How to Choke a Woman During Sex

Women enjoy being choked during sex. It turns them on and gives them more powerful orgasms. But as a man you have to know the right way to choke a woman. Try these rough sex techniques in and outside of the bedroom and you will have a much better sex life. (P.S. Don’t forget to use sex pillows to get deeper penetration during sex.)

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Why do women enjoy being choked during sex?

Choking works because it’s a show of dominance. More than anything a woman wants an alpha male. (Read: How to be a More Dominant Man.)

All those who would deny reality need only look at sales figures for Fifty Shades of Grey. (“The series has sold over 90 million copies worldwide and been translated into 52 languages, and set the record as the fastest-selling paperback of all time.”)

The number one sexual fantasy have is a rape fantasy. Nearly 40% of women have a rape fantasy. Several sex therapists and psychologists have studied this phenomena:

From 1973 through 2008, nine surveys of women’s rape fantasies have been published. They show that about four in 10 women admit having them (31 to 57 percent) with a median frequency of about once a month. Actual prevalence of rape fantasies is probably higher because women may not feel comfortable admitting them.

Of course no girl wants to be wolf packed on the D.C. Metro or beaten up. Yet nearly ever romance novels consider healthy does of a woman being taken against her will. The key is that she is taken against her will by a dominant man.

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Given the prevalence of the rape fantasy and the desire women have to be dominated, it only makes sense to learn how to properly choke a woman.

“You look like the kind of girl who enjoys being choked,” I told a girl who I was gaming at a bar. She smiled, “How could you tell?”

I immediately pinned her back against the wall. I pressed my body against hers, put my hand around her neck, and began squeezing – gently at first to make sure she was comfortable with what was happening. Then I gave her a nice hard squeeze as a show of strength.

One hour later, I was hooking up with her in the back seat of her car. Two hours later, she was enjoying rough sex in my bedroom.

How do you choke a woman during sex?

To get good at choking a woman during sex, you need to learn some technique. Most guys clumsily put their hands around a girl’s neck and then press against her windpipe a girls. That’s not erotic. That just hurts.

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Instead, you must go for the carotid artery, which are the two lines veins on either side of the neck. When you squeeze the carotid artery, the girl shouldn’t cough, as you hands are not on her wind pipe.

The carotid arteries (on either side of the neck) carry oxygen-rich blood from the heart to the brain. When these are compressed, as in strangulation or hanging, the sudden loss of oxygen to the brain and the accumulation of carbon dioxide can increase feelings of giddiness, lightheadness, and pleasure, all of which will heighten masturbatory sensations.

Once you’ve cut off oxygen to her brain, she has about 3-5 seconds before passing out. During these three to five seconds, her sexual pleasure will increase immeasurably. (Some women enjoy being choked out unconscious, though that technique is for advanced users only.)

At the bar, I covered the girl’s neck with my had, but I squeezed with my thumb and fingers. The “webbed” part of my hand didn’t move forward to her neck. To time the squeeze, say in your head, “Squeeze, release.” Once you’ve finished saying, “Squeeze, release” to yourself, let go.

As you choke more women, you’ll learn how to time it better. Plus, tastes differ. Some women enjoy a light squeeze where as other girls enjoy being choked unconscious. As with all forms of dominance play, start off slowly and work you way toward the kinkier stuff.

I like choking a woman right up until her eyes almost go lifeless. Women also love this. Once the life returns to her, it’s as if she came back from the other side.

Sex becomes more than a physical act. It becomes a sublime act of submission. Her orgasm is an out of body experience.

I’ve also choked women unconscious. It’s no cause for alarm. She’ll be fine once you release the pressure from her carotid arteries, thus allowing blood flow to return to her brain.

You should also choke your girl when standing around. Consider it a public display of affection with a dominance twist – “choke PDA,” if you will. When she acts up, stand behind her.

Apply pressure to her carotid arteries by squeezing your biceps – like doing a one-half rear naked choke.

