5 Tips for Men Who are Going Bald

It’s not a question of if a man will lose your hair. The questions are: How soon and how bad will it be?

A man loses between 50 and 100 hairs every day of his life.  That’s tens of thousands of hairs each and every year. That’s if you’re lucky.

If you suffer from male pattern baldness, you’ll lose hair at an even quicker rate.

(This male pattern baldness chart shows the most common types of hair loss in men.)

So let’s spend some time talking about whether and to what extent losing your hair will decrease your attractiveness in the eyes of women.

What to do if you suffer from male pattern baldness?

First, if you suffer from male pattern baldness, start taking action immediately. Don’t live in denial. You are losing your hair.

If you are unsure whether you are losing your hair, have a friend compare your hairline to that chart. Anything that is II or below means your body is waging a war of attrition against your hairline. You are losing.

Use Rogaine. Get a prescription for Propecia or Dutasteride – which is actually more effective than Propecia:

We report on a 47-year-old man who was initially treated with finasteride for androgenetic alopecia. Despite continuous treatment, after year 4 his hair density was not as good as at year 2, and low-dose dutasteride at 0.5 mg/week was added to the finasteride therapy. This resulted in a dramatic increase in his hair density, demonstrating that combined therapy with finasteride and dutasteride can improve hair density in patients already taking finasteride.

Propecia is really expensive. In my town, it’s $190 for three months. It is possible to get Propecia from a research chemicals company. I’m not going to post any links. But if you search Google for “finasteride research lab,” you will find a lot of sites discussing how to get a good deal on Propecia.

I know many men who swear by Propecia. It is legit. It works. Get some.

Propecia has sexual side effects in some men, so if your body responds poorly, weigh the costs and benefits. I have an unfilled prescription for Propecia. Luckily my hair is still pretty awesome. But my mane is not what it was in my early 20s. I’ll need to fill my Rx eventually.

Get a shorter haircut.

Second, if you’re over 30, get a men’s short hair style. It seems counter-intuitive, but shorter hair looks better on an older man. I bring this picture into a salon before getting my haircut.

(RIP Paul Walker.)

Get a legit stylist.

Third, if over 30, start seeing someone at a legit salon. A quality haircut is going to cost you. It’s worth it.

Also, female hair stylists have their finger on the pulse. They always know where the fun after hours parties are. Build up your relationship (strictly friends) with your hair stylist and you’ll be able to meet girls through her.

Shave your head to look more powerful.

If you’re going bald, shave your head. Science has shown that men with shaved heads appear more powerful.

Up for a promotion? If you’re a man, you might want to get out the clippers. Men with shaved heads are perceived to be more masculine, dominant and, in some cases, to have greater leadership potential than those with longer locks or with thinning hair, according to a recent study out of the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School. (WSJ.)

Big muscles look great on a bald man.

If you’re losing your hair, don’t look like a fat dumb egg head. If you’re fat, this is how you will look with a shaved head.

bald man

And get a body. You must get a body. A bald man (or man who is losing his hair) with broad shoulders looks powerful and attractive to women.

In a #nohomo way, compare at the picture on the left to the one on the right:

On the right, do you notice Daniel Craig’s shitty hairstyle? I think not. (Again, no homo.)

On the left, look at his hairline. It is highly receded. He is a 40-year-old man, after all.

You can notice his hairline despite his $250 haircut and Photoshop magic. Yet you (and girls) won’t notice his hairline at all in the picture on the right hand side.

Do not be fat and bald.

If you are skinny and bald, you are not totally screwed. But life will be tougher. Do not be skinny and bald. Get some arms, shoulders, and pecs. Girls won’t look at your hairline because they will be too busy looking at your arms.

In any event, hair loss is inevitable. If you take the right drugs, build a good body, and dress nicely, it won’t harm your game too much.

One man put it best when asked if going bald doomed him to a life of celibacy with women:

  • Young and in shape with hair: did well.
  • Young and in shape with less hair: did well.
  • Older and in shape with missing hair: did well.
  • Older and slightly out of shape with no hair: did badly.
  • Older and out of shape with no hair: fucking awful.
  • Older and in shape with no hair: doing well.

