“Father was rarely there, as he was always out of town for his work.” – Elliot Rodger
Elliot Rodger went on a shooting rampage in Santa Barbara, California. Rather than critically examine his numerous psychopathologies, the media is blaming the massacre on misogyny. “Elliot Rodger was a misogynist,” the media screams, just like these other misogynistic websites!
Blaming the Santa Barbara shootings on misogyny is an odd claim when you count the bodies. Elliot Rodger killed 5 men (including himself) and only 2 women. Rodger’s victims included Asian men, although the media seemed to neglect that point.
Elliot was indeed a sick little boy, although misogynist was not his illness. Elliot suffered from pathological narcissism. His entire worldview was based on solipsism (the idea that only he exists and that we are all but characters in his film) and entitlement.
“I was meant to live a life of significance and extravagance.” – Elliot Rodger
Barred from conversing with the elite men who read and comment at Danger & Play, Elliot Rodger sought refuge at PUA Hate – a site devoted to “exposing” me. He went online to hate on men like me, “I angrily had arguments with random people online who I saw bragging about their girlfriends.”
Unlike members of the filthy mainstream media, I actually read Elliot Rodger’s autobiography/manifesto. If you read it, you can learn the truth about Elliot.
Elliot Rodger was raised by his mother and taught to be a mama’s boy.
Around the time Elliot turned 9, his parents divorced. His father and mother shared joint custody of Elliot.
Elliot was resentful, writing in his autobiography, “My mother indulged me more than my father and Soumaya ever did. She knew what I liked and what I didn’t like, and she would go out of her way to make my life pleasant and enjoyable.”
Elliot remained a mama’s boy throughout his life. When he had a conflict with his college roommates (a common theme, as you’ll see below), he called mommy: “In a panic, I immediately called my mother as soon as I could and told her of the dire situation.”
His mother indulged his tears, and promised to help him move into a new apartment rather than telling him to man up and learn how to live with roommates.
Elliot Rodger believed he was the center of the universe.
Did Elliot’s mother teach him he was the center of the universe? That remains unknown. What we do know is that all of us – simply by existing and being happy – insulted him.
For example, when Elliot’s chubby Jewish roommate got laid, Elliot insulted him. “I wanted to offend him as punishment for his insolence.”
Why didn’t Elliot ask his roommate for some tips? After all, if people “below” you are getting laid, shouldn’t you try to figure out what they are doing? Seeking help simply never entered into Elliot’s head, as he believed he was the center of the universe and that all of us existed for his pleasure.
He raged when people did not give him the princely deference he so deeply deserved. “I passed a girl I thought was pretty and said, ‘Hi.’ She kept on walking and didn’t respond to me. How dare she! That foul bitch.”
Elliot had conflicts with every man he lived with. He became outraged to learn that his black roommate wasn’t a virgin. “How could an inferior ugly black boy be able to get a white girl and not me,” Elliot wondered before calling his mommy to cry.
When he found out his two Hispanic roommates had had success with women, Elliot wanted to kill them. “I wanted to kill them both [his roommates], but of course I was smart enough not to go through with that desire.”
Instead, “I tried to insult him as much as I could, telling him how superior I am to him, and say that he was low-class.”
Elliot Rodger resented his mother for not marrying into a rich family.
Although Elliot was raised primarily by and was indulged by his mother, he resented her. When Elliot attended a Katy Perry concert and had backstage and exclusive access to Perry and other stars, he was outraged. “That was the life I was meant to live. I WOULD BE! If only my damnable mother had married into wealth instead of being selfish.”
In Elliot’s mind, strength of character (the core value of Danger & Play) meant nothing. Instead, “I became even more convinced about how important money and status was in attaining a desirable life of love and sex.”
Elliot Rodger hated men and women equally.
After seeing a happy couple together, Elliot seethed with narcissistic injury. “I wanted to do horrible things to that couple. I wanted to inflict pain on all young couples….I wanted to kill them slowly, to strip the skins off of their flesh. They deserve it. The males deserve it for taking the females away from me, and the females deserve it for choosing those males instead of me.”
Elliot would have hated me. He spoke often of his disdain for men who value physical culture. Upon observing a man and woman eating some tacos and drinking some Coronas, Elliot wrote in his diary: “Her boyfriend was the type of boy I have always hated and despised: a tall, muscular surfer-jock with a buzz cut.”
Elliot Rodger embodied the narcissistic cultural values of status obsession.
He spoke often of his BMW, and Armani sunglasses and designer jeans. His BMW – which he mentioned often – was central to his identity.
“I saw that I was wearing better Jeans than most other guys, and that made me have a slightly higher sense of self-worth.”
He believed that having material possessions made him better than everyone else. “I had recently bought a flashy new shirt from Armani Exchange that made me feel particular fabulous,” he wrote.
When he became depressed, his mother gave him gift cards to Nordstrom. Elliot spoke of how powerful and superior he felt by wearing ornate clothing. “The only way I could gain a boost to my self-esteem was to buy better looking clothes.”
Elliot often committed (or, ala American Psycho, imagined himself committing) violent acts against those who dared to insult his dignity by simply living their lives.
Even in violence he obsessed over name brands. “I made a U-turn, pulled up to their bus stop and splashed my Starbucks latte all over them.”
Elliot Rodger was taught that female approval defines a man.
Elliot struggled with meeting women. Rather than work on his game, he believed that his failure went to his core as a man. “What I truly wanted…what I truly NEEDED, was a girlfriend I needed a girl’s love. I need to feel worthy as a male.”
When he was having lunch with his father, Elliot felt sick when a couple sat down at a table next to him. Their existence made him question is worth. “I was ashamed to be in an inferior position in front of my father,” Elliot wrote. “I wasn’t the son I wanted to present to my father. I should be the one with the hot blonde girl, making my father proud.”
Where did Elliot get the idea that a woman’s approval mattered above all else?
Elliot Rodger wanted to get rich quick and believed he was entitled to money.
Elliot developed a habit of playing the lottery. He didn’t win the jackpot earlier in life, even though he bought hundreds of dollars in tickets.
In college he started playing the lottery again. This time he believed that winning the lottery was his birthright. “As the jackpot reached over $200 Million, I spent more of my saved money [he had had $6,000 saved up from mommy and his grandparents] on lottery tickets, but I still didn’t win. I knew that the more I spent on tickets, the higher chance I had on winning…..I was destined to be the winner of the highest lottery jackpot in existence.”
Elliot Rodger was a real life Patrick Bateman / American Psycho.
Look at the seething resentment in Patrick Bateman’s face. That’s no doubt how Elliot looked.
Elliot Rodger represented everything Danger & Play opposed.
I have written often and spoken out against status obsession.
I write that a man must first master himself before he should expect himself worthy of the affection or admiration of men or women.
Elliot had a lot of problems. I teach that a man should reframe his problems as a source of power rather than seethe like a helpless beta male.
I argue that men should have a muscular physique. Elliot ranted against men with muscles, calling us “hulks” and “brutes.”
Elliot Rodger is feminism’s “Frankenstein monster.”
Elliot was raised by a woman and clearly did not have a strong, alpha male role model in his life. He was taught to worship vanity rather than develop strength of character.
He was brainwashed to believe that he had to prove himself worthy of women.
If you want to blame someone for the massacre, don’t look at Danger & Play. Take out a mirror at look at yourself.