A reader writes in:
“I consider myself an ambivert, but I’ve been particularly interested in your series on being an introvert. One part of this topic that I’m yet to see you explore is how you socialise. It seems silly to ask, but it’s something that is always on my mind. You mention you can go days without speaking to someone….sometimes I am the same.
Five Conversation Tips for Introverts and Ambiverts
1. Guard your energy jealously. Imagine you have a battery life of 3 hours. Talking to anyone – even people whose company you genuinely enjoy – is going to deplete your battery.
2. Become an amazing conversationalist. I have several posts on this. Read the How to Become Charismatic series of posts.
3. Be viewed as a scarce resource, not a recluse. When you’re awesome, people will want to be around you. They will learn to give you your space, as they will cherish your company and companionship.
4. Rest and recover. Introverts are more sensitive to light and noise. Get some noise canceling headphones. Learn how to wind down.
5. Stretch yourself. Do not let your introversion become a limiting belief. You can become more extroverted. Push yourself. Talk more than you would otherwise talk. Engage more. Find an awesome group to meet up with. Personality is only 50% fixed. That means you have 50% of yourself to work with.
Check out: 5 Myths About Introverts.