What is “Game”?

Dear D&P:

I know you don’t write much about game anymore, but I enjoy your blog and would be interested in whatever random thoughts about game you might have.

Well, sir, I disagree. “Game” to me has never been about parlor tricks or clever openings. Game is based on the whole man concept. To built your game, you have to build yourself up as a man. Become the man to see.

Think of game like an investment strategy. Ideally we would all have substantial assets that would allow us to live off of interest (passive income). While living off the interest, we would be free to engage in other entrepreneurial activities (active income).

Your “whole man” is like an investment property. Get your style in order, lift weights, juice, read books to expand your mind, do alpha male stuff like learn how to fight and shoot guns. This will pay off even when you are not doing anything.

For example, someone once posted a scientific study showing that alpha males flinch less often than beta males, and that women can sense this. Women are attracted to men who do not move around too much.

I do not have to try not to flinch. It’s not a parlor trick. It’s who I am.

When I walk into a bar, there’s a good chance that maybe one or two other guys  could beat me up in a fight. Of course anyone can get hit in the right spot and no one is invulnerable. But I’m not really worried about getting my ass kicked. I also know that even when there are many guys who could kick my ass (if you hang out in Vegas and San Diego, you’re going to run into a lot of men who train and would steam roll everyone but top MMA fighters), they can sense that I could potentially hurt them. (Just as any dork could get a lucky punch in on me, I could be that “any dork” who gets the lucky punch on them.) Predators in nature and in civilization know it’s costly to fight one another. Predators tend to avoid other predators – even when it’s a lesser predator like me.

Accordingly, I give off a very masculine vibe without trying. My vibe is like income coming in from a rental property. I don’t do anything but exist and the rent checks come in.

Having a nice bankroll also improves your game because it allows you to chill out. I’ve been in situations where I had to know how many drinks were just ordered and hoped my debit card have enough cash on it. Worry about money messes with your mood and hurts your game.

When you have some cash stashed away, you don’t fidget or get worried. You know that if there’s a logistical snafu, you can just get a hotel. You got it covered. You’re in control. You give off a stronger, more dominant, masculine vibe.

Building up your style also improves your game. If you look great, you will draw attention to yourself without having to make yourself known like a nerdy kid in school who keeps raising his hand whenever the teacher asks a question. (Check out Masculine Style.)

The U.S. is a land of fat males and skinny fat males and skinny dorks. If you have muscle, you will stand out. If you have broad shoulders and a narrow waist, you will get noticed.

Juicing is scientifically proven to improve skin quality. People who juice a lot of carrots, for example, have the same glow as someone with a  light tan.

Now, none of this means that the hottest girls in the bar are going to approach you. What it does mean is that they have noticed you.

It also means that girls will regularly approach you. I’ve hung out with quite a few guys from the Roosh Forum. They have all witnessed me get approached. Again, I’m not saying it’s models throwing themselves at me.

Without my having to say or do anything actively, plenty of bangable girls basically put themselves at my feet. Other girls will sorta start moving towards where I am, waiting for me to open them.

Some may say this is arrogant, and it would be if God had given me a fair shot at winning life.

Instead, I was the proverbial fat kid growing up and had asthma and was on welfare. I couldn’t even run around the block. I also have bad acne later in life.

My motto, once I began developing a life philosophy and thinking for myself was, “Fuck Darwin.” I didn’t just passively accept that nature or the universe game me. I began building myself into the man I wanted to be.

Some people even accuse me of having good genetics. I laugh and have absolutely shocked people by showing them pictures of me as a kid and teenager.

To the extent I am “somebody,” it’s because I’ve built myself up.

That’s game.

Game isn’t running dorky routines. Game isn’t being an entertainer who gets a lot of numbers and make outs but never closes.

Game is taking yourself to your highest potential as a man.

Hence, every post that appears on this blog is about game.

Read next: Five Fashion Rules for Men.

  • http://nexxtlevelup.com Nate

    Shiiiiit! Class dismissed

  • http://realitydoug.wordpress.com ‘Reality’ Doug

    Awesome. One of your best posts: philosophically grounded, concise, and true. You didn’t tear down others, which has a use but is means and not an end. You expressed your positive self, your intrinsic direction, and your values as the end of masculine purpose and being. To the newbies, use the dorky routines until you don’t need them because they became dorky to your improved self. Game is all about field experiences while keeping some evo theory basics in mind.

  • http://www.redonkulas.com terrence popp

    how to not get married and play the game forever.

  • anon1

    Good article. I was looking into some more red pill health stuff recently and came upon an area called ‘epigenetics’. hugely interesting. In a nut shell, lifestyle influences what genes turn on and off, and so can have a major impact on your life, and change some inherited traits if you or whoever decides to reproduce.

    Basically saying “it’s genetics” is not an excuse anymore. for more or less anything.

  • Jordan

    D&P,
    Love your blog. Been reading it for the past year and half.
    I wanted to comment on your ‘Don’t waste your twenties’ post, but comments are closed.

    As you know D&P, my entire Gen Y generation has been socialized to instant gratification. We want instant access to quality poon without putting in the work, expecting Game results in a matter of months instead of years in the trenches, focusing on immediate results instead of enjoying the process. What are your thoughts/feedback on how men in their twenties can balance instant gratification v.s. improving your Inner Game (Krauser’s post on accumulation phase)? Thanks.

  • http://badgerhut.wordpress.com Badger

    Great stuff. If you’re improving as a man, you’re adding to your game, and when you have good value, you don’t need any more than basic tactical fundamentals (how to approach, how to escalate, how to close the deal). I’d bet that the more complex and sophisticated you’ve made your game, the more you are going to be papering over mediocre real value.

    One more item…personally, I’ve found that venue selection, finding niches where I have a lot of value and my style works well, is important. The sort of academic cocktail house I’m a winner at. The frat/sorority-style fern bar down the street, I’m a guaranteed blowout. Don’t waste your time with girls who aren’t interested, and don’t waste your time at places those girls go.

    • http://badgerhut.wordpress.com Badger

      Let me clarify my own point…I don’t mean picking a place to “go out and pick up chicks,” I mean finding places to go in your life that are congruent with your type of value and where you can express your kind of lifestyle.

      • Danger & Play

        Sure, there’s an entire post somewhere on D&P about finding your niche.

  • le prince perdu

    this post makes so much sense

  • http://www.goodlookingloser.com/ Good Looking Loser

    “Juicing is scientifically proven to improve skin quality.”

    for some reason this is where I started to read the article haha… Carrots, not testosterone, we’re talking about though.
    And actually Carrot Juice is one of the only supplements I take.. Juicing organic carrots is fuckin awesome but it takes about 2 hours to get a good gallon.

    My dad ran a produce business in WashDC. and brought home vegetables before they past their shelf life, my older brother eat/drank so many carrots that his skin literally turned orange.. so what you are saying is no joke.. so umm… good call

    • Marko

      you should buy a vitamin. There pricey (like 500$) but worth the investment. You can make pretty much any juice in less then 2 minutes.

  • Marko

    I don’t mean to be a buzz kill but not everyone can stand out like you make it seem. I am 6.3, 205 pounds with 10 percent bf but one thing that allows me from gathering so much attention from women is my face. It is not UGLY by any means, but I am not attractive as well. I am average or maybe slightly above. So, I don’t fuck a lot of hot females because of my face but I do scope the average and kind of cute ones. I’m guessing this falls into your niche correct? Because we can improve our body and mind all we want but our face can sometimes hold us back from attaining the hottest girls.