Men get hung up on unimportant questions. Guys are always asking whether something is alpha or beta. Alpha and beta are means to an end. If being a beta gets you what you want out of life, who cares if you’re not alpha?
The question reminded of a wonderful parable:
A Philosophy professor picked up a large empty jar and proceeded to fill it with large rocks. He then asked his students if the jar was full? They unanimously agreed that the jar was full.
Then the professor picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He asked his students again if the jar was full. Again, they unanimously agreed that the jar was full.
Then the professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
“Now,” the professor said, “I want you to recognize that this is your life. The rocks are the important things: your family, your partner, your friends, your health, your children, and things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else. If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.”