Years ago I would pore over Maxim and other mens magazine like Esquire and GQ for the answer to this question, “How do I know if a girl is interested in me?”
These articles would teach you how to recognize when a woman was sending what dorks call “indicators of interest” (or IOIs). For example, if a girl waves her finger through her hair while looking your way, she has given you an indicator of interest. If a girl sees you and turns her back to you, she has given you an IOI. (She more likely turned her back to you because she was interested in you. Looking for social validation from her friends, wanted to ask her friends to check you out to see if they approved of you, too.)
When talking to guys with high notch counts, though, I noticed something.
Players never say to one another, “Oh, she just looked my way, held eye contact for 3 seconds, and then turned away. I can now see that she is checking me out through the corner of her eye.”
Players see an attractive girl and make the approach, whether she is giving an IOI or not. The assume she is interested, much like a salesman assumes the sale.
When you think deeply about it, looking for an IOI is inherently supplicating. Why do you need a woman’s permission to approach her?
Men look for IOIs to minimize the feelings of rejection. By only approaching women sending out strong signals of interest, the man is minimizing the chance he will be rejected.
But guys with high notch counts have all been rejected hundreds of times. Rejection is part of the game. Players don’t need the IOI safety net to catch them from the fall of rejection.
Although knowing body language and how to read and understand IOIs are useful, never wait for an IOI.
If you see a girl you like, don’t sit around asking how you can know if she is interested in you. Make you move.