Yesterday an airborne infantry solder and war veteran shared 47 tips for men in their 20s. Today we hear from an airplane pilot and airplane owner.
He visualized what he wanted his life to be like. He encouraged his conscious and subconscious mind to work together rather than against one another.
He directed his energy towards the universe in a positive and abundant manner. His story is inspirational and his words offer much for men of all ages to reflect upon.
I am truly humbled that this is the caliber of man who has taken time out of his busy day to help all us go from average to alpha.
Context and Clarity
The most important starting point is a context for your life, and clarity of vision and definition. Without this, how do you gauge progress? You don’t, because without clarity of what you want you can’t even DEFINE progress, much less measure it.
Define your context. What life you want. Within different contexts, the same word has a different meaning, so clarity of purpose and vision can’t occur until you have context. “Success” does not mean the same thing to an artist as it does an entrepreneur. Neither are correct or right, they just have different contexts. What is the big picture of what your life is about? That’s your context.
You should be able to do that in a few sentences at most. Something like “My life is a relentless yet joyful pursuit of my primary values, which are 1) my family, 2) my friends, 3) my manifestation as a positive impact in the world, and 4) experiencing the time I have on earth as an adventure above all else.”
You don’t have to follow that model, you don’t have to share any of those values, you don’t even have to define your life as a pursuit of your values (though it seems to make sense) but you must define it somehow at a very high level. Now you have context.
Within the context I provided, “success” is measured by how effectively I am pursuing those values. Am I having a deep sense of relatedness to my friends and family? Am I making the planet a better place in some way? Am I enjoying the journey as an unfolding storybook in which I get to be both author and illustrator?
Now that these high level concepts are clear, the clarity of pursuits within that context can now occur. The most important part then is to define what you want to have show up in your life. There are two reasons. 1) It directs your conscious actions. 2) It is the job of your subconscious mind to deliver what you have defined and what you spend your conscious time on, and it needs a clear definition to do so.
Don’t define your desired life in terms that are not clear and precise. You may think it sounds good to say “I don’t want a house payment any more.” or “I don’t want to ever have to work again.” Those are horrible definitions. The former can be completely fulfilled by becoming homeless, and the latter can be fulfilled with a simple life prison sentence.
If you don’t define your desired life in clear terms that anyone could understand and not misinterpret, then your subconscious can’t be working on it while you’re doing other things.
Some examples that I told myself for decades before fulfillment:
“I will have a loving wife and four wonderful kids.” I started saying that when I was 14. By 30, I was on my second marriage (still happily married to her today!) and between the two kids from my first marriage, the one my second wife brought from her first marriage and the one we created I got my four kids and a loving wife.
“I will build my own airplane.” I started saying that when I was in my early 20s. I was broke, driving a purple Toyota station wagon I bought for $400, and was getting evicted. 20 years later I built it, and it’s here at my house along with two other planes.
“Someday I’m going to live on that airport.” There was a cool little airport community buried in Pennsylvania that I thought was awesome. At 19, I looked at it and said “someday I’m going to live there.” I should have been more specific about the date, but 24 years later I bought my home and hanger and moved to the airport.
I didn’t know exactly how all those things would come about. That’s the reason you make it clear to your subconscious what you want, because it’s going to work behind the scenes to figure it out for you. Now, what do you do with your conscious?
Embrace what I call the suck of short duration…or SOSD for short. The SOSD is the simplest principle yet makes the largest difference. It’s simply this: Embrace something that will suck for a short period of time, any time the payoff pays off ALL THE REST OF THE TIME!
That’s it! And the value is this: 1) Most people won’t embrace it, so you increase your value by being someone who will. And by doing what they won’t on a regular basis, you will become capable of doing what they can’t. 2) The degree to which you embrace suffering through the SOSD is how effectively you are telling your subconscious that you REALLY want something! It’s your subconscious’ test of your commitment to an outcome.
The SOSD applies everywhere: It SUCKS to do a real 20 squats program. The payoff is immense, and 20 squats once a week takes about 3-4 minutes, and pays dividends the other 167 hours and 56 minutes. Good ROI.
It SUCKS to live on less than you make so you can save 10%. But that simple choice will pay massive dividends if you make it a lifelong habit.
It SUCKS to confront your spouse or significant other with a difficult conversation regarding your needs being met, especially if you know it will lead to fighting or hurt feelings, but the relationship you want can make you happy, and make it easier to do all the other things that make you happy.
It’s everywhere. Be totally committed to discomfort as little as .1% of the time, up to maybe 3-4% and MAGIC will happen.
Guess what the alternative is?
Well, if you are willing to have things REALLY suck for a tiny part of your life, the rest of your life can be TOTALLY….FUCKING….AWESOME.
Or you can avoid the intense discomfort, shy away from the pain, and your ENTIRE life will always suck at least a little bit.
Those are my pillars. Define your context and the life you desire in very clear terms. Pursue that life with the SOSD approach and the combination of your clarity, the actions you consciously take, and most importantly the clear way you’ve given your subconscious its marching orders will all conspire to give you that life you’ve define.