Biblical Wisdom: My Approach to Friendship

Although it’s now “cool” and “edgy” to mock all things religious, one of the best guidebooks for a man is the Bible. I re-read the Proverbs at least once a year.

Go to a meeting of the skeptics and proclaim, “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.” (Proverbs 21:9.) Or, “Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house [with a brawling woman].” (Proverbs 17:1.)  See how fast the “open-minded atheists  kick your ass out of the group.

People still read the Bible today – and I read the Proverbs – because its wisdom is timeless. Although we modern men like to think our complaints about American women are exceptional, the Proverbs were written over 2,000 years ago. They were written by old Jewish men about old Jewish women. Our complaints about American women apply to all ages and all cultures.

My approach to male friendship comes directly from the Bible. People think I’m harsh when I tell them that no one is immune from eviction. I don’t talk to my younger brother because he is a fuck-up. If I give a guy a chance and he fucks up, then we just never talk again.

I am the first guy to both do another man a solid and the first guy to kick fuck-ups out of the crew.

You should always give a person a chance to rip you off. Just do a small favor or give them a small amount of money. If they cheat you on small matters, they will cheat you on larger matters.

This approach comes directly from the Bible. Enjoy!

Parable of the Talents/The Parable of the Bags of Gold

14 “Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. 15 To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag,[a] each according to his ability.Then he went on his journey. 16 The man who had received five bags of gold went at once and put his money to work and gained five bags more.17 So also, the one with two bags of gold gained two more. 18 But the man who had received one bag went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money.

19 “After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them. 20 The man who had received five bags of gold brought the other five. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with five bags of gold. See, I have gained five more.’

21 “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things.Come and share your master’s happiness!’

22 “The man with two bags of gold also came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with two bags of gold; see, I have gained two more.’

23 “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things.Come and share your master’s happiness!’

24 “Then the man who had received one bag of gold came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. 25 So I was afraid and went out and hid your gold in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.’

26 “His master replied, ‘You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? 27 Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.

28 “‘So take the bag of gold from him and give it to the one who has ten bags. 29 For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. 30 And throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’

  • Ironchefoklahoma

    Well-put. And there’s:

    Iron sharpens iron,
    and one man sharpens another.
    (Proverbs 27:17 ESV)

  • http://augustspoos.wordpress.com Spoos in August

    I’m not a believer, but I certainly have no problems recognizing that the Bible’s got a wealth of information about human behavior, much of which is very relevant today.

    • daniel

      I second you.

  • Rob

    Never fails that people cut off the nose to spite the face. The child who can’t listen to the father’s sound experience and advice is similar to the atheist and religion. Early bias in a person is powerful beyond belief. The raw emotion, the powerlessness, we don’t easily overcome it.

    • Andy Drew

      Get a bunch of people obsessed with being good people for the reward of paradise, give them the money and food (taxed off hardworking peasants) to sit around and do nothing, and they’ll come up with some nice obvservations of humanity. Atheist philosophers and scientists have gone much, much further – before and since. I’m not really sure how rejecting the notion that a magical being interferes in our lives (that is atheism, by the way) precludes one from insightfull advice on humanity. Most of the greatest works on science and humanity were done by atheists and diests, so to imply that these great men were rebellious ignorant children ironically actaully says such a thing about you.

  • liam

    open minded atheist…………oxymoron?

    • Thor

      Many so called atheists call it for god on their death beds. If you fuck an atheist chic good enough you might even get her to start speaking biblical.

  • Thor

    So many lessons in the bible that we lost touch with or just simply ignore. Even has good advice on diet. Never mix meat and milk, blood and flesh !!

  • samseau

    I don’t understand what this proverb has to do with friendship.

    All the dude did was hide his master’s money because he thought it would be a good idea to keep some money hidden in case bad shit happened to the master.

    Then the master became furious for the servant not trying hard enough, and throws him out on the streets.

    A good parable for running a business? Maybe. Friendship? Don’t see it.

    • Rob

      The servant feared his masters wrath because if he lost the money, the master would have punished him. He wasn’t concerned or fearful of the masters well being.

      As for friendship, I read it as don’t be friends with people that bring nothing to the table. The other two servants brought value to the relationship. The third servant was dead weight. Be friends with people who can improve your life and teach you things.

      That’s how I read it, anyway.

    • admin

      A parable’s meaning isn’t always immediately obvious.

