Do you want to know the secret to giving up all of your vices? Do you know why you have a bunch of bad habits in the first place?
I will tell you why, and my answer isn’t the same one self-help gurus will give.
There is a sad secret that you won’t admit to yourself.
You have vices because you are aimless. Your life has no purpose.
You are simply existing. You are riding whatever wave life throws at you instead of making your own waves.
I have a solution.
It is a solution that every loser and hater will tell you is wrong.
Obsession is Not a Bad Word.
Losers will tell you that obsession is a bad thing. You should have balance. That is why they are losers. Consider the average man.
(“Will wife/daddy/the boss man let me play with my train set later?”)
Here is what occupies the thoughts of the average man:
- What is my girlfriend/wife doing right now? Is she cheating on me? Why hasn’t she texted me all day?!
- What’s up with the higher ups? That email my boss sent me was vague. Does he like me?
- Check out ESPN.com for MARCH MADNESS!!!
- Oooh, there’s a new PS3 coming out in April!
- What’s for lunch?
- Is it 5 o’clock yet?
- God I need to get out of here and find a microbrew where I can display superior knowledge of hops, malt, and barley to other aimless dorks.
- Time to turn on the television.
The average man is just trying to fill up his day with distractions. He is, as the losers say, “just killing time.”
There is no danger. There is no play. There is only tedium and quiet desperation.
Become Obsessed with Excellence.
Let me tell you what happened when I became obsessed with taking Danger & Play to the next level.
- I don’t want to get drunk.
- I don’t want to watch porn.
- I don’t want to bang random bar skanks. When the girls at the coffee shop couch nuzzle closer to my disgusting muscles I give them an annoyed look. (But my Game remains tighter than a CPA’s butt hole.)
It hasn’t taken me any willpower at all to rid myself of these filthy habits. I don’t have any magic tricks for you. I simply don’t have time for nonsense because I am thinking of too many other things.
I do everything for D&P and outsource nothing. I write/edit every word, edit every podcast, design the page, and handle the backend crap:
- I need to find more gorilla images for the blog.
- What is a bounce rate and how does it impact my SEO and what are the best WordPress apps to decrease it? Is Alexa legit; they don’t even know what search terms people are using to find me. Disqus? JetPack? What is an SSL and private IP and do I need one?
- I wonder how many of my readers train BJJ?
- Yes, I know we are banned from Facebook; thanks for telling me, though. (A hater within the company had me blacklisted.)
- How do I best use my Twitter to engage you guys?
- I’m committed to helping every man who comes to D&P but can barely keep up with reader emails. What can I do?
- How do I send out my newsletter on Mail Chimp?
- I need to go to Jay’s to do another podcast.
- Do I sit on this post for a few days until traffic drops or keep juicing my stats?
- I need to figure out the best camera to buy for the forthcoming ebooks.
- What happened to the day!? Time to hit the gym!
Now instead of breaking myself of bad habits that impeded my success, I am becoming a victim of my own success.
I have too many posts and too many podcasts in the works and I’m overwhelming my readers with original content. Let’s do a separate post linking to and annotating some posts.
When you become obsessed, you develop tunnel vision. Nothing else matters. You simply don’t have to “break yourself of bad habits” because those bad habits cannot compare to your obsession. Find your obsession and everything else will fall into line.
What is your obsession?
Do you have one? If not, what are you going to do to change that – starting today?