Can You Answer This Reader Question?

This is the best reader question I’ve ever received. It’s so good because it’s vast. I have a few ideas and am working on a podcast. In the meantime, let’s hear your response:

You have a lot written about improving how to think, and what to do, about girls, fitness, socio-sexual relations; what would you suggest someone do to improve the way he thinks and evaluates information and understands the world around him?

Care to tackle that? 

  • OhioCoastie

    Start by learning about formal logic (pay special attention to logical fallacies).

    • XCSkierBen

      Very good.

    • shabby

      I really disagree with this. Logical fallacies are most useful in mathematics or categorical terms (e.g. somebody is a bachelor if they are not married). Most critical thinking addresses qualitative issues (I count applied mathematics as qualitative as well since one needs to figure out how to apply quantitative analysis).

      This especially jars me because I studied formal logic for a year with a bunch of fools.

      • OhioCoastie

        If that reader above wants to get better at evaluating people’s claims about reality, then only a working knowledge of logical fallacies can allow them to cut through the rhetorical bullshit that passes for “argument” these days.

        • sabre51

          I’m with shabby. It is extremely uncommon for people to take practical skills out of formal logic in my personal experience and that of my classmates. The challenge in the real world tends to be intepreting the non-logical statements of others and still drawing useful information from them, not in correctly applying logic.

          I do think studying formal logic is valuable and interesting but it just doesn’t translate into overall thinking skills.

        • shabby

          I would agree that logic and reason are good, but showing a logical fallacy formally is unnecessary in my opinion.

          Arguments in which understanding fallacy is useful:

          If I lift weights, I feel good
          I feel good
          Therefore I lift weights. <- In this case understanding the fallacy is useful.

          Most bullshit arguments use qualitative terminology:

          If I do the right thing, I feel good.
          I feel good.
          Therefore I do the right thing. <- It's difficult to feel good if you do the wrong thing, but this is not captured by the logic, hence it is less useful. This conclusion is probably correct in everyday speech even though the logic is flawed.

          You could change the premise to 'if and only if' and then it would work but nobody speaks like that. There is unspoken logic and many hidden premises in qualitative terminology. This is why I think it is unnecessary.

  • XCSkierBen

    Care to tackle that?

    No.

    Well, maybe. I could ponder it for awhile.

    I could write a bunch of crap and poetic stuff but what good would that do for this person? The first post on logic was a good starting tool as well, but I have come to realize that you cannot teach or show individuals how to evaluate information or learn about the world around them if THEY DO NOT DESIRE IT. There has to be a want there. Or a why? Find your why?

    Judging by the comment, this person has already taken the first step and is aware that he/she has a need for this in their life. That in itself is monumental. Once that step is taken, you set yourself on the path and it is a life long learning adventure.

    If that person is there at that point, then I am sure we could all point him or her in the right direction and flood them with resources.

    This is just my humble opinion.

    My friends over at the Zen Gardener had an interesting take on it today. That site might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but it was interesting nonetheless. Kind of serendipitous.

    http://www.zengardner.com/truth-denial-facing-age-information-overload/

    This was good too.

    http://www.zengardner.com/life-way-simpler-think/

  • shabby

    There are many answers to this, but one aspect of critical thinking is especially simple and powerful.

    Is the information that is being interpreted being written by someone who is knowledgeable?
    A corollary principle: they are knowledgeable if they have considerable and practical experience in that field.

    Who is best at detecting BS? People who know their subject thoroughly, and the best way to know a subject thoroughly is to practice some aspect of it. This is not sufficient, but it is necessary.

    The greatest people in their field not only practice what they preach, but they are INTELLIGENT in understanding their results. This is more intangible and requires a different kind of analysis.

    At the very least though the information should be written by someone with Skin In The Game.

    • anon1

      Haha I knew you were channelling taleb but when I read that last line I was certain. He’s a brilliant writer

      • shabby

        There is Before Taleb, and there is After Taleb.

        • lemmycaution

          Taleb has some interesting ideas but he comes across like an asshole to me. Would also like to see some proof that his investing ideas really make money.

          • anon1

            Oh no doubt he’s a total asshole. But he’s also right.

            I often think people take an extreme position deliberately to wake people up from their main stream popcorn knowledge infused sleep.

            Even leaders, they go aggressive to get a rallying cry and put wind in people to change but may be more mellow in real life

  • anon1

    I think as much as he’s disliked for some of his big fish promises, Tim ferriss had a great section in his first and third books covering just this. The first covering an information diet and the third covering metalearning (learning how to learn).

