It sounds abstract at best and cheesy at worst to say, “You are the average of your 5 closest friends.” Or, “If you hang around 9 broke people, prepare to be the tenth.” If you want to appreciate that wisdom in concrete terms, do what I just did.
Go to a public library without any smart phones or note pads or computers. Resolve to stay there for 2 hours. Eat your carbs or drink coffee before going into there so you don’t find an excuse to leave.
What are you going to do?
The answer seems obvious. “Derp le derp,” you might reply, “I’m going to read.”
As with all hidden wisdom, you need to consider the implications.
You might read magazines or you might read light books or you might read challenging material. But you will be doing something productive. More importantly is what you won’t be doing, namely, you won’t be wasting time on unproductive activities.
I often tell guys to just go to the gym for an hour. “What should I do?” Just go to the gym. At the very least you won’t be wasting money, eating fried calamari, drinking alcohol, or watching TV.
Going into a positive environment without any aim or goal is often the single most productive thing you will do all day. Consider why that might be.
If you want to meditate, you have to learn to sit still, say nothing, and focus on simply existing. Meditation is extremely challenging, right?
If you’re in a bookstore, you’ll read books. If you’re at a shopping mall, you will spend money. If you’re at a bar, you will drink
If you’re with losers, you will lose. If you’re with winners, you will win.
Changing your life seems hard because you haven’t changed your environment.