Are Straight Men at Risk for HIV?

Sexually transmitted diseases are extremely common in America. Some studies suggest that 1-in-3 sexually active people have an STD of some sort. Other studies claim that 1-in-6 sexually active adults have herpes.

Given the prevalence of STDs, many people view getting infected as something you “charge to the game.” At “feminist empowerment” site Jezebel, women openly brag about their sore-inflicted genitalia:

 JezebelMoe: I think New Yorkers don’t use condoms because they all already have STDs and know they’re not that big a deal.

JPRESS: It’s true. Herpes, specifically. And also HPV. Everyone I know has HPV. And people who say they don’t totally have it, they just don’t know it yet. They have it worse than anyone.

The attitude of Jezebel writers is typical of American women.  When I got back into the game after a decade of marriage, I was shocked by the sexual recklessness of the new era:

I was hooking up with a girl in her bedroom when she said, ‘I’m not going to have sex with you.’ I told her that I hadn’t brought any condoms, so of course intercourse wasn’t expected. She gave me a funny look.

In college, when we are supposed to be at our height of irresponsibility, girls almost always insisted on using condoms during a one-night stand.  Maybe you’d get to go raw dog after running out of condoms. Yet girls were very insisting on condom usage.

Today women seem to be anti-condom. Many women actually got upset when I try using one. Unless I pulled out a condom, condoms would not be used during sex.

Although an STD may be inevitable, there are some ways to avoid them.

First, don’t fear the Bogeyman. Let’s get the big one out of our minds.

If you’re a straight man, you will almost certainly not contact HIV. In fact, the risk is so low that it doesn’t make sense to fret over it.

Although the government and media treats HIV like a crisis impacting all, that’s a lie. HIV is not a disease that straight men who have sex with straight women need to concern themselves with. This CDC chart lists new infections by demographics – age, race, and gender.

(HIV infection rates by age, race, and gender.)

HIV infection by age race gender demographics

“MSM” in the chart means men who have sex with men.  “IDU” means intravenous drug users – i.e., filthy druggies.

As you can see in the chart, HIV impacts (in this order):

  • White men who have sex with men
  • Black men who have sex with men
  • Hispanic men who have sex with men
  • Black heterosexual women
  • Black heterosexual men (see note about “down low brothers,” below)
  • White heterosexual women
  • Hispanic heterosexual women
  • Black male intravenous drug users
  • Black female intravenous drug users

Straight (non-IV drug-using) men almost never get AIDS.

Heterosexual men aren’t even listed on the chart of new HIV infections, as the rate of new infections is too low to note. In fact, as explained below in the excellent Details expose, there has never been a documented case of a straight man contracting HIV through heterosexual intercourse.

HIV is really hard to transmit. HIV does not penetrate the skin barrier. HIV need an “open route” into the skin.

For a straight man to contract HIV from a woman during heterosexual intercourse, two conditions must be present:

1. There must be an open sore such as a cut or herpe.

2. Salvia or blood must come into contact with that open sore.

Even if both conditions are present, the rate of infection is less than around 1%.

CDC data does indicate some heterosexual men contract HIV each year. Look at the data, but with a skeptical eye.

Although there were 508 new cases of HIV infections attributed to heterosexual contact, it is likely the case that those newly-infected men were not being honest. Men who engage in gay sexual contact or use IV drugs aren’t likely to admit it to a doctor.

(Diagnosed HIV Infections Attributed to Heterosexual Contact, by Sex and Race/Ethnicity, 2012 – United States and 6 Dependent Areas)

HIV infection straight males

Has there ever been a single documented case of a straight male contracting HIV through heterosexual sex?

We are taught that HIV affects everyone. That is a lie. HIV is a disease afflicting gay men and black women. Of course that doesn’t mean no one should care about AIDs. But it does mean we should rationally assess our risk.

Is HIV something we men need to worry about?

Details magazine did an amazing expose on HIV that every man should read:

Straight men and women make up 90 percent of the population, but they account for only 15 percent of non-childhood AIDS cases. Only 6 percent of men with AIDS, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says, contracted the virus from straight sex. And even that figure doesn’t hold up to a closer look. Several studies now suggest that most men who claim they got the virus this way are lying. They got it from sex with other men or sharing needles with addicts. Those studies also show that many women listed in the straight-sex category are either IV-drug users themselves or have likely contracted AIDS from sex with an IV drug user..

Don’t be gay. Don’t use illegal drugs. Don’t have sex when you or she has an open wound or a herpes wound. That’s it. You’re safe from HIV.

Let’s look at some more CDC data on HIV infection rates. Who is at risk?