Once you start choking women, you’ll be addicted. Women love it, too.

Choking is also a useful indicator of your strength as a man. If you are an alpha male, a woman will crave your domination and show of strength.

If women do not regularly let you choke them, your game is weak. You are giving off a weak, beta male vibe and are lucky to be getting any sex at all.

Have fun, but be careful.

Read next: How to Have Rough Sex; and How to Use Sex Pillows.

  • Chad Daring

    This was actually very informative. I’ve been with more then a few girls who weren’t afraid to ask me to choke them, and usually did go go windpipe heavy which, as you said, isn’t sexy. I’m gonna try this on NYE

    • WTL

      What type of woman-throat do you love ? Skinny or a bit fluffy ? What about the nice ornamented throats with venus rings ?

  • Rivelino

    “To get good at choking, you need to have good technique. Most guys ram their hands on a girls windpipe. That’s not erotic.”

    good to know!

    on the sides, not the front.

    • Mike

      Yeah, I usually hold them down this way toward the end. They start bucking around when they get off, and grabbing them by the throat not only sends them over the edge, it holds them steady while I finish in them.

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  • Kane

    I found the girls with the most serious issues had the strongest desire to be choked. Girls without father figures or with weak fathers were usually very happy to be choked and slapped. Feminists of course love being choked.

    • Grabmebaby

      That’s funny. I am a feminist and I do love being choked. I’m a women

      • Danger & Play

        I’ve never met a feminist who doesn’t like being choked/rough sex.

        • grabmebaby

          why do those two qualities go hand in hand though? haha im confused by my own actions. Trying to figure out why I like such rough sex.

          • Chickadee

            That’s really funny, because I am a ‘feminist’ and I hate being choked. It freaks me out and makes me angry. Granted, I’m not opposed to choking others if they like it, it’s just something I can’t stand. If someone were to try to choke me I would probably leave then and there. I hate the ‘male dominance’ idea. It’s based on the person, not the gender. I’m a very dominant female.

  • Brian

    This is an awesome article. I have never met a woman that didn’t respond well to choking. I’d usually just put my hands around the neck and clench gently so she could still breathe, but felt that I COULD choke her if I wanted to. The artery thing is a great insight – will apply in the future.

    I think the underlying principle here is being a guy that COULD be dangerous, but you are actually really passionate about her and this contrast is exhilarating to women.

  • Rivelino

    “If women do not regularly let you choke them, your game is weak. You are giving off a weak, vagina-drying vibe.”

    excellent point at the end.

    also, carotid artery diagram:

  • flyfreshandyoung

    Your belt can also be pretty handy for choking when you’re doing doggy. Used to do that a lot with the ex, things got ridiculous on occasion

    • uh (@uppity_goy)

      Yea mon. Nothing like a leather strap up to the buckle ’round a slender girl’s neck as you yank it to from behind.

      Article’s a little weird in sum, but completely right.

    • Bronan the Barbarian!

      D & P – Great article. I like the way you think.

      FFY – Never thought of using a belt. Seems like it’d be too easy to get the windpipe choke and not the blood choke using a belt though.

      I had never tried choking a girl up until a couple of months ago. An old fuckbuddy was moving across the country and wanted me to send her off in style, so I thought to myself “I’m gonna try the craziest shit I can invent tonight.” Choked the shit out of her (the right way, out of pure luck). She asked me why we’d never fucked like that before. Added the technique into the repertoire after that night.

  • Rivelino


    damn that’s hard core.


  • nycbachelor

    Not worried about knocking her up? She keeps the kid, against your will, that’s 21 years of child support- which is what 25% mandatory?

    • dangerandplay

      Raw dogging is reckless. No, it’s really fucking stupid. But it feels good, man.

      I’m going to get a vasectomy, hopefully in 2012.

