One of the most commonly asked questions on game forums goes something like this:
How can I explain what I am doing to my family? My mom tells me I should settle down with a good girl. My dad thinks my lifestyle is immoral. My brothers and sisters judge me. What can I do?
The short answer is that you don’t explain shit. Unless someone is living the life you want to live, why are you even listening to them?
People don’t like how you are living? What have they accomplished? What qualifies them to tell you anything about life?
Oh, because they are family?
So what? My brother is a loser who just got out of prison for shooting his meth dealer. I haven’t talked to him in a decade. Why would I associate with such a scumbag? Because he’s family?
Guess what, you are only responsible for your own choices. Did you chose your family?
I would love having a cool younger brother. It would be bad ass to hit the gym with a guy with whom I had 30+ years of shared history. It’d be awesome to go into business together. It’d be great to run game.
But I didn’t get to choose my brother. Instead of having a legit dude who wanted to go places, I ended up with a real shit bagger. Oh well.
Your mom doesn’t like how you live? Well, that’s her problem, not yours – as it’s your life, not hers.
Why does your mom – who should love you unconditionally – care more about some random girl whose finger you’d put a ring on than about you?
Is your mom more loyal to her gender than to her own son? If that’s the case, you need to tell mom to drop the subject or else you’re hanging up the phone.
Your dad doesn’t like your lifestyle? Again, that’s his problem. You dad was foolish enough to marry your mom, after all. That’s proof enough he’s unqualified to talk about the game.
You didn’t ask to be born. You don’t owe your parents anything. Your parents were motivated by evolutionary forces to procreate. They selfishly choose to have you. You can selfishly decide whether or not to keep them.
If you want to become a man, you will need to reject the losers. That includes your family.
Some may read this post and think I have a horrible relationship with my family. Those people (haters) would be wrong.
I have a great relationship with my father. I love him and will always be there for him.
I worship my grandmother. She was a matriarch who kept our family together when times were tough and she raised good sons.
But I love my family based on their merits and not out of some Hallmark card sentimentality.
If your family is holding you back, cut the cord and begin living life as a man.