Move and Live With a Purpose

Go to a public place like a shopping mall or park – or anywhere else that people congregate. Take a look around you. What do you see?

You see a bunch of people who move without purpose or direction.

Are you one of those people? You might be without even realizing it.

Most people don’t move properly because they aren’t in touch with their bodies. They don’t have alpha male body language. They treat their bodies like an abstraction – like something that exists apart from “them.”

Treating your body like something separate from “you” causes you to walk like a dork and it also causes sexual anxiety and problems like poor bedroom endurance.

Walking improperly – and you probably don’t walk properly – also lowers self-confidence. Using alpha male body language naturally raises testosterone levels.

Most people don’t walk properly.

They sort of shuffle their feet with their chins down and they move unnaturally. They don’t get momentum going.

This makes sense, since no one actually taught you how to walk.

Walking the right way will boost self-confidence, increase your state of certainty, and make you a better lover.

If you think I’m joking, listen the the latest podcast. It is a 15 minute instructional tying together a lot of concepts.

Then go for a walk.

You will feel more confident, self-assured, and dominant.

Post a comment with your findings below. I know what you’ll find, because this isn’t stuff I read in books.

This exercise is something I’ve done personally for many years and that I created just for you.

  • James Mark II

    People drive the same way too. They go to the gym the same way. These people live their lives going through the motions like some kind of brainless zombie with no purpose or determination in life. It is quite sad.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Yep. Checked out, unconscious, unaware of their bodies and surroundings.

      Zombie shows are so people because that’s what we are – a nation of zombies.

  • Acksiom

    ABS: Always Be Skilling

  • http://tallyoungman.wordpress.com Tall Young Man

    I chuckled at “the penis is me”. Yet it is true.

    The influence of the body over the mind is something I’ve been reflecting on for a while. It takes me back to my days of zazen. Not body-mind, but one single entity.

    That’s why I lift weights, also.

    Nice podcast, brother.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Yeah, I smuggle a lot of Eastern concepts into this stuff. I’m very “Zen” without being a filthy hippy or pathetic LuLu lemon wearing scenester who goes around saying, “Namaste.”

  • Fortis

    Interesting. I’m glad you made this post: I’ve found that I feel more “in” my body these days. I used to feel like a sort of disembodied intellect, but I now find that my thoughts are more deliberate and concise since I’ve begun to take care of my body through diet and exercise. Can’t wait to listen to the podcast and get my swag walk going. My mother actually casually mentioned that I need to work on my walk, ha.

    I walk as though there is nothing in my way and nothing can stop me, so it looks kinda robotic to some people.

    Says the podcast is unavailable. What’s up with that?

    • Fortis

      Nevermind.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      SoundCloud has been having issues. This is one technical difficulty that is not my fault!

      They should be back up soon (if not already). Refresh your browser and see what happens.

      • Fortis

        Yeah, I refreshed and it was all good! Thanks, mike.

      • Fortis

        Wow, man, you keep blowing my mind with these awesome podcast. This makes a lot of sense in my life: I used to walk the exact way you’re describing as a child. Occasionally, I still do transition into this way of walking and people always go, “slow down there, buddy,” or “what’s your problem?”

  • http://minaisarmed.blogspot.com/ Mina Smith

    Works for women too ;-) It’s good to always be in “Yellow” as well.

  • Jack

    Great podcast Mike. Two things it made me realise were:

    1) I work at a restaurant and when it gets quiet, I’m meant to stand out the front and greet potential customers as they walk past. Instead, I continually pace around the entire restaurant because I get so absorbed by my thoughts.

    2) Flexing my calves while walking made me feel like I had a “spring in my step”. I now see where the expression comes from.

    However, I’m having an issue with flexing my glutes when I walk. Should I spend more time doing exercises that work the posterior chain?

    • Danger & Play Blog

      You have glute amnesia, as mentioned in the podcast.

      Keep doing the walking exercises and they will “wake up.”

      It doesn’t make sense to train the posterior chain when you have a major weak link (no glute recruitment). That’s how guys get injured…

      They read an article in the muscle comics about the posterior chain, then they load up the bar and all of the weight goes on their back. Boom. Injury.

      Wake your ass up (literally) by walking and then move on to the other stuff.

      • Jack

        I’ll keep that in mind. Appreciate the info.