    The problem with looking at things cold hard and rationally (which is needed) is that there is a tendency to get very bitter about the world and mistake noise for signal. At some level we have to fool ourselves with either taleb style heuristics and rules of thumb, or some kind of insane level of self belief in spite of apparent evidence to push ourselves to levels normal men will not go.

    In the western world you win and die in the mind far more than the world stamping its boot on you

  • http://www.twentiesmentor.com/ Peter Twenties

    I’d say that you become what you think about most of the time. What do you spend most of your time thinking about? And is it bringing you to the life you want to live?

    Also I’d suggest this book: http://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman/dp/0374533555/

  • NH

    ” what would you suggest someone do to improve the way he thinks and evaluates information and understands the world around him?”

    thinks and evaluates information…. is process. process, process, process.

    so be aware that it is, imo, and seek ways to improve it.

    ” Process, on the other hand, is a specific methodology. It is a
    repeatable approach to any challenge or endeavor, be it construction or
    medicine or investing. And you can control a process. ” ( http://www.ritholtz.com/blog/2014/03/what-is-your-focus-outcome-or-process/ )

    Read about topics that interest you, but read people’s opinions / views that are opposite from yours. I wouldn’t waste time with total crazys, but people’s views who are well laid out, but come to a different conclusion than yours.

    Put TED Talks on your twitter. Google TED Talks for thinking, memory, thinking process.

    ( http://www.ted.com/conversations/7193/do_mathematics_really_help_us.html )

    Read a book about how math can help solve day to day issues / problems.

    Again, re the thinking, think in terms of process. Add to your awareness by learning new subjects. Read a book on ‘topic for dummies’ about a topic you know nothing about. This may not help right away, but might down the road.

    “Understanding the world around him….” = experience it. Is the world your street, town, state, country, continent ? the bigger the ‘world’ the harder, im guessing, but none the less…. go out and check out.

    If you think you live in a safer area, hitch-hike around some. If not, take a bus or drive. The bigger your world, you may need new language skills, or an ‘app’ that will translate… or something.

    Be less judgmental when experiencing your world. that may sound to ‘beta’, but so what. you can still retain your values, etc, but it first reaction, judge less. you’ll have plenty of time to think, to PROCESS, what you’ve experienced and what your takeaways are.

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  • C.B.

    Well, you could always START with Rand: Why hold the judgment of someone else’s mind above your own? Quit searching for someone else to tell you how the world works. Experience existence and decide for yourself. Fortune cookie I received one time: “a feather in the hand is better than a bird in the air”. You can laugh, but there’s some wisdom there.
    Of course, just asking the question means you’re on a better path.
    C.B.

  • disqus_S7xrh9mVsO

    Travel alone.

  • JC3527

    Just learn better Situational Awareness. Your brain wants to process information in a manner that makes it decipherable, we just tend to get in our own way so often.

  • sabre51

    Like others have said this can be approached from many angles. Taking your question literally though, there is an online community dedicated to “rationality” that focuses on how to interpret the world, make good decisions and evaluate success/failure of your actions.

    http://lesswrong.com/about/

    It’s very academic and theoretical, and definitely not for everyone. There’s a lot of content and it is a lot more read/reflect than D&P, which is very explicit about needing to go out and take action (a quality I very much appreciate). Luckily it is interesting and tends to stick with you and you find yourself thinking about it naturally during downtime.

    It’s like the manosphere, takes a while to digest but it ends up changing your point of view. For me the two have been roughly equal in terms of impact to my thinking.

    Disclaimer: once you get out of the core materials there is a lot of moral theorizing and scifi topics like AI. Take those with a grain of salt.

  • http://nicktroyer.com Nick Troyer

    Meditation. It makes you so much more aware of the thoughts that are tumbling around in your head all day long. Once you’re aware of them, you have the power to change them.

    If links are allowed, I explain the process more in depth on my blog at http://www.nicktroyer.com/2014/04/22/benefits-meditation/

  • J. Ballard Criminal.

    Being too logical can be fallacious in itself. The mind, an entity which is intrinsically abstract shouldn’t be tethered by the vast, yet anecdotal nuances of logic. Yet it is favourable to approach the world with an air of rationality which should be discarded as easily as it was embraced. Thinking logically will elevate your consciousness to a certain level but then it will start to restrain in. An analogy I found apt for this: the kite needs a sturdy string bring handled with skill to reach a high altitude, but to soar freely amongst the clouds it needs to sever all ties.

