A cold wind blew through my bathroom window. As cold water rained down on my chest and I shivered and hacked and pissed down the drain, all I could think about was how a towel fresh from the dryer would feel. Feeling weakness overtaking my body, I shifted my mindset and engaged in state-changing self talk:
You are done when I say we are done.
If you are wondering what a story about a contrast shower has to do with dominating other men and women, good. You’re likely confused because your thinking about domination – like mine was until recently – is backwards.
We all think about domination from the wrong direction. We think about dominating others when we should first think about dominating ourselves. How can you dominate others when you can’t exercise the force of will needed to dominate yourself?
Think about domination from the inside-out rather than the outside-in by taking on a common complaint. “These American women are just so gosh darn awful. I can’t keep them from mistreating me!” Do you know who is worse than the most entitled woman? You!
Who gives you more drama on any given day – some random girl or the entitled princess of your body?
- I don’t want to get out of bed. Let’s cuddle with the blanky.
- I don’t want to edit my blog posts.
- I will not change my state. My emotions rule me. I want to BLINDLY RAGE AND SCREAM!!!
- I want to get fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucccccked up.
- I want to watch porn.
- High Intensity Training burns. Stop the set!
Want, don’t want, whine, bitch, piss, moan. We are a bunch of six-year olds trapped in men’s bodies. Most of the time we give in to these transient feelings. We lack the resolve to say:
No. We are done when I say we are done.
Does your girl mistreat you because she is the Big Bad Wolf or because your weakness reverberates through your soul? Do your co-workers walk all over you because they are evil or because they can sense that you are weak? Are they the problem or are you the problem?
People can only get away with what you let them get away with.
Why should people treat you as anything other than a weakling and a push over when your every action indicates that’s exactly what you are?
Are you being mistreated or treated exactly like you deserve to be treated?
An alpha male learns to dominate his body before he worries about what everyone else is doing. He builds discipline.
Once you can dominate yourself, dominating others comes far more naturally. You get used to dealing with most pathetic, needy, nasty (and beautiful, godlike, and blessed) invention ever created – your human body.
As you dominate yourself, something cool happens. You develop a sense of quietude – an Alpha Zen attitude towards life. This vibe or aura begins to radiates from your soul. You become unshakeable.
Blind rage turns into focused anger that turns into an intensity that burns and destroys all who would dare to challenge you.
Others learn not to mess with you unless they are hiding behind a keyboard.
You are unshakeable, because how can the outside world shake your mind when that pathetic weak body of yours remains under your iron grip?
Do not learn how to master others until you have first mastered yourself.
(Learn how to master your mindset.)
Read next: How to Be a More Dominant Man Part 2. Body Language and Physical Presence.