  • ygmm

    Here are some about women:

    http://www.openbible.info/topics/nagging_wife

    Proverbs 21:9 ESV / 160 helpful votes

    It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

    Proverbs 27:15 ESV / 116 helpful votes

    A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike;

    Proverbs 21:19 ESV / 108 helpful votes

    It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.

    Proverbs 25:24 ESV / 90 helpful votes

    It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

    Proverbs 19:13 ESV / 60 helpful votes

    A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain.

  • http://admiralcod.blogspot.com/ Laguna Beach Fogey

    The OT is fucked-up.

    Greek and Roman wisdom, and old European folktales, are much more relevant to our situation, and more faithful to our roots.

    • Simon

      Yes, let’s forget about the past 1500 years of European Christendom, let us go back to our “roots”…lol…

  • David Alexander

    Absolutely.

    I “troll” people at my college campus whenever they mock religion and specifically say I read the Bible is far more aligned in regards to female nature than 50 years of postmodernist feminism ever could. My track record with women shows up these clowns real quick, real slick. You don’t even have to reach for the proverbs, hell, you could just look at Samson and Delilah and see Delilah (who works for the state) use her sexuality to beta-ize the great Samson and lead him astray. And of course the connection with Eve and the Serpent.

    Wives submitting to their husbands (as
    It is masculine leadership, reason, and sense of direction and connection to a higher soul (i.e. reason, morality, justice, honor) that existed in the form of loving, strict fathers that made quality daughters. Period.

    I’ve read an excerpt from a quote called Golden Age from an author in the English Revolution. Talked about how things were amazing before the Garden fo Eden where you could just run through meadows, eat, and f*ck all day. And along came the most devilish, evil concept that ever came about.. Honor. Whcih destroyed all that pleasure and innocence and paradise. Honor, standards, and rules.

    Women’s nature without male leadership is antithetical to a productive civilization. Point fucking blank period. With it, it is the most crucial component.

    That’s what happens in matriarchal societies like the Mosuo in China have. Dudes don’t do work, don’t get smart, don’t get built, do nothing to add to their legacies, but randomly have sex with a bunch of whiny bitter women doing all the work.

    Even the Radical Islamists with their Qur’an have verses discussing how women are naturally ungrateful, more sexual than men (in that they receive more of the pleasure), that cruelty/firmness are required to create boundaries, and that husbands have to speak up for their women (because they will ALWAYS DIFFUSE RESPONSIBILITY) and as “terrible” as it sounds hit them with a stick lol.

    Read Autobiography of Malcolm X to see his view. Very player-ish.

    Say what you will about how the Desert Religions managed to impede scientific progress (and by all means it did). But they did offer a clear-cut family structure that is far more in line with nature and far more effective than this bastard idiotic fucking “equal partnership” shit with wives mocking dumb husbands on tape and pretending to be the assertive, mature one. Yeah okay.

    Guess what the consequence of “submitting to husbandsis? Loyal, devoted women who put their family and men in front of themselves and find happiness in being SELFLESS.

    Now they ain’t exactly PYTs. But there’s much to be learned from the Ancients.

    The best person I can think of who embodies this is GreatBooksForMen.

    He continues to preach the wisdom of the past.

    Perhaps we don’t need religion.

    But men need power.

    And they need something equally as potent. And no, simple reason doesn’t cut it. You have to be willing to match the fear of hell and other shaming devices to regain hand.

    And if that doesn’t come to fruitition, well… alpha up and no feelings.

    • Andy Drew

      I’m no expert, but as far as civilisation is concerned, western civilisation is a million miles ahead of that of any islamic state, anywhere. I don’t think their attitude towards anything can be evidence to anything but disaster; certainly not optimal civilisation. I agree women are probably happier in their natural roles than when they’re trying to be men (as of late). I don’t agree that books written and worshipped by what reads as the writings of angry, jealous, woman phobic insecure men can be any guide to male-female dynamics.

  • David Alexander

    And on that note..

    “The rich get richer”
    “You need women to get more women”
    “Respect begets respect.”

    And so on and so forth.

    Is there anything in the world that favors the empty-handed to begin with?

    Perhaps Fortuna.

    Is it possible to cultivate an abundance mentality with a minimalist lifestyle?

  • Feldspar

    I once lent a piece of industrial equipment to a guy I’d just met in a bar that was a friend of a friend. He responded with solid appreciation and returned the favor when I needed his help. Six months later we were in business together.

    I’m not a believer either but that wisdom is some real shit.