How Narcissism Hurts Your Game

Although happy to help guys with their game, there is one group I will not work with under any circumstances. I will not work with narcissists.

When we think of narcissists, we tend to think of Christian Bale’s character in American Psycho. We imagine attractive, self-absorbed men who spend too much time in the tanning booth and gym. In American society, however, even losers are narcissists.

A narcissist starts and ends with the same premise and conclusion: “I am special.” Sometimes the narcissist has achieved success in some other field, and so is, in a sense, special. Usually the narcissist is just like the rest of us.

You can’t help a narcissist, because whatever you say, they’ll respond with, “That may work for other guys. But for me…” I have some bad news for you guys.

Are you sitting around, wanting to have sex with more women? Do you wish your lays were more beautiful? Do you wish that one special girl would be all yours?

Congrats, you’re a winner. Like every other guy, you think you’re special. And like every other guy, you are wrong.

You are not special. You are like the three billion other humans out there who have dicks. You want more pussy, and you want better pussy.

Instead of objecting to every game idea because it won’t work for me, or I’m too cool to use an indirect opener or pea cock: Shut the fuck up.

Learn from the guys who came before you. I guarantee you have more in common with the guys writing game blogs than with Christian Bale, and so it’d make much more sense to remember that you’re just like everyone else (and that’s OK).

  • johnnymilfquest

    It wasn’t until I got on the internet back in 2001 that I discovered just how run-of-the-mill I was. How the world is absolutely chock full of men like me.

    I didn’t find it depressing. I found it liberating.


  • samseau

    Roissy says to be narcissistic, but I’ve found that narcissim kills my game faster than anything else.

    It usually goes like this:

    – Score a bunch of new lays
    – Feel like I’m invincible
    – Start fucking up all my relationships with arrogant attitudes
    – Go back to having nothing
    – Be humbled
    – Score a bunch of new lays…

    Being humble gets me more pussy than anything else. You don’t have to be a pushover, but you shouldn’t feel superior to the women you are dating either.

  • xsplat

    I believe in the utility of a type of narcissism. Where there is an accurate self assessment of superiority, that arrogance is justified confidence.

    Of course for reasons of not ruffling jealous feathers, preening must be moderated. But feeling superior is a good thing. If you are.

    • Tom Arrow

      Absolutely agree. But justified superiority is exactly what narcissism is not.
      Which is: A curse, really. I’ve written an article about my own experience which may be of interest to those who struggle with it themselves:

      I consider narcissism to be a form of conditioned laziness. A narcissist has the same fantasies of greatness that everybody has. Why else does culture throughout history propagate heroism?

      The problem is that a narcissist does not know how to bring this greatness into reality, therefore he resorts to imitation and keeps himself satisfied as long as people tell him he is greater than he really knows he is.

      Once upon a time I started out editing videos. I would upload them for feedback. And I would be terribly anxious to receive negative feedback. Why? Because I was a beginner and secretly knew it wasn’t any good. But I had just never learned that it is okay to be pathetic. That you can improve.