Straight women have higher rates of HIV than straight men.

That said, there is a group of straight people – women – who have extremely high HIV infection rates. You can scream racism all you want, but the statistics are what they are.

Black women have higher than average rates of sexually transmitted diseases.

The Center for Disease Control (CDC) provides this data about STD infection rates among black women:

The study finds that women and blacks were most likely to be infected. HSV-2 prevalence was nearly twice as high among women (20.9 percent) than men (11.5 percent), and was more than three times higher among blacks (39.2 percent) than whites (12.3 percent). The most affected group was black women, with a prevalence rate of 48 percent.

Again, like it or not, blame it on society or not, the truth is the truth. Black women have high rates HIV:

By the end of 2008, an estimated 240,627 blacks with an AIDS diagnosis had died in the US. In 2007, HIV was the … third leading cause of death for black women and black men aged 35–44.

The high incidence of herpes and HIV in the black female community has been the subject of articles in Jet and other black-owned magazines. The leading theory is that straight black women – 5o% of whom have herpes – become infected by “down low brothas.”

What does “down low” mean?

Since homosexuality is frowned upon in the black community, black men are forced go to on the “down low,” a term for staying in the closet. These “down low brothers” engage in sexual intercourse with men in secret and then infect their female sexual partners. Wikipedia explains:

Down-low is an African American slang term that refers to a subculture of men who usually identify as heterosexual, but who have sex with men; some avoid sharing this information even if they have female sexual partner(s). The term is also used to refer to a related sexual identity. Down-low has been viewed as ‘”a type of impression management that some of the informants use to present themselves in a manner that is consistent with perceived norms about masculine attribute, attitudes and behaviour.'”

As black women have high rates of herpes infections, the HIV from closeted black men enter through the open barrier provided by a herpes sore.

How can a man avoid STDs?

The simplest ways to avoid contracting a serious STD are: a) Don’t be gay; b) Don’t have sex with someone with herpes. (If you have herpes, obviously do not have sex, as an open would could infect your sexual partner as well as put you as risk for HIV.)

Now that we’ve gotten the HIV boogeman out of the way, it’s time to talk more about how to avoid getting a sexually transmitted infection.

Don’t miss: How to Avoid STDs, Part 2.

  • Cutadash

    Uh, regardless of your suggestions, some people are gay or more specifically, men who fuck other men cuz they like it. In order for them not to get HIV, they need to put a condom on. Which in truth, stupid fags won’t do. Smart men who have sex with men, who are honorable, will. There are many who walk among the manosphere.

  • Samuel

    Good post. I’ll be looking forward to the next installment.

  • Rivelino

    didn’t know you were into black chicks. what about their hair? can’t stand black chick hair. i like to pull hair.

  • samseau

    The reason gay’s spread HIV is because of anal sex.

    Are you sure black women don’t have HIV more than white women because of Black men’s preference for anal?

    • Alpha

      This is a good point.

      • Brian

        I was thinking a similar thing with regard to the “don’t be gay” comment. I hear that a lot, yet never see them point out that “don’t be gay” = “don’t do unprotected anal”.

  • Chef In Jeans

    As a flag waving Thomas Jefferson (white guy the likes and prefers dark complexions) im apt to oppose this idea that black girls spread AIDS. I have a feeling this is more of a class issue then a direct race issue. Now are there more low class trashy black girls thelan other races? Yes.

    Im also curios what % of the suspect black girls were of recent african decent (within three generations) and thereby higher risk

    • littlepdog

      A massive part of it would because of their lower incomes. HIV rates are higher for Hispanics as well, but not as much. Recent African (excluding White South African) immigrants are actually the most educated and wealthy immigrant group in the States (almost 1/3 of Nigerian Americans have graduate degrees), which would slash their HIV rate. The Africans that immigrate to the USA are the wealthy upper-middle class ones who aren’t as badly affected by HIV back home. (wrong link in username)

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  • anon

    I think you are spreading a lot of pandemonium with regards to black women and HIV. First off saying something is the third leading cause of death amongst a group in a *specific narrow age range* tells you nothing about the prevalence rate itself for all age ranges or much about the demographic that is getting HIV within that group.

    What I want to know is is of the 20 million or so black women in the USA, what percentage of them are HIV positive. What is the black female HIV infection rate per 100,000. And of those, how many of them are ghetto trash that most of us wouldn’t even encounter anyway unless we were trawling for girls in the projects? These would be more meaningful ways of putting the numbers in perspective. Am I just as likely to get HIV from that black girl at the university pursuing her law degree as one in the projects hooking up with ex-cons? I seriously doubt it. Use your common sense guys.

