Rave Game

Friends sometimes bust my balls about having a game blog, not because I don’t pull, but because, “You don’t run game!”

In a sense, my friends are right. I don’t stack negs on an HB while DHV’ing until kino escalating. Instead, I focus on finding the right niche, or what you cool kids call a scene.

If I don’t enjoy an environment, I don’t stick around. Pure “gamers” would say that I avoid situations that would lead to incongruency. I say that life is short and being places I don’t want to be in order to get laid isn’t generally worth it.

Game is a hobby, not a job, and when you find the right scene, game is a fun and rewarding hobby.

Thus, a lot of my game tips focus on finding your niche. If you find your scene, you’ll pull more women than you otherwise would.

The above mindset let me to interview DJ Kalin Tyler.

I discovered Kalin’s music on a message both we congregate at. As a guy who has partied in some amazing clubs and has friends who are successful enough at DJ’ing to earn a living doing it, I have at least somewhat of an ear for it.

I knew the kid had talent.

And when he posted an epic set of rave girl photos, I knew we had to interview him.

Although, in Kalin’s words, “House music is about love, not sex,” raves and parties like Ultra (which attracted 400,000 party goers) are a great scene for a guy who is into house music.

In fact, if you love house music but have weak game, you will likely meet more attractive woman than usual.

“I was at a show inDallas,” Kalin notes, “when I saw a guy who must’ve weighed 400 or 500 pounds. He was deep into the music and just dancing. Suddenly a girl who you’d consider way to of his league started dancing with him. They left together.”

“House music is like that.”

Kalin wasn’t surprised: “Girls who go to raves have trouble meeting people who enjoy the music. Most of their friends don’t listen to it. Most of their co-workers don’t like it. No one understands the scene. These girls are looking for a connection.”

A lot of rave girls – maybe even most, according to Kalin – don’t believe in monogamy and don’t want a relationship.

I asked Kalin what advise he’s give a guy who wanted to get into the rave scene.

Going to a rave is not a “fake it ‘til you make it” situation, as you need to be really outgoing to enjoy yourself.

Plus, the best parties are the underground, after-hours parties. These events are invite-only. To score an invite, you need to make friends.

“Talk to everyone. You never know who is promoting an event. If you’re outgoing and make a connection, you’ll be good with everyone in the scene.”

If you like Kalin’s music, follow him on Twitter:


DJs get bookings based on the number of downloads and plays their music gets. So liberally play Kalin’s stuff at Sound Cloud:


Kalin enjoys the interactive nature of the comments, so I’m sure he’d be happy to answer any questions you might have about the rave scene.

  • http://bronanthebarbarian.com Bronan the Barbarian!

    I went to a rave last weekend. Since I’m a die-hard metalhead, I figured it would be lame, but whenever anybody asks me to do something new, my default answer is “yes.” At worst I get something to write about.

    The big surprise – It was fun as hell. Not to mention I’d say roughly 70% of the girls were bangable, which is way better than in daily life. I’ll definitely be hitting up more in the future.

  • http://gravatar.com/loosewin loosewin

    How does one break into the rave scene? I’m in Chicago is that makes a difference?

  • http://gravatar.com/vanitylicenseplate carioca

    In a bar or club, you can do the PUA maneuver of isolating the HB from her group. Generally it´s not possible in raves. The girls are not in the mood of flirting in raves, they seem to be genuinely having fun with their friend enjoying the music. Thus, you´ll have to join her group and have fun spontaneously with them if you want any connection with HBs. This is the way it works in Brazil.

  • Chi_Banger

    Music Festivals are the comeup! Just came from Summer Camp Music Festival in southern Illinois, they are a non stop party for four days, I’d suggest Bonaroo, Wakarusa, and Electric Forest, they will change your life, I myself DJ and will be promoting my music at the latter, check the link for my tunes if you have the time, I could write a guest post on festival game if you’d be interested- Cheers


  • Ra

    +1 vote for some festival game data

    I’m not into E or pills, does that pretty much make me lame to rave goers?

    • Serg

      Just lie about it dude!

      I’m surprised D+P didn’t mention that side of the scene but it’s such a given at these parties that it just makes everything laughably easy.

      Of course, targeting arguably makes any venue easier, but at raves, having hot chicks rolling at the end of the work week is just the way they blow off steam. It goes without saying that caveman game is extremely easy on rolling chicks. Just watch out for cockblocks, especially if a chick is new to rolling or the scene, her friends are gonna be babysitting like crazy.

  • Fearless

    Plan on hitting a festival or two this summer. I’m sure Kalin and Chi_Banger can provide a great write-up on festival game. If anyone is interested in local raves around NYC this post I wrote may serve as a primer. http://exceedandlead.com/2012/01/stark-raving-mad/
    @Bronan I did the opposite of you man. I listen to house but went to a August Burns Red concert a few months back.
    @Ra don’t worry about the E and molly. Just enjoy the music. Tips in the post.

  • Jason

    Good post. I’m not into house music or the rave scene, but I am in total agreement with finding your niche. As an avid reader, bookstores and libraries tend to be my hotspots for pulling women.

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  • krautz

    Are you in the Bay Area? Do you have any suggestions for the Bay Area?