    To absorb information one must be completely objective, biases and prejudices close ones perception towards a certain object or event. The stoic will always find it easy to comprehend the world around him as it is, free from the veils of preconceived notions. The truth hurts him who is emotionally invested in it, if one accepts the truth to be Absolute and be stoic about it, he will only feel like he is watching a movie, even in matters personally relating to himself.

    Practising NLP can be useful for preparing oneself, there are courses which teach you about changing your perspective, to stand in the shoes of others and view the world as they do.

    This is the unadulterated red pill. The purest form of a lifestyle tainted by many and followed by few. To be an observer, to sit in the shade of a tree and watch cattle circle around trying to find meaning, peace and fulfillment. Some take half a dose, dilute it in water and sip it slowly, I swallowed it whole.

    Note – Everything advocated above are my beliefs which I follow with an iron clad will. It has worked wonderfully for me but it’s not your usual tweak in the daily routine.

    • http://waterist.wordpress.com Jackson

      this is epic !!!!! THANKS BRO

  • Jeremy
  • http://patientambition.com/ Nick

    I recommend reading up on logic and critical thinking. I just searched a bit on Amazon and found this: “How to Think Clearly: A Guide to Critical Thinking” http://amzn.to/1n7ogOn It looks like a good introductory text. Though I haven’t read it, I went ahead and bought it since the question inspired me to revisit my knowledge on the subject. The one critical review is informative in itself, as the author provides several detailed and well-reasoned replies.

    An advanced method for evaluating a particular topic is synoptical reading: http://thoughtfullfilling.blogspot.com/2012/04/how-to-read-book-syntopical-reading.html a concept introduced in the excellent: How to Read a Book by Mortimer Adler & Charles Van Doren http://amzn.to/U7ImLo Good luck.

  • Chad

    Mindfulness(being present) and critical thinking cuts through a lot of the bullshit. A good open course on critical thinking can be found here – http://philosophy.hku.hk/think/

  • pod

    It’s Ok to be the center of your world.

    • OhioCoastie

      Says who?

      • pod

        Who do you need permission from? Your blue pill is showing.

  • Tiberius

    Walk in nature.

  • Brett

    That’s a tough one to answer.

    I would suggest you just follow your curiosity. Learn to trust your gut.

    But do it fast. Fail fast, win fast. Go big. Do things with total focus. Become obsessed.

    A strong body gives you confidence. Books sharpen your mind. Starting a business and failing teaches you faster than any book – Next time you know exactly what NOT to do.

    If you watch Elliot Hulse’s youtube channel, he talks a lot about the intelligence inside your gut. Your brain is not your only tool. We’ve become detached from our instincts.

    Maybe this is too general of an answer. There are lots of comments here with more practical advice. But my interpretation here is that you’re looking to develop wisdom and there are no shortcuts. Get out there and get dirty.

  • dw

    I would focus on understanding on how to effectively be cognitive
    effectively progressive and how to use the effective cognitive accumulation in
    effectively progressivly absorbing the distance to a fixated far in the future inspiring outcome.

  • hyperrreal

    Learn to be self-compassionate towards yourself/your emotions. In my experience most problems with peoples’ thinking are really emotional dysfunction.

    Thinking clearly and evaluating information well is soooooooo easily screwed up by rationalizing emotions rather than just feeling them. Intellectualizing your emotional reality will prevent you from critically thinking about your beliefs, engaging with insightful/knowledgable people in a real way, and exposing yourself to alternative positions.

  • http://freedomandfulfilment.com/ Freedom & Fulfilment

    Get as much experience as you can. Do things you’ve never done, and things that other people don’t expect you to do or that you wouldn’t even expect yourself to do. Do things you’re afraid of. Travel and learn and try to see and do as much as you possibly can.

    The way you think and evaluate information is all subjective and ultimately you understand the world around you in relation to YOU, so the more experience you get interacting with it the more you understand it and the more you understand yourself.

  • Sebastian Bergström

    My recommendation is to realize this one simple thing:

    There isn’t a single human being that cares about you and your well-being as much as yourself.

    Constantly keeping this in mind, I’ve found that I’m more prone to take responsibility for my actions, get off my ass and get stuff done, evaluate information critically etc.