    • Clint Barton

      Could try #1 and #2 a few times a week: http://bretcontreras.com/how-to-fix-glute-imbalances/

      Shouldn’t take more than 10-15min. Emphasis is on activation, not load. I do this before squatting because I’m quad dominant on the squat.

  • anon1

    Not blowing smoke up your ass but this is the best podcast yet. I had always suspected and noticed a link between the forward momentum of walking and a movement and growth in my own ideas. But its nice for someone else to identify it so clearly and what’s more give advice on how to improve oneself holistically through walking with a conscious regard. I was always told that many professors move around like their body is just merely a transport vessel for their brain and nothing more, hence their atrophied and weak bodies (by and large, with a few exceptions ) . I will be reincorporating this into my weekly routine as I have been finding some of my ideas are stale as of late (doing the whole James altucher idea factory generation thing he advocates in his blog). Just for clarity, the steps in improving gait were: heel toe, start flexing calves, notice and flex glutes to lengthen oneself and get out of that anterior pelvic tilt shit that people do in offices, upper body, shoulder neck and rest. Is that correct?

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Yeah, that’s it. Just flow man. Become one with your body.You’ll start moving forward and it will all come together.

  • XCSkierBen

    Always walk with purpose. Then pay attention to how others react to you.

    Also…

    “All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Yep, Nietzsche was a great walker.

      Socrates and Aristotle taught philosophy while walking.

      Moving body = moving mind.

      Here’s Thoreau’s essay on walking.

      http://thoreau.eserver.org/walking1.html

      (The site seems to be down now/loading slowly, but it was working the other day.)

  • Torsten

    This is so fucking good and so fuckin true. I’m lucky in the way I have a very physical job, and when i’m not workin i’m studying standing up, but nevertheless having a great posture have always been a strong point of mine, one which I always get compliments on. Which is weird, considering how you just need to concsiously think about improving it for a few weeks until it becomes part of you. Whatever. Great blog, one of the few I read every single post of.

  • Seth Rose

    My roommates in college would always know when it was me walking because I notoriously dragged my feet. I never thought much of it, and when I did, I didn’t know how to fix it; I thought it was just how I walked. Within the first 30 seconds of the podcast I knew I should pay close attention.

    So you taught us how to walk correctly, but at what point does this become internalized and just become normal. I’m assuming we aren’t consciously walking the rest of our life… or are we?

    Also, I’d like to hear some info about mobility work as you seem to have a good grasp of it.

    Thanks

    • Danger & Play Blog

      How about this…You do the exercise for a few weeks and then YOU tell ME the answer. ;)

      I’m working on a mobility post.

      • Seth Rose

        Done. I’ll report back soon.

        • Seth Rose

          Well, it’s been a few weeks and can’t say too much has changed. I think it will take quite some time to fully adapt this.

          I notice that when walking for long periods of time, I remember to walk like this so I think a good idea for guys who want to implement this is to go on walks (15-30 mins) for the sole purpose of practicing this.

  • Simon

    This is some Elliot Hulse shit. I like it.
    You mentioned making connection to your penis, and controling it. Have you tried doing kegels?

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Yeah, I do kegels. My stamina is crazy and one reason that when I banged a girl, she always wanted more. Flake rate was 0% after the first bang. (If anything, they would get too clingy and talk how no man ever did what I did to them.)

      Elliot Hulse has good stuff.

      We share similar influences and thus our approaches are similar.

      He’s big into Ralph Waldo Emerson, I am too. I’ve also been into the bioenergetics stuff and CBT stuff for a while.

      I struggled with depression long ago and have a history of serious mental illness in my family. (My mom is bipolar – has legit been institutionalized, and her mother is schizophrenic and lived her last years out in a hospital.)

      Elliot probably had some “mental” issues, too, figured out how to cure them, and now he’s helping others.

      He’s a great man doing great work. It’s good to hear you’re a fan.

      • Simon

        I found Elliott through Hodgetwins videos, he’s crazy good speaker and that’s something I’m trying to be. His videos about making your voice deeper helped me a lot.
        Yeah I thought that you do kegels, props to GLL for teaching me that.
        We talked a bit about that via mail, but now I fully understand why you always talk on twitter how guys should be more rough in bed. Last 2 months of my life have been by far craziest and best ever.

