I’m not sure how others use the term “lifestyle game,” and I don’t really care. To me, lifestyle game means creating a life for yourself that you allow worthy girls into.
That is, you don’t pretend to be someone else in order to meet a girl. Instead, you have an actual sense of self, and a well-defined lifestyle, that you allow suitable women to share with you.
I’ll give you a recent example.
My friend was digging a chick. The only debate is whether she’s an 8.5 or 9. Whatever the case, this is the kind of girl other men obsess over.
This chick is now totally in love with my boy. She experienced the lifestyle, and now she doesn’t want to leave. In fact, she’s terrified of being removed from the lifestyle.
On Friday she came over for grilled rib eye, artichokes (steamed then grilled), steamed vegetables, and mochi. She drank complex wine. We went out to a cool club, had some bottles of vodka, and woke up. Then we had an elegant brunch. Afterwards we strolled through the city, attending a street fair. Later we stopped for espresso.
We did nothing out of the ordinary for this new girl.
Whether or not she came over, we’d have grilled thick cuts of prime steak. We’d have gone out to a cool club. We’d have had brunch, and we’d have done some sort of cool activity. Nothing changed for her.
Now, look at how the game changes. One, there’s no way to screw up your game, since you’re not running game. You are simply doing what you always do. Your girl is coming over? Cool, I’ll make an extra plate.
Second, you create a lifestyle so awesome that a woman doesn’t want to leave it. If you’re a man who hits the weight room, likes to go out once a week, and drinks fine wine and eats good food, you’re going to find a lot of women willing to audition.
Third, you always have the lifestyle. Whether or not a chick comes over on Friday, I’m grilling steak and asparagus. I’ll be opening a bottle of wine. When your lifestyle as a man is awesome, you often view women as an unwelcome intrusion. Do I even want to invite a girl over?
When you hold yourself to high standards, you become picky, which women immediately sense. Often when I go out, I think, “All of these women are boring. I don’t want to share my steaks and wine with them. Can I imagine them on the couch, talking to my roommate? They will bore him, and they may even steal some art work. I’m not going to even talk to them.” Suddenly women are asking me why I’m “not having a good time.” They sense my superiority complex, and are horny to find out what’s behind it.
Fourth, what do you suppose it does for the girl’s princess complex shes realizes that she is walking into your lifestyle?
We don’t roll out the red carpet for them. We roll it out for ourselves.
If she’s lucky, she gets to walk down it with us.
Once you create the best version of yourself, you’ll find yourself rejecting more women than ever.
Read next: The Apex of Lifestyle Game.