A fat body will cost you more lays than a bald head. You can’t totally stop hair loss, but you can control how fat you get.

Take care of your skin, too. If you have less hair on your forehead, you’ll call more attention to the fine lines and wrinkles on your face.

  • sosweet2362

    Hmmmm, I agree. Bald can be just as sexy as a head of hair. But nice arms (not huge biceps) and shoulders are sexy as hell.

  • http://rivsdiary.wordpress.com rivsdiary

    good stuff, as always.

    we were just talking about propecia on roosh’s forum.

    http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-16342.html

  • FFS

    Pro tip: Propecia is a 1 mg dose of finasteride. You can get a prescription for 5 mg finasteride (generic, extremely cheap) and simply slice the pills up into 5 pieces.

  • http://primallykosher.wordpress.com primallykosher

    TYpe 6 here. Shave my head with an electric razor every few days. I have a feeling hairloss is due to deficiency. I like the look though. Makes you look more mean and in charge.

  • http://mattforney.com/ Matt Forney

    Just want to warn guys about Propecia; it doesn’t work for all men. I briefly used it several years ago to curb my male pattern baldness. All it did was slightly slow my hair loss. No side effects, fortunately, though I heard of some guys bringing a class action lawsuit against the company because taking Propecia screwed up their sex lives.

    My dermatologist straight up told me that there’s a significant minority of men for whom Propecia simply does not work. (There’s also a minority who will actually gain back the hair they lost, as opposed to just stopping hair loss.) I’m not going to say “don’t use it,” but go in informed.

    • Gannicus

      I had the same response as Matt to it. It may have briefly slowed hair loss, but it did not prevent anything.

  • Carl Sagan

    I don’t get all the guys worried about hair loss.

    So many great examples of bald men who look great. Model yourself after those dudes. The Jason Stathams, Dwayne Johnsons, and Vin Diesels of the world (all in great shape btw).

  • http://admiralcod.blogspot.com Laguna Beach Fogey

    Very useful post.

    “You can’t totally stop hair loss, but you can control how fat you get” — well said!

    If you’re trying to attract women, focus on the things you *can* control. Build a superior physique. Educate yourself to make yourself more interesting to them. Wear stylish clothing. And work on developing Game, if you don’t have it already.

    There’s nothing more unattractive on a grown man than long hair. Especially if said man is a pretty boy, older than 40, or is out-of-shape.

    Very short hair (or no hair) is more masculine.

    I keep my hair clipped extremely short, almost a skinhead-style,with medium sideburns, though I’m between a I and II (see chart, above).

  • http://www.rooshv.com Roosh

    I got 99 problems but head hair isn’t one.

    • http://scartissue.us Wald

      One of the benefits of being a hairy ass Turk.

  • (R)Evoluzione

    Good post. I’ll add that there are some essential oil blends that are well-demonstrated in clinical trials to help hair grow thicker. There are a few other herbs that can be taken orally too–polygonum multiflorum is supposed to help with hair color as well as thickness. Saw palmetto is another plant that acts pharmacologically in a similar, but weaker manner as finasteride. There are actually a fair number of natural products out there like shampoos, conditioners, and scalp toners that may work for you. It’s worth experimenting with. It’s actually a decent opener to approach women with thick, beautiful hair with a comment or question on her hair. One could defuse any possible gaydar from that opener by telling her that long sexy hair is a sign of fertility, and that she’d have beautiful babies with the right guy.