        Choke and spank those girls fellas, they will ask for more.

  • Xpat Player

    I started walking the way you advised yesterday. I felt driven, motivated and completely in control of my body. Probably more potent than any drug I’ve ever used. I also got a lot of female attention because of the vibe I gave out (and I’m not even good-looking/muscular quite yet).

    2 people have already asked me why I as so angry. Not surprisingly, they walk like schlubs. Hard to respect them, but then again, that’s how I used to walk.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Vibe is the manifestation of your mindset.

      If your mindset is one of invincibility and power, then that is the vibe you give off.

      What vibe is more attractive to a woman than the vibe of a dominant, self-possessed man? None.

  • Brononymous

    Fantastic advice. If you walk like a man, you’ll start to realise how cowardly the majority of men around you are. They notice you coming, then are suddenly looking at the ground, or are very interested in something in a direction you’re not in.

    I do most of my best thinking when I’m walking, particularly writing music. Was talking with another songwriter the other week, and, comparing notes, we realised all the songwriters we considered great are very in touch with the cycle of seasons, and it informs their work. I posited it was probably due to them being walkers, and the creative thinking it unlocks, as I’ve noticed again and again how many of them speak of ideas coming to them whilst walking.

    Poets and philosophers also repeatedly mention it.

  • http://waterist.wordpress.com Jackson

    Thanks bro, church

  • James d’Anconia

    Great podcast, insane how as you flex each muscle while walking the rest of your posture begins to essentially auto-correct.

    Found it good to focus on while out daygaming the other day.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Yep. So much of what I teach is stuff I learn from paying attention to my own body.

      I did this podcast after taking a walk and just “listening” to my body.

      Then I thought to myself, “Holy shit, this would make a great podcast.”

      So I did the walk, talked to myself, then started thinking, “OK, how would I explain this stuff step-by-step.”

      Which made me learn it better.

      Best way to learn is to teach.

  • Al

    Hey Mike,

    What do you attribute your stamina to? I tried the kegels for a while but personally didn’t see any difference. It would be great to have your take on how to achieve such stamina.

    Thanks in advance!

    • Danger & Play Blog

      How many sets and reps?

      Are you strong enough to stop your stream of urine when going to the bathroom?

      Kegels need to be done multiple times a day. 15-20 reps, 5-10 times a day.

      That’s what’s great about them, though. You can do them when sitting at the office, when you’re stuck in traffic, etc.

      • Al

        Multiple (several times throughout the day whenever I remembered to do them) times a day for 10-12 reps and holding the contraction for 3 seconds. Can (still) easily stop the stream of urine when going to the bathroom.

        I think my PC muscle was strong to begin with (could stop urine easily and abruptly before even starting kegels), but adding kegels unfortunately didn’t translate to more stamina in bed. Actually, contracting it like for kegels during sex only seems to bring me closer to the edge. Or am I doing it wrong?

        Also, should I take it from your answer that you attribute your stamina mainly to kegels?

        Thanks for your insights, much appreciated!

        • Danger & Play Blog

          No, my stamina is psychological, too.

          My mindset is dominance. How can I be dominant in the bedroom if I’m constantly afraid of shooting too soon?

          You have to remind yourself that, “I am in charge.” That means you must be in charge of yourself, as the man who cannot master himself does not deserve to master others.

          When I’m going hard, I tell myself, “If you shoot now, you are weak.”

          That changes my state and puts me back into a dominant state.

          You can also do “nuts-and-bolts” type stuff like:

          * Changing positions frequently.

          * Change the tempo of thrusts. Go deep, then shallow.

          * Pull out completely and have her lick your balls while you “reset.”

          * Spank and finger her for a little while.

          Another trick: Go deep and stay all the way in. Then bite her neck or something to keep her stimulated while you’re resting. Or talk dirty to her.

          Another trick: Go in and then make her play with her clit. This gives you a break and makes it so she gets off.

          The point is to keep her stimulated/wet. If you just rest inside her you look like a weak man who lacks control over his sexuality.

          I could give tips like this all day, but try that stuff and then report back.

          • Al

            Great actionable advice, thanks! I guess I had it backwards (i.e. you need to have stamina first before you can be dominant).

            Will try and report back the results.

