuing being gifted.
Choose to value manly virtues such as discipline, strength of character, self-possession, and force of will.
Your gifts aren’t going anywhere.
Directing your focus away from your gifts won’t make them disappear. The beauty of being gifted is that, well, it’s a gift. You didn’t do anything to earn your natural-born talents. They were given to you by God, the Universe, nature, or what have you.
Imagine what you can achieve when you combine your gifts with grit and determination.