When taking care of my 3-year-old god daughter, I learned a trick that works equally well on women.
My god daughter would throw huge tantrums. She threw tantrums because they were effective attention-seeking behaviors. Her screams let to people trying to placate her.
People placate children not out of love, but out of weakness. They lack the emotional integrity to remain steadfast in the face of screams and tears. When a child is crying, even anger is beta.
When a child cries, a real man feels nothing – except, perhaps, amusement.
As my god daughter screamed and floundered on the floor like a violent fish pulled out of water, I pulled out my iPhone. As her parents took hundreds of pictures and videos of her, she knew what was going to happen next.
Her eyes opened widely. She got silent.
“No, no, please continue. I want to take a video of your fit, so I can show it to everyone.”
She lost it, and started screaming again. According to my iPhone timer, she flailed, yelled, and rolled for two minutes and thirty-one seconds.
She sprinted to the bedroom, passed out from exhaustion, and never threw a fit around me again.
When your girl acts out, don’t get sucked in to a fight. Instead, take out your smart phone and start taking pictures. Tell her you want to post the pictures to Facebook.
Hold tightly to the phone, however, as she will violently grab for it. She may even claw at you – and throw punches.
When a girl comes at me violently, I use the gentle art of Jiu Jitsu. Pin her down. Apply pressure. Leave no marks.
Let her fight against your larger mass until she wears herself out.
Your girl will have fewer outbursts – not only because you’ve taught her that fits are ineffective, but because she will love you more.
A woman is a wave crashing against the rocks. A rock that doesn’t move contains and confines her will – rendering her helpless and therefore happy.