After you’ve spent a few decades on this earth and had some high highs and low lows, you eventually understand that there are certain indisputable truths about the human condition.
You see the same patterns repeat themselves over and over again. The patterns appear everywhere, even in unrelated contents.
There are two laws that appear so frequently that you may as well call them the two pillars that hold up your life.
You can troubleshoot your life at this very instant by asking yourself just these two questions:
- Am I seeking pain?
- Am I reading enough?
Doubt me? Then continue reading.
Bring the pain.
To be unlike other men, you must do what they are unwilling to do. You must seek out pain.
Today you know me as a vanilla gorilla, but that was not my start and it was not my destiny. It was an act of will.
I had horrible genetics and no athleticism. I put on fat easily and struggled to put on muscle. I was the proverbial fat kid growing up.
(This was me 25 years ago.)
Now you tell me how some fat poor kid could become who I am today. People want to sneer about genetics or anabolic steroids, but the truth is a long way from the lie haters tell themselves to help them sleep at night.
I learned that raw natural talent only mattered for so much. While others coasted on natural talent, I was hitting a heavy bag and listening to Guns ‘N Roses. I worked my way up to 10 rounds of 3 minutes on the bag – punches, knees, elbows, and shin kicks. Eventually the bag had to be duck taped to keep the stuffing from pouring out of it.
It was intense and after a hard training session I would be too exhausted to play – i.e., waste time – with loser friends. In my free time I read books on strategy and warrior philosophy and martial arts magazines.
I developed an iron will and pushed through the pain. I inflicted psychotic amounts of pain on myself.
I read in Black Belt magazine that kick boxers in Thailand would tightly wrap up newspapers and hit themselves on the thighs, arms, and torso. This was a way to condition your body to accept pain.
So I did that.
I saw a special on Bruce Lee where he would strengthen his knuckles by hitting a spring loaded wooden board. I would punch it until the skin from my knuckles peeled off. Then I’d hit it with the other hand.
I would take a bamboo sword and hit myself with it and shin kick an Everlast punching bag until my shins were bruised.
Decades later when I went in for physical therapy, my therapist called over her colleagues to look at the extra ridges on my shinbones. “I love Wolff’s Law,” she remarked.
Pain applies to every context.
- If you call yourself a writer and you’re not writing 1,000 words a day, you are pathetic. Writers write. They won’t think about writing. Writing can be painful. Fine. Go cry yourself to sleep.
- If you are learning sales and not making hundreds of calls a day, you are a loser. Sellers sell and to sell you need leads. Yes it hurts to get rejected over and over again. Get over it.
- If you put the weight down at the gym when it hurts, just go home. The set doesn’t even count until it starts hurting. Everything else before that was a warm-up.
- You’re in a bad mood? Yes, learning how to change your state is painful. Get used it.
- Don’t talk to me about your approach anxiety. Women scare you? You’re lucky you weren’t born in a jungle filled with lions and tigers. Go watch Oprah and take advice from Dr. Phil.
If you chase pain long enough what you will find is that you end up catching success.
Read until it hurts. Then read more.
A book or article is a man’s best ideas presented in the best way he can do it. He sits down, he agonizes, he writes, he agonizes, he edits, he publishes. Then he feels disgusted knowing that his work still wasn’t good enough.
It is a laborious project to create an article that a reader may read in just a few minutes.
There is a book or article on every subject. On Danger & Play alone there are over 350 articles.
- If you are struggling with women, you can learn how to master women.
- You’re a young man just starting off and you don’t have any mentors? Here’s how to master your 20s.
- You can learn how to have rough sex.
- You can learn how to get your personal finances in order.
- You can learn about how to lose fat, how to gain muscle, and how to lift weights properly.
- Testosterone is too low? We have that covered, too!
Those are just a few articles that appear on Danger & Play, which is but a constellation in the universe of ideas.
Are you really so special, is your situation really so unique, that you can’t find the answer to nearly any problem you have by picking up a book or reading an article?
Be honest with yourself.
If you are failing at some venture or not accomplishing your goals, it’s because you took the easy way, isn’t it? You saw a fork in the road.
One fork led to pain and knowledge and the other fork led to your couch and the television.
You chose to seek comfort and to shut off your brain, to live like a zombie.
That is of course your choice. It is your life to live, not mine.
But aren’t you tired of living like a slave? Y0u came to Danger & Play because you know this is a place for free men who control their own destiny, not a place for slaves.
Will you make a conscious decision to start living a hardcore lifestyle free of excuses? Or will you click the little “X” in your browser and never return?
The choice is yours. I don’t sell ads and have been getting too many page views, crashing my servers.
If you’re still here, don’t be a quiet little mouse. Why are you here? What do you want?
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