    As for herpes. Well if you are that worried about herpes, you probably shouldn’t be in the game community in the first place. Just find a nice girl who has only slept with a couple guys and marry her. Look at it this way, you would only have to sleep with 2 black girls to expose yourself to herpes. You would have to sleep with 6 white girls to expose yourself to herpes. So unless you plan to sleep with fewer than 6 white girls in your life, you will be exposed to herpes if statistical averages play out. So it’s a little hypocritical to hype up the herpes thing while still encouraging a promiscuous lifestyle.

    • dangerandplay

      You sound upset.

      If you like black women, go for it.

      Just don’t act like there aren’t risks.

  • guy with hiv aids

    I’m a straight white man who has HIV that has not responded well to medication and now have a very serious case of AIDS. I was able to change my medications and now have some better hope of survival, however my immune system is not likely to ever recover to normal.

    I caught the HIV from a woman with heterosexual sex. I’m not aware of ever having any open sores.

    Please don’t tell people dangerous falsehoods about HIV.

    It’s possible that you really want to believe that this is not possible, and so consider me a lying hiv nazi . I wish. My life has been seriously harmed by this, as I now have side effects that leave me with very low energy.

    The medicines don’t always work and the disease is not currently manageable for everyone. Some people are termed “non responders”. HIV is still dangerous, and careful studies show that white men catch it from women even when they don’t have open sores.

    • jenndrew

      Thank you for the info; Best Wishes.

  • Laguna Beach Fogey

    Excellent advice.

    But, in order to be consistent, and in light of the copmments from “guy with hiv aids” (above), you should warn White men against sleeping with White women who sleep with blacks, since as you know blacks have much higher rates of STDs, including HIV.

    Therefore, you need to add the following:

    (c) Don’t have sex with White women who have sex with black men.

    You should therefore encourage White women to avoid black men.

    • anon

      I get the feeling this guy would be telling white women to avoid black men even if black men had a lower HIV rate than white men. Just a hunch.

      • LegallySpeaking

        Just because there is more than one reason not to engage in bestiality doesn’t mean they aren’t valid.

    • anon

      Also buddy, I’m sure you already have slept with some white females who have been with black males. Of course they aren’t going to come right out and tell you this. I don’t personally even know any black guys that haven’t had sex with a white woman before. Good luck finding them all out!

      • Laguna Beach Fogey

        The point remains:

        (c) Don’t have sex with White women who have sex with black men.

        Leave the mudsharks where they belong.

      • LegallySpeaking

        Probably. Most women are whores. Just if you find out a woman you’re with has been with a Negro, drop her like its hot.

  • plainsman844

    You don’t know what you’re talking about. Period.


    The lie that AIDS is a threat to straight men is part of the progressive “they’re just like us!” attitude toward homosexuals.

    I was a victim of this when I was younger. I had unprotected sex with a promiscuous friend who had recently had an abortion (as I said, I was young) and she bled on me.

    I suffered extreme anxiety and legitimate panic attacks about HIV, and got tested. I learned in this process that many other men go through the same health scare after sexual encounters with promiscuous women.

    Think about the perversity of that for a moment:

    Just to preserve the progressive narrative, just to spare the feelings of gay men, mainstream society gives straight men false information that leads to debilitating anxiety and hypochondria. They consider this a fair trade off.

    It’s worth it, so long as we don’t have to point the finger at gays and hold them accountable their rampant sexual promiscuity.

    • millers3888

      It’s amazing to me that telling any and all people to beware of the risks of HIV is a negative, regardless of your sexual orientation.
      The “simplest ways to avoid contracting a serious STD: a) Don’t be gay” — how is that “sparing the feelings of gay men?” This gay man felt like a piece of shit after reading that.

      • LegallySpeaking

        He should; it is a disease brought on by their engagement in a severe, socially destructive perversion. And he’s tried to lie to straight men to get them to save him.

        Stop trying to pretend equality.

      • Mike Cernovich

        If you applied the principles here, you would not feel like shit and would understand the sentence was a rhetorical device. Also, this post was clearly written for heterosexual males.

        You need to work on yourself before you’re ready for Danger & Play.

        • millers3888

          Because gay men are unaware they are at risk for HIV and straight men need reminders they are less likely… The post was condescending, but you’re free to write as a you wish. Like you’ve said, it is extremely unlikely that one article will deter your readers from viewing your page, especially as they’re mostly straight bro’s.

          • Markku Rantamäki

            millers, chill. That “Don´t be gay” advice sounded just like don´t be a poor black person in ghetto or don´t be born in Africa to place where only help is a bushdoctor. Its your own fault bud. You could have been born in Finland as a straight guy etc. but no. You chose the other way…

          • Mike Cernovich

            Although gay men, women, and everyone else are welcome to read my site, my articles are written with straight men in mind.

