The Game Starts in Your Bedroom Mirror

Other than fornicating with beautiful women, I enjoy fighting. Game came to me easily, although I’m not a natural, because it’s essentially fighting. I was used to sizing men up, which is what women do, too.

I can tell, just by looking at guy, whether he will be a good fight. Some of this process is unconscious, but there are conscious factors present. Tattoos mean shit. Cauliflower ears mean everything. If the guy has a thick neck and deformed ears, he’ll want to pick you up and slam you on the cement. As a man, I thus know how to size up other men.

A woman, when looking at a man, knows whether he will be a good fuck. Some factors, such as a man’s vibe, pop, and swagger, are unconscious. Others factors are conscious. A woman wants to talk to and fornicate with interesting and mysterious men. How often do women think, “What’s his story?”

If you look boring, no woman will wonder about your story. You will disappear, like another entry in the Yellow Pages. If you look good, women will be curious. Female curiosity is easy to spot.

My game begins in the bathroom mirror. How do I look when leaving the house? Today I’m wearing a pair of canvas Vans (that girls always comment on), some stylish jeans, and a cardigan. I look good.

When stopping by Whole Foods for lunch, women will be checking me out. The teenage girls at the Coffee Bean will look at me self-consciously , fidgeting with their hair, crossing their legs at their ankles, and giggling.

I won’t have to blindly approach. Girls will invite me to talk to them. Guys talk about their close rates being in the 5-10% range. Mine is at least 25%. If I approach four girls, I’ll bang one of them.

We could thus get Zen, and say this: Your approach begins before you make your approach. When a woman sees, she should think, “I hope he comes over to me.”

My approach is how I look. It’s how I carry myself. Even if I were shorter and had a less good body, I’d still have individual style. Find another guy who looks like me. You won’t.

Before you leave the house, you should ask yourself: Why would any woman, just by looking at me, want to talk to me? Is there anything about the way I look that makes me more interested than every other middle manager?

Recognizing that the game starts before you leave your crib will double your close rate.

  • J. Holden

    I’m curious. How old are you? Also, what would realistic game expectations be for those men in their 40s and 50s? No one ever talks about that. I’m 39 and I just discovered game. So 40′ around the corner. But thanks to the Paleo Diet (DeVanny style) and Crossfit, I am in pretty damn good shape. But still, is it realistic to think that I can get girls 19-25? When I’m in my 40s should I focus on what? 28-36 year olds? At 40 do I still go to clubs? And where do I find wingmen? Most everyone I know my age is married.

    The logistics of this aren’t that easy.

    Great blog by the way.

    • http://dangerandplay.wordpress.com dangerandplay

      You’re as old as you look. Color your hair, or shave it if you’re receding. Moisturize. Use Botox. Dysport is having a special right now.

      If you pass as 33, then you’re 33.

      “How old are you?”
      “How old do you think I am?”

      After you’ve had the dialogue with 10 women, you’ll know how old you are.

      Roll solo.

      Run day game.

      Buy a motorcycle.

      Most importantly, stop agonizing over this shit. You’ve asked too many questions.

      Go outside, get your ass kicked, then ask specific questions about specific failures (or successes) 3 months from now.

      The rest is mental masturbation and an excuse to not move.

      I diagnose you with suffering acute voluntary paralysis by analysis.

      Go forth and be well.

      • J. Holden

        Good advice. Thanks.

        I diagnose you with suffering acute voluntary paralysis by analysis.

        Yeah. I got some of that. When you’ve been a beta up until your late 30s and then all of a sudden you’re exposed to information that turns your entire world upside down, its disorienting to say the least. Right now Game seems daunting but you’re right, baptism by fire is the only way to go.

    • Pizza Man

      Being 40 doesn’t mean a thing.

      Check this post at the Château:

      http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/10/31/five-minutes-of-alpha-2/

  • JoyStick

    solid advice.

  • http://rivelinoinspain.wordpress.com Rivelino

    “A woman, when looking at a man, knows whether he will be a good fuck. Some factors, such as a man’s vibe, pop, and swagger, are unconscious. Others factors are conscious. A woman wants to talk to and fornicate with interesting and mysterious men. How often do women think, “What’s his story?” ”

    fucking awesome.

    great insight.

  • burt

    ‘i enjoy fighting’ …a bit silly,but I still enjoy your blog.