“I would say that I didn’t have any role models growing up, but that’s only half the story. The truth is, the men who were available to guide me simply didn’t live exciting lives of freedom and vitality.”
The next reader success story comes from a young man who is still working to find his way through life, but who is developing the mindset of success. My advice to him is at the end of the post.
Success is as much a mindset as a destination.
Success is owning your decisions. Success is about taking steps today to go from average to alpha.
Here another reader success story. As you’ll see he has still has a long road to travel, but he has taken the first steps.
I would say that I didn’t have any role models growing up, but that’s only half the story. The truth is, the men who were available to guide me simply didn’t live exciting lives of freedom and vitality.
I was just kind of drifting through life working a soul-killing job, until the last 2 years when I read a book called “The Millionaire Fastlane” (Amazon) by MJ DeMarco. This book jump-started me on a path of self-improvement and I’ve never looked back.
I’m a 24 year old guy from the suburbs. As a kid I always strived for freedom.
My mom was an unstable feminist and dad was a weak alcoholic.
I’d stay outside all day, every day. I got really good at skateboarding, biking, basketball, etc. and would stay out until bed time. That obviously gave me lots of time to think, as movement is a catalyst for thought as you know. I still love walking to this day, and walk at least an hour a day.
High school was a bumpy road. I was a loser. I was getting in trouble with the police for stealing shit. Despite a mild weed addiction, which lasted until about a year ago, I did well enough to get into university for engineering. I never did finish university, as the life of an engineer was not for me. It’s funny looking back, as I was devastated when I dropped out, but it was the absolute best thing for me. I’d be miserable right now.
As for girls, I had a few girlfriends fall into my lap by chance. Only because I was good-looking and athletic. I was a beta-male with so much anxiety that they ran the show entirely. Let’s just put it this way, in university I was alone with a chick in her room. She pulled me under some mistletoe and I stood there like a buffoon. I couldn’t pull the trigger. I cringe looking back to that moment.
The summer after dropping out of university, I got a door-to-door sales job and did quite well. This gave me a renewed sense of confidence and hope. I still know deep down that I can sell.
At this job I met a guy who sold me some LSD. That experience changed me forever. It opened my mind up to the possibility that the physical world is an illusion. Or at least, there’s more to life than meets the eye. Although this isn’t important, there’s a great book about this phenomenon called “The Ego Tunnel” (Amazon) by Thomas Metzinger – I think you’d enjoy it.
Most of all it alienated me enough from conventional wisdom that I had no choice but to trust my gut.
I had found new courage to think and be different. A lot of this stuff was realized years later upon reflection.
The above mentioned experiences, combined with various mentors, have shown me that I can live a life of freedom, vitality, and peace. That I can get there with enough effort.
So now I spend my days working out at the gym, eating, and building my business. I quit my job after saving up some money.
I’m building my own product brand – just testing the samples at the moment. I still have a long way to go. For example, I haven’t been with any girls in the last few years. But they no longer scare me. I’ve started approaching them myself, which is the greatest feeling in the world.
I put on 25lb of muscle since January (145lb to 170lb). My weight is at an all-time high. It’s amazing observing the difference in how people treat you. I get respect from men and catch girls looking at me everywhere I go. Who know’s what 180lbs will bring! The HIT training podcasts have been a big factor in reaching my goal.
Thank you for the email.
I am not anti-drug per se. I would caution you to avoid LDS drug culture. It sounds like you treated LSD with the respect it deserves. Realize that most people who trip are losers and you’ll want to avoid getting sucked into that culture.
You have already overcome the obstacles of a troubling childhood and a drug addiction. College certainly was not right for you and you should not regret the decision to avoid college.
You lack of a desire to go out and get laid is possibly do to sexual transmutation and is no cause for concern. I used to be a sex-crazed maniac. Gradually I channelled that energy into more productive endeavors.
Don’t be weak and not approach girls, but if you are genuinely distracted by your business, cool.
Just don’t end up a beta dupe who builds a successful business, catches oneitis, and loses everything in a divorce.
You can’t live a life of freedom without game. Keep focusing on your business. Once it’s up and running, go out and have your fun.