            Issues impacting gays, women, people in Africa, etc. are no doubt important and are covered in nearly every other mainstream publication.

            So while this isn’t a “safe space” per se, I do write with the interests of heterosexual Western males in mind.

  • LegallySpeaking

    Many black males are very open to homosexual sex–heck, any kind of sex. Note the black male stereotype: obsession with looks, buying the flashiest, most fashionable clothes, love to dance, emotional, loud, center-of-attention, hair and muscle fetishes. All of that is also the
    stereotype of gays.

    Furthermore, the black ghetto is organized like a harem—one or two local big thug gets all the women, while the majority of men (80%) get little or nothing. It’s not uncommon for an alpha drug dealer to have 9 or 10 baby mommas pregnant within a 1 year or 2 of gaining power.

    Thoseremaining 80% either become the big thug themselves (or, more likely,
    die trying), share the remaining few women amongst themselves (hence “running trains” ), and then get high and engage in rape, incest, molestation, and gay sex. The amount of sexual abuse in the ghetto is astounding, but mostly doesn’t get reported, as blacks discourage
    reporting it (and all other crimes), think its shameful to report, and the crimes get lost in the tracking. (Note that in black Africa, raping babies and toddlers is considered ok by many in order to get rid of AIDS; such sexual perversion in blacks seems racial in nature, not due to outside forces).

    The crimes “getting lost” is not uncommon amongst blacks. For example, criminologists and police and the like assumed that serial killing was a”white” thing, and that blacks didn’t engage in it—because the numbers seemed to skew that way. (For a long time, the only known black
    serial killer was Wayne Williams). However, recently upon further investigation it has been shown that blacks actually have a ton of black serial killers among them—it’s just that “random” crimes that SJW’s blamed on poverty/racism were actually the work of serial killers; and blacks never reported the crimes correctly, or no one saw anything, and the black community, being almost non-existent, never had the cohesion or real community to note the patterns by comparing notes—-and serial killers, as any book can tell you, work best when they are anonymous and can disappear into random noise. The lack of black community allowed these monsters to run amok undetected for decades. Yes, decades.

    In addition, blacks in prison engage in A LOT of consensual gay sex—way more than other racial groups there. Non-blacks avoid it more and, if they do engage in it, use it more as a power play on weaker prisoners (as many ancient civilizations, such as Rome, saw gay sex). So black women who sleep with “thugs” probably get HIV from that as well. Since the biggest thugs get the most women, this explains why the numbers skew higher for black women v. black men—-the biggest thug in prison gets the most prison ass, which leads to the big thugs being more likely infected with HIV, and they get out and spread it to 9-10 baby mommas.

  • Mike Cernovich

    I know writing about the truth will cost me some readers, although I’m not sorry to see someone who can’t rationally discuss facts leave. Have a good afternoon.

    • millers3888

      What “facts” Mike? The fact that gay men are at a higher risk for getting HIV than straight men? I’m almost 100% most educated people are aware of that fact. As a gay person who is not even into anal sex and is very cautious with my sex life, the idea that you tell a straight person “just don’t be gay” to avoid catching HIV, that’s totally unfair. Gay sex doesn’t spawn HIV. Gay sex is a common way the disease is transmitted. If two gay men who are negative have sex, they are at no risk of catching the disease. You don’t have to be sorry to see me go, judging from the comments by one of your more dedicated readers I’m not sure I’d be welcomed to begin with..

  • LegallySpeaking

    Yes, you are. Claiming that homosexual pairs are the same as normal, healthy heterosexual couples is pretending equality. They are not equal in the least.

    Homosexual sex is disordered deviance. It is bad for the people doing it and bad for society as a whole. It is correlated to high rates of mental problems, criminality, anti-social behavior, and suicide; note that these numbers do not change even if a locale is “gay-friendly,” thus proving that it isn’t straight social pressure causing gay problems.

    You can take the red pill on homosexuality, or you can put your head back in the sand. Your choice, just as acting out on homosexual deviancy is a choice.

    • millers3888

      All that hate isn’t good for your health. Later dude.

      • LegallySpeaking

        Homosexual behavior isn’t good for anyone’s health, including society’s . And tolerance for such disordered behavior is bad for your own.

        You can live in denial all you want, but you can’t force me to live there with you.

        Take the red pill.

        • millers3888

          No thanks.

          • LegallySpeaking

            Remember then that you are choosing denial of reality—because the truth makes you uncomfortable. You are not following logic, you are using your emotion –your attachment to the pretty propaganda of the pro-homos—to override your logic.

