The latest Reader Success Story comes from a successful attorney on the East Coast who is also personal friend of mine.
My wife and I split up in May 2013. At the time I was about 275lbs of mostly fat.
After I managed to lose 35 pounds of fat, I met a new girl. You guessed it: I caught oneitis bad.
I did not take leadership of the relationship and was a giant beta wimp. I tried pleasing her constantly, which never seemed to work. She would get annoyed with me and then became cold and distant.
Although my law practice continued to boom, my personal life hit rock bottom when we broke up. At that point, I was not obese, but someone you would describe as soft, a bit chubby, and was definitely an alpha professionally but a total beta male with women.
However, in May after the breakup I decided the problem was me. I started actually applying Danger and Play. What a life changing experience.
Starting with the podcasts about losing fat, to your Crossfit-style workouts, I read the blog cover to cover. I did what you said – dropped calories, did intermittent fasting (two meals each day rather than the six meals bodybuilding magazines suggest), and started working out like an alpha.
No excuses. I hit the gym every single day, sometimes even twice a day, as “overtraining” is for fat people with excuses. Lately every single day has been a no bullshit, no excuses, take no prisoners approach to every aspect of life.
What are my results since May?
As of today, I’m down to 220 lbs with a front squat of 305lbs, bench press of 225, a few unassisted pullups, and I can even run a mile.
I’ve have a long way to go, but limiting meals to twice a day, realizing that cheat days are for losers, accepting that losing fat is simply a matter of basic caloric restriction, and being willing to work HARD in the gym has been huge.
I’ve have another 20 or 30 lbs to lose, but people already notice I am a changed man.
Oh yeah. Even got the girl back…but so what?
Keep up the good work. The world needs it. Your blog has had a huge impact on my life. Two and a half months of actually doing it has made a huge fucking difference.
There you have it. Men sometimes say I write too conceptually. The blueprint is laid out on these pages and podcasts.
“Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.” – George S. Patton
2. Make your mission your #1 priority.
3. Hit the gym.
4. Read inspirational books and websites.