    I started losing hair in my early 30’s after a severe infection from an animal bite. My hair was falling out in clumps, but that was the least of my concerns at the time. When I finally kicked the bug, I went to work on the other things that needed work–my body (gained almost 20lbs of muscle since then,) and my hair. Using herbs, essential oils, and solid nutrition, I would conservatively guess I’ve regained about 40-50% of the hair I had lost. It’s not quite the amazing head of hair I had in my 20’s, but it’s way better than immediately following the illness. My hairline had gone from a I to a III-vertex almost overnight when I was ill. It’s not back to a I pattern, but it’s still better than a II. It helps that I have very few gray hairs, and that I also take very good care of my skin, and it shows. I routinely have lots of people, especially 18-24 year old women ask me how old I am, and I always tell them to guess. The responses I get range mid-20s to early 30’s, and no one has ever come within 6 years of my real age. I always say “Great guess,” and change the subject.

    Oh, and I agree about shelling out some cash to get a great haircut. I’ve been seeing this lady for about a year now who does an old-fashioned razor cut, which makes a very hip, layered look. My business allows me to obtain her services on a trade basis, and so I do see her often, about every 2 weeks. The retail value of this service is probably around $240 a month, and I do believe it worth every penny.

    • Jzb

      I started losing my hair around 24 (I’m 29 now). It started to grow in really thin with a receding hair line. I was disappointed to say the least but I said to hell with it and started shaving my head. I wasn’t going to be one to try every concoction under the sun to save my hair – I knew I was losing it and decided to accept it and move on.

      Thankfully it’s not a bad look for me, though when women see pictures of me from those days they all comment on how attractive I was, which is frustrating. But whatever, I’m learning game/getting huge and it’s going well

  • http://krauserpua.wordpress.com krauserpua

    I have pattern baldness V per the chart. I’ve only had two women overtly comment on my baldness since I learned game:

    1) 20yr old Spanish girl while in my bed wearing a Japanese school uniform
    2) 29yr old smoking hot black girl, comment came inbetween two blowjobs

    They don’ts give a fuck if you shave your head and don’t give a fuck. The black girl said she fancied me in part because of the baldness, that’s what her comment was about.

    I agree on the body. I have a middleweight boxer’s physique. Not jacked, but strong and lean. I look far far better than most 25 yr olds, much less 37 year olds.

  • Rafael

    If you are loosing your hair the only action that should be taked is buzz cut it.

    Finasterid is very controversial and dangerous.

    Also, it must be hell waking up every day going crazy about your thining hair. Embrace it and be free.

    Hair isn´t necessary to have a satisfactory sexual/love life. Confidence, good clothes ( the ones that fit your body and are masculine ) and a good body are.

    Confidence comes from having goals and achieve them one by one.

    If you don´t know how to dress, masculine style and It´s a primal thing can help you.

    And to have a good body you need set this as one of your goals and go after it every day.

    There are no short cuts.

  • Cesare

    Good post, particularly the aspect of focusing on what you can control as opposed to what cannot ( fat vs hair loss). My hair seems to be shorter every year, the convenience factor with sports being the primary factor. As far as how hair loss affects results with women, I can only agree that the body is primary. That said, attitude overcomes all. I think if you come across as overly sensitive about it whether it’s the arcane physics of the Trump comb over or wearing a hat so long people think you’ve become a rabbi it is seriously un-Alpha.

  • Thor

    Surprised you would recommend rogaine and propecia. Nettle root and 5,000 iu of vitamin d3 daily for the win. Head stands ten minutes daily to promote growth and blood flow.

  • Tengu

    Has anyone tried Bosley and gotten good results? I’m not against getting plastic surgery to fix my mane when I start shedding in mass, but I have an Asian friend who tried it, then again, and now his hairline looks like Kim Jong-Il’s.

  • http://curmudgeonloner.wordpress.com CL

    Bald is not the end of the world. I didn’t notice that dude’s ‘bad hair’ (huh?) in either picture. It’s not worth potentially messing up your health with drugs. Those things reduce testosterone.

    I think I can speak for most women when I say I’d rather my man had a hard cock than hair on his head. A man with great hair and a limp dick isn’t going to impress anyone. Don’t be a sad bald fuck, just accept it and don’t give a shit. If a woman doesn’t like it, leave her to her vibrator.

    Good lines for bald guys: “It’s a solar panel to a sex machine.”
    “God only made a few perfect heads; the rest He put hair on.”

