A recent comment illustrates an approach to game that is different from mine.
In a post about how I meet women, the guy told me that I should be making more approaches:
But I disagree completely with no approaching. You may think you’re doing what you want by relying on your high value to draw women to you, but what is wrong with supplementing your success with many approaches to get women who are hotter than you would normally pull?
If I give off the impression of a man who never approaches, that’s a false one. I do make a reasonable number of approaches, though probably fewer than most men reading game sites. Let’s assume that according to a Platonic ideal, I don’t make enough approaches. Why don’t I approach more often?
Some men treat meeting women like a video game. You want to score points by getting numbers, making out, having notches, and collecting flags. That is perfectly cool, and that used to be me.
I remember the days when I used the lingo. I’d speak of “number closes” and “kiss closes.” Overcoming approach anxiety to approach an attractive woman in broad daylight, with an audience, was exuberating. The buzz was greater than any other intoxicant. I’d tell all of my friends.
I remember my first make-out session with a hot woman at a bar, the first time a girl gave me a hand job in a busy street while people tricked out of the Hemlock (causing the cops to approach us), and the first time a woman gave me a blow job in the back of a bar. I’ve fucked chicks in alleyways near popular bars, and finger-banged girls on dance floors. Some of stories seemed so incredible that even good friends didn’t believe me.
Meeting and banging lots of different women all the time is novel, and the novelty has worn off. Now my approach to meeting women is different.
Today my focus is on having regular sex with attractive women while not dealing with too much hassle, drama, or bullshit. For example, when a woman shit tests me, I usually blow her out rather than find a way to pass her test. In my experience, women who shit test you are bitches. I can play the game well enough to fuck her. But do I want to?
Forget that noise. On Friday I made one girl beg her friends to leave the bar after my response to her shit test. She had shit tested my attire, and so I made her question her self-worth and prophesied her future spinsterhood.
I remember reading one of Roosh’s posts on Twitter, where he noted lacing up his shoes felt like work. I remember the days of doing non-stop approaches. It was a great experience, and it’s something every man who wants to meet great women must do.
Now, though, I would rather live a lifestyle that attracts women who are down to fuck regularly rather than go out hunting all the time. I live a healthy lifestyle, and prefer sleeping, reading, and hanging out with my friends to collecting notches.
Obviously I am still interested in meeting more women, or having this blog and reading Day Bang would be a waste of time. My difference with many of you is measured in degrees rather than in kind. I would rather meet one or two really cool (or at least tolerable) girls whom I bang regularly for 3 months, than bang several new chicks each month. Yet, like you, I remain interested in meeting new, beautiful, and exciting women.
Using “lifestyle game,” I am able to get the sex I want with the women I want. Getting laid on a man’s terms the entire point of game. If you want to meet dozens of women, god bless you. That’s simply not where I am right now, and thus my game may differ from yours.