Guys new to the game are always looking for openers – that is, magical lines or questions that will cause a woman to immediately find him interesting. In real life an opener should be much simpler. An opener is just something you say to get the conversation started.
In How Did You End Up Here?: The Surprising Ways Our Questions Connect (Amazon)Davy Rothbart gives you 100 different openers:
What do the questions we ask others, even complete strangers, reveal about ourselves? And can the answers we seek shape our own lives and dreams? Davy Rothbart wants to know. Rothbart — a writer, reporter, and documentary filmmaker — is known for his curiosity about other people’s lives. Whether it’s the folks he interviews as a frequent contributor to public radio’s This American Life, or the people he connects with through the deeply personal notes and letters published in his annual magazine, Found, Rothbart has honed a unique talent for compassionately probing into the lives of strangers and drawing out surprisingly revealing stories of beauty, heartbreak, and humor. In How Did You End Up Here?: The Surprising Ways Our Questions Connect Us, Rothbart collects more than 100 of his all-time favorite questions to ask someone you’ve just met, generated by people around North America whom he’s only just met himself. Rothbart opens his toolbox, sharing secrets of his trade, stories from the road, and strategies for approaching people and pushing past superficialities while also taking a close look the questions themselves — the funny, strange, surprising questions we all want to ask the people around us.
Great for players, salesmen, or anyone whose job involves talking to strangers.
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