  • Bluegreenguitar

    Truth, love and power. Aligning oneself/practicing these 3 principles seem to be the fundamental parts of personal growth in any area, as far as I can tell. The combination of all 3 leads to the greatest amounts of growth in a positive direction. Steve Pavlina suggests this perspective, if you’d like to learn more.

    You ultimately need to find what works best for you, what you can improve upon, what your desires are and how to reach them.

    Here’s some things that I do or would like to do that help me and probably would help you:

    1) Try to a see a 3rd way. Don’t get allow yourself to get caught in either-or-thinking.

    2) Attempt to understand multiple other perspectives. Listen, imagine, read, communicate, study and learn. Know/admit/acknowledge your own perspective, if you have one, as well.

    3) Study and learn from the greats

    4) Nurture and cultivate your mind, body and soul

    5) Connect with nature

    6) Exercise for improvements and for fun

    7) Engage different intelligences/parts of your brain often.

    8) Learn one thing very well. The principles will apply to many other things.

    9) Live in different cultures, see different places, learn multiple languages

    10) Meditate

    11) Be able to be completely in the now, be aware of everything, totally in the present, all senses, aware of the external world and also everything going on internally

    12) Practice compassion, quick thinking, making decisions, listening to your intuition, forming a general feel for the situation, listening to your heart, your gut, your balls, the hair on the back of your neck. Practice each separately and then in combinations.

    13) Learn to heal oneself, to rest and relax

    14) Record your thoughts both on paper and with a recorder. It will help your thinking. And you can review them later and learn from them. Maybe they will remind you of something you’ve forgotten or help you realize something new

    15) Strive for the good things. Well-being, intelligence, love, strength, wit, happiness, health, success, beauty, speed, passion, compassion, knowledge. The act of striving in good faith will bring you to better place in your pursuit of reasoning and of understanding of the world.

    Best wishes!

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Incredible; thank you for taking the time to write all of that out!

    • XCSkierBen

      Excellent!

    • http://joselromero.com/ Jose L Romero

      Beautifully said!

      • Bluegreenguitar

        Thank you!

  • Danger & Play Blog

    Thanks, everyone, for the awesome comments! Many of you have asked for a Forum. Why don’t we try this out for a while….Send me a question and I’ll post it and then everyone can post their comments. Thoughts?

  • Stein

    I wish I’d asked this question. Mike, please do a podcast. I’d like to hear your take because of your professional background + life experience.

    I’m prone to biases (overconfidence / hindsight etc.) And I’m lazy when it comes to reading, processing and retaining tedious amounts of text. Content (online/offline) is full of commerce journalism, chauffeur knowledge, superficial summaries. I want to develop totalitarian discipline to keep the junk at bay but I’m not always able to reach the heart of the matter – my gut tells me something is wrong yet I can’t reason it out. Basics like questioning why the author is writing about a topic, or who profits from so and so sound byte are simple but i don’t have a hounds nose for bad arguments. I would like to master the skill of asking the right questions. I have improved other areas of my life. I will not let anything stop me. I hope to hear about how you have fought traps + biases in your reasoning / decision making. I’ve found examples all over your writing, but a podcast where you reflect can show how you put this in practice. I’d gladly donate to D&P for the good work.

    My solution: Learn from the wise. Put it in practice. Right now I’m reading the writings of Charlie Munger (http://futile.free.fr/cmeng.html) and trying to put his reasoning principles into practice. But it is hard to find avenues to do practice. Did doing case research / writing law reviews help? Would you recommend spending time writing summaries of books I read, chapters, etc. to improve my reasoning?

    Many thanks.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      I have my own answer, but I wanted to hear from you men before giving it.

  • Alex

    1. Gather a multitude of life experiences.
    2. Learn that you are important and become a man with purpose and direction.
    3. Learn to listen to your instinct and your gut. That is next level thinking and decision making.

  • http://redpillgame.com/ Halfbreed

    Tip #1) Read History.

    Devour history books. Everything you can get your hands on.

    Military history, American history, world history, all of it.

    Go back as far as you can, and read as widely as possible. Absorb history like a sponge, hell, even historical fiction has value.

    Why is this important?

    Because human nature doesn’t change.

    History doesn’t repeat itself, but it rhymes.

    That old quote is true.

    History runs in patterns – so if a young man wants to truly understand the world we live in and where we’re headed, he absolutely must study human history.