  • Cheeseburger

    Call it a coincidence, but I’m reading a book that dealt with part of this topic. You say going on a walk wakes up your brain and you become more creative can be very true. In “Smarter than you Think” by Clive Thompson, he points out that having this sort of creative burst or a eureka moment comes only when you have a lot of knowledge stored in our brains. He quotes Poincare, “you can’t come to a moment of creative insight if you haven’t got any mental fuel”. So to anyone who is going to incorporate walks into their life, get knowledgable so your brain has material to shuffle around. Don’t expect to come up with a creative and brilliant business plan if you don’t know jack about business.

  • Basil Ransom

    Terrific podcast. If you were a clever marketer, you’d have convinced us that we’d need the Danger And Play Gorilla Walking Claws™ for $199 to realize the benefits of walking like a man… ;)

    I tried walking like you said, and immediately felt a difference. I had wondered about how to walk faster, and it seemed like a chore, but making the change you recommended, starting with trying to flex your calves while walking, immediately had me walking more erect, chin up and actually *propelling* myself forward instead of plodding like everyone else does. Also like you said, it does add a certain ‘spring’ to your step.

    I often wear boots with a sizable heel, which seems to get in the way, but otherwise it feels great. You feel your hamstrings lengthening and your glutes flexing slightly too. Your arms also help propel you forward, as they do in a sprint, instead of being dead weight that flails in the wind as you plod about. I still have to cue myself to do it, but hopefully it will become second nature.

    Your philosophy about advice is starting to rub off – most deliberation over choosing X over Y is pointless – try both, see what happens, measure the response, and fuck everything else. At least half the time, requests for advice are just someone saying “I’m special, so I need to ask a question for which there are already answers, or for which there is no answer except the one I must discover on my own. But I’ll attention whore by asking people, preferably in a very visible fashion that garners lots of eyeballs or responses.”

  • RagnarD

    Saw this and remembered hearing you say the greatest thinkers in history were all walkers

  • C1263

    Thought this was idiotic until I tried it. Feels fantastic.

  • Cheeseburger

    Quote from “How Paris Became Paris” on the topic of Paris’ creative outburst in the 1600s in city design, architecture, public works, etc and the new fad of people walking everywhere for pleasure in a beautiful city and walking in a hurry. In short, how Paris became the “capital of the universe” in the 17th century.
    “A correlation has recently been posited between the pace with which its inhabitants negotiate the streets of a city and the city’s creative output?”

    • Danger & Play Blog

      I believe it. Look at NYC for example. You land and the city feels…well, alive.

  • justgeo

    reminds me of a great saying a wise good ol’boy once taught me. Motion creates Emotion. Moving around especially with purpose like you’re hammering out ideas through your feet pounding on the floor is a great way to open the flood gates that is our knowledgeable minds.

    • Danger & Play Blog

      Yeah Tony Robbins in big on Motion = Emotion. I just think my methods are better as they apply directly to men and aren’t watered down. (I’d love to see how good Robbins stuff would be if he only dealt with a niche audience of men as I do.)

  • dpthrowaway

    Check out this Elliot Hulse video:

    It is very difficult for people, especially sedentary folk, to learn this on their own. Without someone to point out the imbalances it is unlikely that we will recognise them, leading to problems later in life.

  • FonzeBonze

    Does this soundcloud podcast still exist? It is not loading for me and I would like to know if anyone could give me a link to it that works. Thanks

  • Derek Wolf

    Thank you for sharing!

    I’ve been doing your Gorilla posture exercises for several weeks now with noticeable improvement; the “improve posture and lower cortisol” is especially helpful for my desk work. This podcast goes hand in hand… or in stride…! with those.

    It’s great to move with purpose. Doing so, walking through the office it feels there’s enough momentum behind me to walk right through a door. I appreciate you calling us out with the reminder: men SHOULD move in such a way!

    It is telling that standing upright with confidence and moving with purpose gets us labelled as aggressive, negatively. Aggressive? Sure, in the sense that we have testosterone, are on a mission, and aren’t to be taken advantage of.

    But when did that become a bad thing? What has become common, is FAR from normal!

    Genetic expression is as real as it gets… many are shutting down the ideal physiological expressions inherent to us, becoming as fat and lazy as the pigs and feedlot cows they eat. When you say “watch how people walk” in the mall or office – I can’t help but see the resemblance.