You can use visualization exercises to help you achieve anything from business success to meeting girls. Yet whenever I write or talk about visualization exercises, my inbox fills with questions: “How do I learn how to visualize success?”
That’s an unfortunate question, as it shows the failings of our educational establishment. You have already mastered visualization.
Visualization only seems complicated. It’s actually simple. In fact, you are already a master at visualization.
Do you think about the past?
Do you ponder bad memories?
When you think about the past, do you involve one or more of your five senses (sight, sound, taste, touch, smell)?
Do you feel happy or sad when you think about the past?
In other words, does thinking about the past elicit an emotional response, that is, does it change your state?
Thinking about the past is nothing more than performing a visualization exercise.
What if you started from the proposition that your past does not exist? What if you treated memories are being no more real than imagination?
That view is not too far off base. There’s a large body of cognitive science showing that our memories range from horribly biased to outright false.
When you think about the past – and this is especially true of negative or sad memories – you develop feelings of sadness, rage, bitterness, resentment, or disempowerment.
You feel this sadness because you choose to treat your memories as if they are real. Make no mistake, that is a choice you make in the present moment.
Your memories are real only because you choose to treat them as real.
What would happen if you treated your dreams as being more real than your memories?
Try it out.
For the rest of the day, do not think about the past. When a memory arises, remind yourself, “This is not real.”
Instead of thinking about the past, daydream about the future.
Imagine what you want.
Involve all of your available senses.
Visualize your perfect day.
Treat this imagined perfect day as being real.
Use those visualization skills that you have wasted on thinking about the “past” to dream about a better future.
You’ll be surprised by what (or who) you attract.