    Simplistic, yes. And it’s possible that some of the history we’ve learned is lies/bullshit/written by the victors.

    But either way, I don’t think it’s possible to truly understand the world we live in without a deep understanding of history.

    Tip #2) Travel Alone

    Other commenters already gave this advice so I won’t expand. But I agree with it 100% – traveling alone forces a man to evolve quickly IME.

    Tip #3) Date 50 Women

    The OP isn’t asking for advice on girls.

    But…

    A man can’t truly comprehend women & female nature until he’s dated/banged a large number of them. And understanding women is important for understanding our world. I hate to use arbitrary numbers here. So let’s just say once a man’s experienced more than 40-50 women, he’ll
    likely have much clearer view of women and how they operate.

  • DeepThinker

    Mike, could you write an article on minimizing taxes for W2 employees? I’d like to maximize my contributions to my Freedom Fund.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Start a side business. You can’t minimize W-2 (it’s all earned income), but you can deduct business expenses from your side business.

      • DeepThinker

        Thanks, Mike.

  • kryogenix

    Pretty simple question, really. We are all self-replicating molecules, based n a DNA blueprint, with a few primitive and basic functions. Consumption and reproduction. Everything that any of us do is to serve those two functions. We are slaves to our DNA. Everything else is just illusion. We are also slaves to the Law of Causality, cause and effect. We have no free thinking or free will. Lifes a joke. It’s a zero-sum game, all a bunch or rats chasing the cheese. Have a great day!

    • Kronos1978

      Luckily, thats only half the truth…our genomic constitution determines what baby comes out of the womb. It also sets some kind of developmental margins “left and right”, but within these margins, you are – for most people only in theory – more or less free to grow and mature in the direction you set yourself. That’s enough of free will and decision-making if you really make use of it.

  • Bluegreenguitar

    Thanks!

  • Molnár András

    Read! You have to know the truth to be at peace with the world.

    Read about evolution, read classic philosophy, (Marcus Aurelius, Socrates, Plato), read

    Spiritual Enlightenment: The Damnedest Thing by
    Jed McKenna ( http://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Enlightenment-Damnedest-Thing-Trilogy-ebook/dp/B003AKZBL0/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1405493073&sr=8-1&keywords=enlightment+the+damnest+thing ).

    Read history and realize people do not change, and learn from it. You have to loose any naivete about the world.

    Accept the world as it is, and use the knowledge for your gain.

  • Pete M

    Study Stoicism

  • http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor Dr. Jeremy

    Learning and applying the Scientific Method can help a great
    deal. Work on formulating clear questions and evaluating existing evidence on
    the problem at hand in a thorough, yet skeptical, way. Learn to develop clear
    and objective hypotheses to test your hunches and ideas. Perform experiments to
    evaluate potential causal mechanisms. Get acquainted with analysis and statistics
    to assess your findings (and those of others). In short, learn how to put
    things to an objective, verifiable test.

    This idea goes well beyond ivory tower academics and science.
    On this site, for example, Mike runs experiments checking his blood test
    numbers to see whether body language differences result in measurable changes
    in testosterone. He tests different key words and SEO processes to see whether
    they actually result in improved site traffic or Google ranking differences. In other
    words, he reads up on things and then actually tests his hypotheses to see whether
    changes result in measurable differences. That evaluation and testing improves
    understanding. It also allows for more effective personal functioning,
    improvement, and success.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      I appreciate your email. I’m pretty buried at the moment but would like to talk more soon.

      • http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor Dr. Jeremy

        Sounds good. Just let me know when the schedule clears.

  • greek god

    I actually had an episode with this question recently. I had been out and literally had a girl tee herself up for me and due to past conditioning/my quasi interest in her, I cowered and backed down. I’ve been at this change for 6 months now and can see/feel the changes that I will list below.

    -Improved self confidence and reliance.
    -Proactive.
    -Body language and fitness has done a 180. I find girls looking for excuses to touch me and more respect from strangers.
    -Commitment to a healthy nutrition and mentality.
    -Finding my inner purpose.

    However, I am still have a fear of rejection/fear of failure for my deepest, most passionate interest.

    That Girl I mentioned triggered a question that was on my mind for about a week and it finally hit me. It wasn’t the girl but the lack of action.