      • DdR

        If you haven’t gone under the knife yet, I would advise waiting a little while longer for this advancement:

        It appears that the first phase of clinical trials (rabbits) will be successful, after which it will go on to male participants, hopefully sometime in 2013. If you’re serious about a vasectomy, see if you can get on trial’s list of participants. RISUG has been performed for decades in India with no harmful side effects and almost 100% rate of success.

  • nycbachelor

    I have a strict “if she has my phone number or real name I don’t bang her raw” rule. It’s too risky- I’m not going to be any bitch’s financial slave for two decades.

    If its a random one night stand hoe that has no information on me- I’m more likely then not to raw dog and blast inside her….. needless to say she does not get my real name or phone number after said encounter.

    Zero dollars owed in child support thus far.

    • Jyo

      That’s fuckin genius, maybe since you raw dawg inside chicks u don’t know instead of worrying about kids u get to worry bout herpes instead, fair trade

    • F Burns

      You don’t want children or to pay child support, but you insinuate that you would have unprotected sex with a woman, knowing sex without protection is guarantee of pregnancy?

      I don’t understand the logic here.

      If you don’t want children and definitely don’t want to pay child support, get a vasectomy and or use condoms. Make sure you use the condoms correctly. Sex education exists for a reason–so people can have safe, consensual and enjoyable sex with as little consequence as possible.

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  • Jean-Luc Legame

    This post is amazing. I am going to give this a shot and see how the old lady responds.

  • H

    I enjoy choking my wife against the wall. Like randomly when she’s putting away groceries. Look into her eyes, psychopath style, then kiss her. What he’s describing is a blood-choke or strangle and girls do indeed love it.

    • Teresa

      I think i love u

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  • Lydia

    Take out the part about women wanting to be raped, and add in a little spell check.. and your site is unfortunately very informative….

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  • Gregory Scott

    Its very heartening to know that you shits have a place to swap trade secrets! Work on those fuck-head skills— the rest of us are very proud of you for learning how to read.

  • Wicky

    WEll the lesbian girls like do it as well, –
    so far i seen few their art shows at the website, like that one under…

  • abby

    So I’m a chic, obviously and I was looking actually how to choke my boyfriend cause he wanted to try it and I never really thought about how before, I just told him to choke me and he did… now that I do think about it though its the full blown choke of the whole neck like wind pipe and the veins on the side of my throat bulge its awesome!!! We did it in front of a mirror once it was a whole long thing, acted out which was the best, loved it but just thought I’d let you know I like it with the wind pipe. You can use a belt or a rope.

    PS. watch Filth (with James McAvoy) there’s some great choke scenes in it and its just a really good movie!

  • RP0607

    Very informative. I usually choke my wife when we have sex but just a little. I usually press very lightly but sometimes a bit harder. No matter who is on top. Sh does the same to me as well, feels really good actually.

  • RP0607

    Very informative but already knew not to push on the windpipe. My wife loves it when I choke her and no matter who is on top. She does the same to me occasionally and its quite pleasurable as well.

  • Brad Holiday

    Hey man,

    Awesome article LOL! Really go into depth and thats an awesome tip to focus on the arteries on the side of the neck rather than the windpipe…

    Sexual Jiu Jitsu!

    I think it should briefly be mentioned that there are girls who dislike being choked and roughhoused generally speaking when they are sober… regardless of whether you look like you lift and are alpha or not.

    It is always wise to test the waters of how much she is willing to put up with before fully committing to any one thing that may rip off an emotional scab. :D



  • Ryan

    Yeah good article man, the part about the windpipe and the cartoid artery is new to me, gotta try it next time for sure.

  • Sandy Perry

    Choke is great done rite

  • F Burns

    I wonder if there are men who would enjoy being choked to the point of near-death… I always wanted to try that on a guy.

    • dominicscarlatti

      I’d love it.

  • Devyn

    Please do not stop writing things like this. This has helped mine & my boyfriends sex life so much.