“I was the kind of kid that if I was born in the states would be diagnosed with ADD and medicated.” – Atlantic
The latest reader success story comes form a man who posts as “Atlantic” online. Atlantic is inspirational not merely because he is a success. He is a true leader of men.
Because of Atlantic’s efforts, countless of men have found jobs. Indeed, the author of this earlier Reader Success Story found his way to the oil sands in part because of Atlantic’s effort and outreach.
I grew up in a small town in Ireland. I did well at school but had way too much energy and lacked functional social skills. I was the kind of kid that if I was born in the states would be diagnosed with ADD and medicated. By my mid-teens I still had not devolved strong social skills but was excellent at breaking down information and forming patterns. I wanted to be left alone to play with Lego or invent some fun device. I know now that I have an INTJ personality type according to the Myers-Briggs personality test. I was highly introverted and didn’t know how to properly interact with the outside world.
In my late teens I happened to google something along the lines of ‘how to get girls’. I found some basic ‘pickup’ material and couldn’t believe that such information existed. My analytical mind went to work and I slowly started to improve my social skills even managing to get some make outs of some the hottest girls at my school. I had some outer game skills but my inner confidence was terrible. Even though I built a huge social circle at University and tried my best I still finished my first year of University a virgin.
That following summer I decided mere pickup lines weren’t enough. I knew that the foundations had to be built first. I made a commitment to drastically improve myself in every way possible into the man I wanted to be – what we would call here ‘Alpha’. I got a summer job as the head manager at a popular water sports camp. I read books on social skills, body language and inner confidence. I started to work on my body and fashion. Eventually I achieved success. I slept with a cute 26 year old teacher and then two more girls in the following weeks. The idea that I could change who I was and improve myself beyond my environment blew my mind! No one had ever told me such a thing. I committed to continuing to improve myself in every way I could.
My old friends at University couldn’t believe how much I changed.
Some improved with me but many tried to hold me back. I escaped the bucket of crabs and found new friends who were as determined to succeed as I was. Before University finished I managed several large clubs, was both an international liaison officer and first year mentor, started my own student business and slept with a lot of sexy young coeds. My transformation was well underway.
After University I suffered with the collapse of my large social groups and lack of career options. I ended up broke, living at home and working pumping gas for three months without getting laid. I remembered my promise and how I had once turned things around. I decided to make a new plan that would see me through to my thirties. I researched the best place to leverage my time into wealth and found a thread on the Canadian Oil Fields. I kept my plans to myself and started saving.
It took me over a year to save up enough money for a one way flight to Canada and money to survive for one month while I looked for work.
Most people told me I was crazy but I took note of the few who gave me encouragement and advice.
These people recognize opportunity too I told myself. I stayed committed. In Sept of 2012 I landed in Canada. My bags didn’t. I slept on the airport arrivals couch with no spare clothes, a hand written set of directions and only a few dollars. It was one of the happiest days of my life.
It took me 3 months and 6 jobs before I found work on the rigs. My last job in town before getting hired as a leasehand (very bottom position on a drilling rig) consisted of a two hour bus ride each way to run pieces of wood through a painting machine for 10 hour shifts. As a leasehand I worked an 86 hour week in -30 Celsius taking shit from the crew as a ‘greenhand’. It was a character building experience and I still laugh when I think back. The following week I finally got hired as a junior drilling engineer. It was a job I had in mind for nearly two years with the exact company I wanted to work for.
During my first year I made over a $100,000 dollars, more money than the rest of my life combined.
I partied hard and enjoyed spending it as fast as I earned it. Eventually though the work dried up and I somehow ended up broke again. I was annoyed that I had squandered my success and lost sight of my vision. I was close to having to go back to Ireland broke and depressed.
It was around this time that I found DangerandPlay. I really owe a lot to Mike’s site and the message he writes. I picked myself back up and regained my focus. His podcasts on Active Engagement, Personal Finances, Life as an Introvert and Purpose amongst many others changed my approach and helped me work sustainably towards my vision. I use that word sustainably because instead of thinking about next week I know plan 5, 10, 20 years in advance.
I don’t drink anymore except for rare occasions, I have my finances in order, have started saving, this week I have applied for an online two years MBA and my new introvert friendly approach to game is having huge results. Highly motivated by one podcast I worked towards and achieved becoming a lead drilling engineer within a few months and am now in charge of my own projects. I like the raw message, the vibe of the site and Mike’s philosophy towards life. I have always looked for the best mentors possible in life of which Mike is now definitely one. I have never even meet him in real life or talked to him over the phone. I think his site and podcasts are that powerful.
This started off as only a couple of lines but I guess this kind of thing gets me passionate. I wanted to thank Mike for the work he is doing and to let him know he has a solid contact in Western Canada if he ever needs one. Thanks Mike and best of luck in the future!
No, thank you for sharing your story – and more importantly, for “paying it forward” by helping other men find their path.