    The old me is dead so therefore so is the old mentality. This creates a large challenge because I must replace the old mental habits/routines/self talk with something new. (The old mentality/disposition started in my sophomore year of college, I began to view myself as a failure/underachieving slug)

    I’ve developed a new process to implement new anything which I refer to as follow the alphabet. Essentially, when my gut (which I believe is one of your highest drivers) calls me to do something, I listen to nudge and go towards it with action.

    Action>Habit>Result>Success.

    The action reinforces the new mindframe by simultaneously smashing the old mentality with a new habit and result.

    This can be applied to anything and any situation, you just have to trust yourself and tell your overactive mind to fuck off. The inaction will gnaw at you but the new experience will either propel you to more similar situations or let you know its not for you.

    Oh and by the way, I came up with this while being in solitude @ my grandmothers lake house in NH for 4 days. I got my environment real quiet and turned up the positive influences which helped me start identifying who I am and where I am going. Strength by Sonny has post on being alone in nature so you can reflect on your purpose in life, it works.

  • cleancaos

    To acknowledge Reality and use it for your own benefits, meaning to achieve you ultimate objective, or your inner purpose as someone else put it.

    How to know what your inner purpose should be?

    NOBODY can tell you. One must know for himself, one must THINK for himself, meaning he must come to his conclusions by HIS OWN thinking and NOT by looking or emulating someone else thinking.

    How can a master teach a student to think for himself? The master CANNOT. At least, he cannot teach it directly, for it would be a paradox to teach one person to think for himself. Why? Suppose the master says to the student: “you must think for yourself”, and suppose the student does it. You see, the student has done something BECAUSE he was somehow told to do it. You see the paradox here because the topic which was taught was actually “to think for yourself”. That’s why Zen masters can only “point the moon” or “point the door”. It is because the student must walk for himself.

    Even if the question of the reader would be exhaustively answered, the reader won’t have much advantage from the answer because it wasn’t derived by himself. But, perhaps the reader already knows how to think for himself and he only wants to find out if his thoughts are exhaustive for achieving his purpose, meaning he might think “is there any better way to do the things that I’m doing?” . We can’t possibly know, even if he told us.

    Once the ultimate purpose is declared and the person can think for himself, he can now study Reality and act upon it for the purpose of achieving his ultimate goal.

    The clearly answer the highlighted question of the reader, the simple most useful thing to do is to detach from oneself emotions. Emotions are not Reality. The problem of emotions is that by attaching ourselves to them we don’t see Reality for what it is, but we put our own meaning over it.

    Like other comments already have expressed.

    If you want to better yourself on getting girls, the most simple thing one can do is to analyze the women’s mind and finding out what they long for and give it to them (Mike already wrote a defined post on the two most desired thing by women). By this is the “what”. The “how” part, to implement the “what” part is funny part. This process can be done in different ways, but ultimately it can be summarized in the already known practice of studying the Theory and gaining data from the field and analyzing them. In the domain of getting women, studying theory means to study the cognitive literature and other people experiences (similar in the semantic field to another comment when he said to read history to better yourself); gaining data means to analyzing women’s behavior in different situation for the purpose of finding out how their mind works and of course, to find what they long for.

    All these processes are done REGARDING what “you feel’ or what are your emotions about the things that need to be done to achieve the goal, or if you wanna put in another way and if you like the term you can say regarding “morality”, if that word means something to you.

    Once you find out what they long for you make a plan on how to obtain these things, and you always detach from your emotions to achieve this more-bottom-goal. You make plans, you study how this right plan interact with your other plans in your life and depending on the priority (that only you can set) you do what needs to be done. During the process of doing you will find out that many things has to be tuned, or they don’t completely work. That is good, that means that you are gaining data from Reality, because what you thought was good to be done is actually not useful for the purpose of achieving your goal. Another pathetic locution they use for this event is “to fail”. But if you see it for what it is, it is actually good for your because you are unveiling Reality and that’s the only thing that count in life.

    You can abstract from this whole example in the domain of “getting women” and you can reuse the core informations to implement other goals you think needs to be done. And only you can know what is better for you. If you don’t know it you will be a plan of someone else. Clear and concise and cruel (you will see people using that last adjective if they are emotions attacher) this is the Reality. Deal with it.

    (I could write endlessly about this topic, but I stop it here for my prolix writings will be read by no one since they are wrote in a too-magisterial tone and they are also free. Nobody gives value to free things. Other people already wrote better comments than this thing I wrote now.

    Already wrote a too-long (5717 words) comment the other day; the previous little paragraph derive from an initial analysis of the Reality, if that makes sense to you.)