What color are your barista’s eyes? You probably do not make eye contact with people, and it’s costing you opportunities at your job and with women.
Making eye contact will teach you a lot about yourself and about others.
What a girl’s eye contact says about her first impression of you.
If a girl looks down ground, she views herself as having lower status than you. If you meet a girl who looks down, do not too cocky. She already feels insecure. Being too cocky will sabotage the exchange if you go on strong. Go direct with a simple, “Hi.”
Girls who look to the side after making eye contact view you as an equal or an inferior. She is looking away, a dismissive tone, rather than down, which is submissive. Be cockier around girls who look at you sideways. Use indirect openings to catch her attention, and do not be afraid to tease her.
What if you look down rather than hold eye contact?
If you look down, it means you’re submissive. If you look down after making eye contact with a woman, you have subconsciously told her that you’re a worm. You’ve lost the game.
Girls seem to enjoy getting into staring contests. Hold the gaze and then smirk. If she smiles back it means she is mirroring you reflexively. Call her over to you.
Learn the power stare.
If you want to fuck with someone’s head, stare at her forehead. This is called the “power stare” and it’s extremely effective on women you meet out and it works in the workplace too.
Learn to look through people.
If you don’t really care about your job and want to get out of the office, look down after your boss chews your ass. He will subconsciously process the eye movement as a sign of victory.
Sometimes you should lose the eye contact game.
If you care about your career, make eye contact and hold it. To avoid a power contest that you are sure to lose (but you don’t want to submit either), divert your attention to something on your boss’s desk. Then say, “I never noticed _______ about ________ before.”
You can use a girl’s eyes as a pick-up line.
The only time I compliment a woman is when I compliment her eyes. But don’t just say, “You have purty eyes.”
Say, “You have an intense gaze. Do men sometimes find that intimidating?” Then start talking about how infrequently people make eye contact. If you say something like, “People spend too much time looking at their iPhones,” she is less likely to answer texts while you’re talking to her.
Women are addicted to eye contact. If you frame the conversation by talking about her eyes, you will make a deeper connection with her.
All women like to believe that their eye color changes. This is especially true of girls with green eyes. If a woman has green eyes, say, “What color does your eyes change to in the sun?”
How to learn how to make better eye contact.
A simple way to learn how to make better eye contact is to practice on baristas, cashiers, and clerks. Imagine you are taking a quiz tomorrow. The quiz will ask you the eye color of 10 people you interacted with the day before.
When buying coffee, ask yourself, “What color was the barista’s eyes?”
You’ll learn to hold eye contact long enough to find out the answer.
When you arrive at work, be prepared to answer the same question about your co-workers’ eye colors.
If you can’t say what color a person’s eyes are, then you’ve failed the quiz.
Bonus tip: Your eyes will follow your chin. If you want to maintain good eye contact, keep your chin up.
Read more: The Power of Eye Contact (Amazon).