The latest reader success story comes from someone who is still in many ways a starving artist. Does this mean he is not a success? You decide.
Hey it’s Max, I thought I’d share my story.
I grew up on welfare living with a single mother with no male role models in my life.
Meeting my mom’s new boyfriends constantly throughout my childhood gave me a skewed perspective on relationships and to say I had attachment issues is an understatement.
When I turned 18 I was kicked out of the house and belittled for being “just like my father.” Nobody taught me how to function in life, public high school was nothing but a ghetto prison.
I went through a serious dark time and I honestly wanted to die until my stepbrother committed suicide, I saw myself in that box and I knew I just couldn’t go down that road.
Music has always been part of my life, in the apartment I shared as a kid with my mother and baby sister we sometimes didn’t have heat or even something to eat but laying around was one of my dad’s old guitars, one I day I just picked it up and started to teach myself how to play.
It was an outlet for everything sick and and depressing in my life. Since 11 I continued to grow and learn all on my own to the point where now I’m releasing this summer my fourth consecutive album in 4 years that I not only played every instrument, composed, wrote and sang myself but also mixed and mastered.
It took a long road to get here.
The biggest factor in my artistic success has been mindset, one of my idols Curtis Jackson said,
The actual system wasn’t prepared for me, I thought I was ready in ’97 and I didn’t have a major record label marketing and promoting my project until 2003. For that time period I had to run on my own energy. I had to convince myself that I’m gonna make it regardless of how people felt at that time. What it does is it makes you feel like there is gonna be times when people mistake my confidence for arrogance because they don’t understand the process I went through and how much I had to believe in myself in order to make these things happen. I feel like you can will yourself into a good space, things that are meant to happen will and if you believe in yourself enough you can help yourself learn. You can inspire yourself in different ways where you can actually discipline yourself to the point where you can be good enough. From ’97 when I started writing it was full time every day I was writing music because I had no choice if I was gonna stop hustling how was I gonna provide or continue the lifestyle that I created for my son’s mom, my son and myself.
Though I’m not in such dire circumstances as he was I understand where he’s coming from, for me it was either do music or die, it honestly was the only thing keeping me alive and in order for me to do music I needed the mindset of a warrior because of my past and my environment.
The first step was fitness, the gym and working out became like church to me and I truly believe there is a mind body connection, your physical health affects your mental.
The second step for me was women. I finally got a system in place that works for me. A funny thing happened once I started getting more successful with women. It was like a button got pushed and these girls didn’t matter so much to me or hold incredible power anymore.
The third thing that took me over the top were positive affirmations. My crippled self-esteem was hurting me and holding me back for so long that once I started listening to these tapes, whether on the bus or on the way to the gym, after awhile people really started to see drastic changes.When asked I told them listen to this stuff for an hour a day but they honestly didn’t have the discipline or gave it a try and said “that stuff is gay.”
So here I am, still broke, still living in poverty but my mind is strong and my environment cannot even touch me.
I’m hungry for success and secure in myself that I can and will conquer because I am amazing.
If you’d like to hear some of my music you can listen at http://soundcloud.com/maxwelldemon
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Thank you for taking the time to share your story, Max. Everyone is at a different point, but we are all on the same path.