Men have become so obsessed with alpha and beta that they’ve forgotten something important: Alpha is a means to an end, not an end in itself.
Generally a man will have the most happiness if he’s the alpha in a situation. As sexless nerds masquerading on the Internet as players say, “An alpha male has greater access to resources, which is positively correlated with reproductive success.”
In other words, even the most die hard defender of the alpha-beta dichotomy recognizes that being alpha only matters because being alpha generally leads to more sex, money, and positive life experiences.
Although it’s useful to wonder if something is alpha or beta, it’s even more useful to ask: Does it fucking matter?
I know some men who claim, “If mom is happy, everyone is happy.” If making sure your girl is happy really does lead to your own happiness or fulfillment, who cares if rubbing her toes and making 10 p.m. ice cream runs is alpha or beta? Who cares if working yourself to death so she can spend your money in stupid shit is alpha or beta?
I will be the first guy to point out that “making momma happy” very often leads to misery. But if your relationship works, does it matter if you’re the beta? It sure wouldn’t matter to me.
Being an alpha is hard work. Being in a relationship requires a man to constantly discipline his woman. The single man has to keep his game tight. Game is like boxing. Take a few weeks off, and you’re timing is gone
To survive in the U.S., a man needs to be alpha. Again, though, alpha is still a means to an end, and not the end in itself.
If you enjoyed being in the Army, does it matter that you’re merely beta males working on behalf of the Illuminati? During my service I was able to travel, get paid for going to college (and the GI Bill was tax free), and my tuition was fully paid for. I even had fun.
It doesn’t matter even a little that guys who have necks thinner than my biceps opine that joining the Army is beta. What does matter is that my experience in the military was enjoyable – to me.
Some day we’re all going to be old men, sitting on a rocking chair or hospital bed. Even if we’re surrounded by family, we’ll spend more of our dying days inside our own heads.
When you’re reflecting on life, you won’t be asking whether you were alpha or beta. You will be remembering and reliving positive life experiences.
Stop wondering if something you’re doing is alpha or beta. Instead focus on whether you’re actually enjoying yourself.
If you’re focused on always being alpha or beta, you’re probably too busy being an uptight, insecure keyboard warrior to enjoy yourself.
If you are creating memories that will nourish your old soul, you’ll living life as it should be lived.