  • http://www.southernmanblog.com Southern Man

    I’m fifty-something and while I’ve dodged the male pattern baldness of most of my male relatives what’s there is thinning, and fast. But, I disagree with use of hair treatments. They (mostly) don’t work, the ingested ones can have horrific side effects, and hair loss can accelerate when you stop using them. My advice: Mother Nature is a bitch, and she’s gonna win, so pick your battles with her carefully. Find a hairstyle that works with what you have and put that money and effort into your body instead, where you have a fighting chance. Your body is more important than your hair.

  • Stig

    It’s a good time for guys who are thinning. The shaved/close clippered look is in and those unfortunate long hairstyles of the 70’s/80’s are so out.

    Everyone should try it. You’ll probably like it. If you don’t, it grows back. If you’re thinning, it sorta grows back. No harm done in any case.

    A lot of woman really love it and none are shocked by it anymore. My attitude to anyone who doesn’t like it is screw ‘me anyway. I really enjoy having it all taken off by my cute barberette. By the way I have a fine head of hair, better than Daniel Craig it appears.

    Having good hair shaved off is kind of like owning a yellow Ferrari. In the same way as owning a yellow Ferrari say you have so much money and status that you can afford not to give a shit about having a conventional red Ferrari — or maybe this yellow one is the 3rd one in a line in your 15-car garage — shaving off great hair says it’s so good I can do violence to it without a care.

  • dem

    21 herewith a receding hairline… and everyone says i dont look my age… sucks to havea receding hailrine at this age…iam going for laser hair therapy as a last resort

    • Thor

      What is your diet/lifestyle?

      • dem

        .i am at 15% body fat at 6 3 and 210lbs.
        i eat healthy enough for a 21 year old.
        no one has a receding hariline in my family.

        i went to the dermatologist ( she was such a bitch, ). she told me without any medicaltests that nothing can be done and i should use rogaine or propecia. i told her to fuk off.. she wasnt even that experienced.

        i am supplementing with d3 and other stuff for soe time now.. hair still receding man…

  • nek

    Another Off-Topic question,

    Do you still have any close friends that you’d consider blue-pill? I read your ‘Building your crew’ post, and it made me think that with blue pill friends it’s best just to cut them out. However, since more than a few people and old friends are still ‘blue pill’, it seems that this approach could result in little to no friends or even people just to go out with. Just wondering your take on that and how you manage that (not just Danger and Play, but for anyone who reads this and would like to chime in). Maybe this could be another post topic. I know it’s off topic but your advice on matters seems pretty solid, and this is something I’m starting to confront more and more.

    Thanks,
    nek

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  • DestroyToCreate

    The generic finasteride is a great idea, it is much cheaper than Propecia, and is the exact same stuff, just cut up the pill. One warning though, do not let chicks even touch the chopped up pills. The active ingredient can (will) cause birth defects, and women should not even touch the pills.

    There are also some other alternatives that do work. PRP (Platelet-Rich-Plasma) therapy costs a lot but worked great for me. Takes about 1 hour, once a year. No side effects.

    Also LLLT (Low Level Laser Therapy) has been shown to work as well. You need several 30-45min treatments over the course of two months. Totally painless. No side effects.

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  • anon1

    Hey Mike, so i know this is an old topic but i had a few questions.

    Recently started to notice that the corners of my forehead the hair is starting to recede back.

    Core scalp is pretty luscious still but hairline is in the very primary stages starting to work its way back.

    I didn’t think the fear would effect me too much but it has quite a lot.

    I always rocked short hair, but the idea of it receding when i’m only in my mid 20s is not something i can really contemplate.

    Any advice?

    I don’t want to apply chemical ointments or pills that have potential for negative sexual side effects [especially when i'm trying to increase my natural testosterone]

    is there anything mineral supplement wise or things i can be doing to help?

    It may come to the point i’ll have to do a full shave but the type of group of friends i have [all have long hair] they’re going to be the antithesis of supportive