            But reality will not go away because you wish it away, Tinkerbell. And you hurt yourself and society by doing so.

          • millers3888

            What reality am I denying? I am aware gay men are at a higher risk for catching HIV. The only denial I could make would be denying my innate sexuality. Would you condone gay men marrying straight women? I’d find THAT to be more destructive to society than gay couples living their lives together. Thanks for calling me Tinkerbell too, speaks volumes.

          • LegallySpeaking

            You deny that homosexual behavior is bad for society and for its participants. You also deny that society should discourage such behavior. Those denials are ridiculous on their face and fly in the face of logic.

            No one is born gay; all people are capable of all sorts of deviant and normal sexual behavior. That it is “pure nature” is a lie by the homosexual lobby that you swallow without thinking (heh).

            Women and men so mentally diseased who cannot control such deviant, disordered impulses — mostly due to abuse as young children by other disordered individuals, as well as pro-gay propaganda in media, and associated mental disorders—should be put into sanitariums to prevent others from being assaulted by them (especially children, who, if sexually abused, are overwhelmingly abused by same-sex adults—i.e. those acting on homosexual desires). Those who can control their impulses —i.e. the majority of those who claim they are “gay”—should not engage in homosexual behavior, and if they do, be punished by law–imprisonment, chemical castration, etc.

            That you want children abused because you don’t want to be “intolerant” speaks as to how much of the blue pill you swallow.

            Yes, Tinkerbell is appropriate for you. And perhaps one day you’ll understand the reference a little better there, Tinkerbell. Hint: I’m smarter than you, so you may have to go look it up.

          • millers3888

            Not entertaining this anymore. Your comments are incredibly disturbing. You and Cernovich have a nice life.

          • LegallySpeaking

            And like a good little rabbit, when Tinkerbell is confronted with overwhelmingly logical contradictions to his propaganda-based assumptions, and is proven to be a lesser intellect than the one he is trying to shame into submission…

            he runs away. No doubt to encourage his “gay” friends to molest children and demand no consequences.

            Reality is a terrifying place to the blue pillers.

          • Mike Cernovich

            I’m not a fan of that type of commentary, but if you find it “disturbing” you are a weak-willed person. If anything such Sunday service type speeches are boring and played out. You need to harden up.

          • millers3888

            Easy for you to say Cernovich. Next time someone says you should be forced to undergo chemical castration, if there is ever a first time, just lighten up. I feel bad for anyone of his friends or family who might be gay.

          • Mike Cernovich

            I get accused falsely of heinous stuff each day, death threats, whatever.

          • millers3888

            Oh I’ve had my share of death threats as well. One of many reasons I keep my profile private. Doesn’t mean I have to tolerate it or “toughen up”, I’ll call it out. When someone is advocating what he wrote, then accuses ME of being unreasonable, won’t let that slide. Pure hate and it’s unhealthy.

          • Mike Cernovich

            This is too preachy. We don’t really do moralizing around here.

          • Aaron

            This article was intended to put straight males, that worry about HIV, more at ease.
            I really don’t think this is the place for your homophobic rants. Take that attitude somewhere else.

    • Mike Cernovich

      Banging a lot of girls is bad for society, too. Whatever. This isn’t Sunday church service. We’ve all heard these same arguments beaten to death, anyway. Sort of a boring discussion.

  • J J

    Thank you for you HONEST assessment of the situation and
    keeping it “one hundred”. One thing I
    would add about the “black women-HIV stats” that nobody talks about is that
    black women tend to have more sexual partners than other races. Just watch shows like the Maury show or Jerry
    Springer and you see that there are primarily black women who can’t even figure
    out who the father of their child is among 5, 6, 7 or sometimes 10 or more
    guys. Another thing is black women tend
    to have sex with the same group of guys.
    There are black men with literally 20 or 30 different baby mothers. That is the other reason why the stats are so

  • Tom Arrow

    Spotted a mistake, pointed out by a Youtube commenter:
    “2. Salvia or blood must come into contact with that open sore.”

    Vaginal fluids can carry the virus too:

    Also, the virus can enter through the urethra:

    Might want to get that “straight”. Will be much more fun to argue with idiots then.

  • VinceLin

    Guys actually have a higher infection rate during straight sex, 0.08% vs. 0.04% for females.

    The truth remains that its a serious disease and should be prevented, the danger of your post (pun intended) is that some straight guys raw dog it and think they’ll never get hiv and then they do even though the percentage is small

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  • Ilpalazzo

    Well.. shit.. I knew I was in the tiniest minority as a straight white male with aids.